Dropping out
I'm a 1st year at uni and I'm seriously considering dropping out. I have anxiety so making friends is difficult but I've tried to put myself out there and I'm getting nothing in return. I'm also having serious doubts about my course, idk if it's just I've not adapted to the change or I hate my course or that I find it hard so I hate it. My modules aren't what I would've really wanted but the 2nd year ones are somewhat better but still focus on topic areas I don't like but 3rd year seems best for that.
I'm genuinely miserable everyday and I barely eat and sleep and uni support is abysmal. I know everyone says to keep sticking it out but I'm worried at the financial side of it and the fact it might not get better. P.S idk what career I want so my degree isn't necessarily important for that but I know it might limit my options especially as I'm considering teaching.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
I'm genuinely miserable everyday and I barely eat and sleep and uni support is abysmal. I know everyone says to keep sticking it out but I'm worried at the financial side of it and the fact it might not get better. P.S idk what career I want so my degree isn't necessarily important for that but I know it might limit my options especially as I'm considering teaching.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
Reply 1
Sorry to hear this.
There are a lot of student reps on here who could give you advice. I would personally reach out to you tutor or mental health support advisor and have a chat with them about how you're feeling.
Once you've talked it out, you may have a clearer idea about what you want to do and you may find you're anxiety will settle down a little. Have you spoken to your parents at all and see what they can help you with?
All the best to you.
There are a lot of student reps on here who could give you advice. I would personally reach out to you tutor or mental health support advisor and have a chat with them about how you're feeling.
Once you've talked it out, you may have a clearer idea about what you want to do and you may find you're anxiety will settle down a little. Have you spoken to your parents at all and see what they can help you with?
All the best to you.
Reply 2
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by AnonymousI'm a 1st year at uni and I'm seriously considering dropping out. I have anxiety so making friends is difficult but I've tried to put myself out there and I'm getting nothing in return. I'm also having serious doubts about my course, idk if it's just I've not adapted to the change or I hate my course or that I find it hard so I hate it. My modules aren't what I would've really wanted but the 2nd year ones are somewhat better but still focus on topic areas I don't like but 3rd year seems best for that.
I'm genuinely miserable everyday and I barely eat and sleep and uni support is abysmal. I know everyone says to keep sticking it out but I'm worried at the financial side of it and the fact it might not get better. P.S idk what career I want so my degree isn't necessarily important for that but I know it might limit my options especially as I'm considering teaching.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
I'm genuinely miserable everyday and I barely eat and sleep and uni support is abysmal. I know everyone says to keep sticking it out but I'm worried at the financial side of it and the fact it might not get better. P.S idk what career I want so my degree isn't necessarily important for that but I know it might limit my options especially as I'm considering teaching.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling like this but know that you aren't alone in this. There will be many students who are taking a little longer to adjust but that's fine, we are all different. Have you spoke to any tutors or support teams at the university? I do recommend this as you may get questions or things to think about that you may not have through of yourself. The teams are there to support with things like this and have experience in doing so. Speaking about thinks then makes it more clear and easier to make your mind up.
Your mental health is very important so if dropping out and reconsidering your options is what you need to do then do it. Only you know deep down what is the right thing for you to do. You could always look to start another course next year, research the modules and make sure it's the right course. You could see about deferring or swapping courses. There are other options for you.
Hope this helps and you make the best decision for yourself 🙂
^Zac
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Contact your Personal Tutor or similar, or Student Support / Wellbeing - this is exactly what they are there for, and they will know how to help.
Reply 4
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by AnonymousSorry to hear this.
There are a lot of student reps on here who could give you advice. I would personally reach out to you tutor or mental health support advisor and have a chat with them about how you're feeling.
Once you've talked it out, you may have a clearer idea about what you want to do and you may find you're anxiety will settle down a little. Have you spoken to your parents at all and see what they can help you with?
All the best to you.
There are a lot of student reps on here who could give you advice. I would personally reach out to you tutor or mental health support advisor and have a chat with them about how you're feeling.
Once you've talked it out, you may have a clearer idea about what you want to do and you may find you're anxiety will settle down a little. Have you spoken to your parents at all and see what they can help you with?
All the best to you.
I have tried speak to the support officer but she told me everyone is stressed even though I said it's affecting me physically she told me that was normal and sleepless nights are okay... My parents think I should leave because I'm so miserable but as a first gen I really don't want to give up on an opportunity that they never had and I'm causing them stress with how upset I am constantly. Thank you for your best wishes tho!
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by AnonymousI'm a 1st year at uni and I'm seriously considering dropping out. I have anxiety so making friends is difficult but I've tried to put myself out there and I'm getting nothing in return. I'm also having serious doubts about my course, idk if it's just I've not adapted to the change or I hate my course or that I find it hard so I hate it. My modules aren't what I would've really wanted but the 2nd year ones are somewhat better but still focus on topic areas I don't like but 3rd year seems best for that.
I'm genuinely miserable everyday and I barely eat and sleep and uni support is abysmal. I know everyone says to keep sticking it out but I'm worried at the financial side of it and the fact it might not get better. P.S idk what career I want so my degree isn't necessarily important for that but I know it might limit my options especially as I'm considering teaching.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
I'm genuinely miserable everyday and I barely eat and sleep and uni support is abysmal. I know everyone says to keep sticking it out but I'm worried at the financial side of it and the fact it might not get better. P.S idk what career I want so my degree isn't necessarily important for that but I know it might limit my options especially as I'm considering teaching.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
Hi there,
I am sorry that you have been feeling this way and I completely understand that this is a stressful position to be in.
I would say the best thing to do is to talk to people at your uni about it. Do you have an academic advisor or personal tutor? If so, they would be a good team of people to talk to as they will have seen lots of people in the same position as you so will know what kind of things to say and advise. It is worth having a look, or you could chat to a general student support advisor as again they will likely have seen lots of people in the same position and will have some good advice for you.
To me, it seems like it might be worth sticking it out if you like the sound of second year better, but as you said there is the financial aspect to consider so it is really up to you whether you want to try this. What I would say though is that it is better to try than to regret it and want to go back to uni as this will cost more in the long run.
Talking to your friends and family is a good idea too as they know you the best and will be able to guide you to what is right for you.
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Reply 6
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by AnonymousI have tried speak to the support officer but she told me everyone is stressed even though I said it's affecting me physically she told me that was normal and sleepless nights are okay... My parents think I should leave because I'm so miserable but as a first gen I really don't want to give up on an opportunity that they never had and I'm causing them stress with how upset I am constantly. Thank you for your best wishes tho!
The student officer sounds unhelpful and she should not be generalising that all students are stressed because your stress could be different. I agree with your parents - don’t be worried about letting them down because you are their daughter and it would worry them if you stayed at university where you are unhappy.
A good start would be to write down what is bothering you at university and write down possible solutions. Also notice how long you have been unhappy because this will tell you if this will be a long term issue or a short term one. Seeing it on paper will help you see where the isssue lies and you can discuss this with your parents and come up with a new way going forward so you are happier and they will be happy.
It is also worth talking to your academic tutor in the meantime so they are aware of your struggles and could accommodate your learning or work to make things easier for you until you feel settled.
Universities have thousands of students to deal with, so it is a good idea to talk to your parents and keep them involved in case the university don't help the way you want them to. But for now, its a good idea to find solutions with your parents and see what works for you. I really hope you find a positive way forward.
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