Guys I need boy advice pls

I’ve been on and off with this guy over 3 years and it ALWAYS ends the same, we meet up and it gets awkward after a while so we just go home. A couple of weeks ago this happened again but this time he kissed me and it ended differently for once, this is the furthest we’ve ever got together. We went out shopping together and was holding hands and doing all this cute stuff but then when we get home he acts SO uninterested. We also had a weird conversation about this. He said there was a situation that he could look past but his family couldn’t, it was about my name. His family have had complications with someone with the same name as me and apparently they hate her and when he told his parents about me they acted weird but he will speak to them. I thought this was so weird but I just need someone else’s opinion on what to do with this guy.

change your name? obviously your name triggers him so

I’ve been on and off with this guy over 3 years and it ALWAYS ends the same, we meet up and it gets awkward after a while so we just go home. A couple of weeks ago this happened again but this time he kissed me and it ended differently for once, this is the furthest we’ve ever got together. We went out shopping together and was holding hands and doing all this cute stuff but then when we get home he acts SO uninterested. We also had a weird conversation about this. He said there was a situation that he could look past but his family couldn’t, it was about my name. His family have had complications with someone with the same name as me and apparently they hate her and when he told his parents about me they acted weird but he will speak to them. I thought this was so weird but I just need someone else’s opinion on what to do with this guy.

So is this a weird situationship? I think it will just be better to let go at this point.

It’s so difficult this has been on and off for THREE years

It sounds like calling it on and off is a little generous. Reading between the lines, very little seems to have actually happened in that time. His family being wary of you because of your name is absolutely ridiculous, and him refusing to commit to you and/or keeping his distance because of that means it's very difficult to see any sort of sustained relationship here, let alone an actual future. I don't see a reason why you wouldn't just leave this alone and move on. It can't be giving you what you want.

Doesn't sound worth the time tbh. what exactly do you get out of this non relationship?

free food

damn let me be a part of this situationship too

honestly

But are you seriously invested in this guy. Like your mood depends on him and you’re giving a lot of your time to focus on him. I feel like if you’re still focused on the people who are being consistent and also on your passions, then this isn’t that bad.

yes i genuinely like this boy and i want to make whatever we have work

But do you communicate this clearly!though?

yea he just asked to be my boyfriend…

girl you’re using this man for free food 😭

I’ve been on and off with this guy over 3 years and it ALWAYS ends the same, we meet up and it gets awkward after a while so we just go home. A couple of weeks ago this happened again but this time he kissed me and it ended differently for once, this is the furthest we’ve ever got together. We went out shopping together and was holding hands and doing all this cute stuff but then when we get home he acts SO uninterested. We also had a weird conversation about this. He said there was a situation that he could look past but his family couldn’t, it was about my name. His family have had complications with someone with the same name as me and apparently they hate her and when he told his parents about me they acted weird but he will speak to them. I thought this was so weird but I just need someone else’s opinion on what to do with this guy.

I’ve been on and off with this guy over 3 years and it ALWAYS ends the same, we meet up and it gets awkward after a while so we just go home. A couple of weeks ago this happened again but this time he kissed me and it ended differently for once, this is the furthest we’ve ever got together. We went out shopping together and was holding hands and doing all this cute stuff but then when we get home he acts SO uninterested. We also had a weird conversation about this. He said there was a situation that he could look past but his family couldn’t, it was about my name. His family have had complications with someone with the same name as me and apparently they hate her and when he told his parents about me they acted weird but he will speak to them. I thought this was so weird but I just need someone else’s opinion on what to do with this guy.

I’ve been on and off with this guy over 3 years and it ALWAYS ends the same, we meet up and it gets awkward after a while so we just go home. A couple of weeks ago this happened again but this time he kissed me and it ended differently for once, this is the furthest we’ve ever got together. We went out shopping together and was holding hands and doing all this cute stuff but then when we get home he acts SO uninterested. We also had a weird conversation about this. He said there was a situation that he could look past but his family couldn’t, it was about my name. His family have had complications with someone with the same name as me and apparently they hate her and when he told his parents about me they acted weird but he will speak to them. I thought this was so weird but I just need someone else’s opinion on what to do with this guy.