How to help my daughter: needs timeout from uni?

My daughter is about to come home after a very tough year at university. She's recently been diagnosed with complex PTSD, ADHD, and depression, and hasn't had much help from staff—some have made things worse with their comments/behaviour. She's considering a study break or withdrawal. Has anyone been through this, taken a break, or had better university support? What worked best, and how should we approach the university about this? Any advice from parents or students really appreciated! 😊

Reply 1

BCU Student Rep

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by Anonymous

My daughter is about to come home after a very tough year at university. She's recently been diagnosed with complex PTSD, ADHD, and depression, and hasn't had much help from staff—some have made things worse with their comments/behaviour. She's considering a study break or withdrawal. Has anyone been through this, taken a break, or had better university support? What worked best, and how should we approach the university about this? Any advice from parents or students really appreciated! 😊

Hi @Anonymous

I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is going through such a tough time. Whilst I have not experienced this situation, I am aware of a few people that have been in a similar situation. I would recommend:

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Contact the university's well-being team if you have not already. They should be able to offer some support and direct your daughter to external services where she can get additional support.

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Contact your daughter's personal tutor, if she has one. The personal tutor should be able to signpost your daughter to support and also explain her options regarding deferring for a year. It will also be good for the university to be aware of the situation in case she needs to apply for extenuating circumstances for any assignments.

I hope that helps and things start to look up for your daughter.

Sophie.
BCU Student Rep.

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Kingston Sarah

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by Anonymous

My daughter is about to come home after a very tough year at university. She's recently been diagnosed with complex PTSD, ADHD, and depression, and hasn't had much help from staff—some have made things worse with their comments/behaviour. She's considering a study break or withdrawal. Has anyone been through this, taken a break, or had better university support? What worked best, and how should we approach the university about this? Any advice from parents or students really appreciated! 😊

Hello,

I am really sorry your daughter is going through this. As per the above comment, the university's wellbeing team will be able to accommodate and support her. There's plenty of accommodation that can help her like giving some additional time during exams and submission extensions where (if she suddenly starts struggling) she can extend her due submission date. See what type of support is available to her before taking a year out or withdrawing.

All the best
-Sarah (Kingston Rep)

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ARUStudents

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by Anonymous

My daughter is about to come home after a very tough year at university. She's recently been diagnosed with complex PTSD, ADHD, and depression, and hasn't had much help from staff—some have made things worse with their comments/behaviour. She's considering a study break or withdrawal. Has anyone been through this, taken a break, or had better university support? What worked best, and how should we approach the university about this? Any advice from parents or students really appreciated! 😊

Hello,

I am very sorry to hear about this situation, I really hope things improve for your daughter.

If staff have made comments towards her that you consider inappropriate or unhelpful then you may be able to file a formal complaint about this.

Are there any additional support services available for your daughter? She may be eligible for extended deadlines and extra support through them if you get in touch.

If she has a personal development tutor then it may be of use to speak to them so they can understand her situation and better support her through this.

Leela- ARU student

(edited 3 months ago)

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Admit-One

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This would usually start with a conversation with a personal tutor - they can signpost to relevant support and then advise on temporary withdrawal options. Obviously if they started with their tutor and it was their comments that didn't help then that might be more difficult. In that case either wellbeing services or the student union might be helpful contact points.

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