Am I wrong
So I have a friend (R) and she likes to copy me. Not in a cutesy way but every action I take she copies and if she can’t do something that I do then she tries to persuade me to be like her. (Eg: she’ll push for me to break up with my long term bf and tell me I should be embarrassed to be seen with him because she broke up with hers)
Recently I’ve applied to Oxford (open application) and I’ve had my heart set on it.
She also did the exact same. And then copied 3 more of my uni choices after I’d explicitly talked about them.
She made Oxford her entire personality and every single conversation with her is centred around it. (She’s only become interested after I’ve wanted to apply)
I mean that’s fine but she’s really condescending about it and she’s gotten assigned a rlly good college whereas mine isn’t as great. And she got her invite to interview today.
She’s been rlly condescending and fake to me, saying things like “there’s other options out there if YOU don’t get into Oxford” or “it’s not the end of the world when you don’t get in” or “there’s better paths out there for you”.
Keep in mind that I applied first (with better grades but to a much more competitive course) and I haven’t gotten an invite to interview yet but she’s treating it like I’ve been rejected.
I also said that I might not wanna go to uni and do a degree apprenticeship that I’ve got my heart set on. She was quite pitying on the fact that I wouldn’t be going to uni. (This apprenticeship is with a company I LOVE and it’s starting salary is 49k and provides the equivalent of a masters fully paid for…)
She treats apprenticeships like second choices and looks down on me because I’m considering one
I feel like I’m going crazy tbh. Am I wrong?
I sometimes don’t wanna tell her stuff as I want to be my own individual person with my own life without it being criticised or copied constantly
Recently I’ve applied to Oxford (open application) and I’ve had my heart set on it.
She also did the exact same. And then copied 3 more of my uni choices after I’d explicitly talked about them.
She made Oxford her entire personality and every single conversation with her is centred around it. (She’s only become interested after I’ve wanted to apply)
I mean that’s fine but she’s really condescending about it and she’s gotten assigned a rlly good college whereas mine isn’t as great. And she got her invite to interview today.
She’s been rlly condescending and fake to me, saying things like “there’s other options out there if YOU don’t get into Oxford” or “it’s not the end of the world when you don’t get in” or “there’s better paths out there for you”.
Keep in mind that I applied first (with better grades but to a much more competitive course) and I haven’t gotten an invite to interview yet but she’s treating it like I’ve been rejected.
I also said that I might not wanna go to uni and do a degree apprenticeship that I’ve got my heart set on. She was quite pitying on the fact that I wouldn’t be going to uni. (This apprenticeship is with a company I LOVE and it’s starting salary is 49k and provides the equivalent of a masters fully paid for…)
She treats apprenticeships like second choices and looks down on me because I’m considering one
I feel like I’m going crazy tbh. Am I wrong?
I sometimes don’t wanna tell her stuff as I want to be my own individual person with my own life without it being criticised or copied constantly
Reply 1
i feel like friendships like these are so sooo draining, you want a friend to be happy for you that you want to go to Oxford and support your decisions of an apprenticeship. Everyone knows apprenticeships are not a second choice - the way she's speaking about it to you is just putting you down and thats not what real friends do to each other. Also pushing you to break up with your boyfriend just coz she broke up with hers is soo weird - if she was your friend and wanted whats best for you i feel like she should support your relationships and be happy for u.
If even you can tell she's being condescending and fake and with everything you've said that she does, then surely she has to have some sort of secret animosity towards you because good friendships are meant to be there for you to both build each other up not for her to be constantly copying you, being jealous of you and bringing you down.
If even you can tell she's being condescending and fake and with everything you've said that she does, then surely she has to have some sort of secret animosity towards you because good friendships are meant to be there for you to both build each other up not for her to be constantly copying you, being jealous of you and bringing you down.
Reply 2
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by Anonymousi feel like friendships like these are so sooo draining, you want a friend to be happy for you that you want to go to Oxford and support your decisions of an apprenticeship. Everyone knows apprenticeships are not a second choice - the way she's speaking about it to you is just putting you down and thats not what real friends do to each other. Also pushing you to break up with your boyfriend just coz she broke up with hers is soo weird - if she was your friend and wanted whats best for you i feel like she should support your relationships and be happy for u.
If even you can tell she's being condescending and fake and with everything you've said that she does, then surely she has to have some sort of secret animosity towards you because good friendships are meant to be there for you to both build each other up not for her to be constantly copying you, being jealous of you and bringing you down.
If even you can tell she's being condescending and fake and with everything you've said that she does, then surely she has to have some sort of secret animosity towards you because good friendships are meant to be there for you to both build each other up not for her to be constantly copying you, being jealous of you and bringing you down.
Yeah honestly I just want my friend to be proud of me and have her own life, not just copy me yk 😭
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