Anyone gone through this

So I’ve been friends with this person a year. At first I thought omg there so nice and genuine cause that’s how they showed themselves to me at first but recently these past months I’ve started to release how mean and two faced they are too me and others and one thing that really irritates me is the copying ok so ik the difference in having things in common with people but this “friend” of mine is getting to the point where if I like something either it be a passion of mines a person or whatever all of sudden there obsessed with that too! it’s clear as day there copying not to mention how rude they are etc etc like there things I’ve loved that they’ve talked **** about and laughed at me for but then all of a sudden they decide to copy me an act like a know it all and I just don’t know how to call them out especially when they think there the “shit” and are rude asf towards people. I’d try to leave this friendship but I’m friends with people they know and I don’t wanna lose them. Help

Reply 1

Kuriknowsbest98

17

Hey, I went through something similar back in Year 7–8. There was a girl who copied me all the time and even stole from me, but I still cared about her so much. The best thing you can do is take a small step back from them without turning it into a big confrontation. You don’t need to “call them out” directly if that feels stressful just stop sharing as much personal stuff with them and try to put a bit of distance in naturally.
If they’re rude or mocking, you can set very simple boundaries like “I don’t appreciate that” or “please don’t talk about me like that,” but you don’t have to get into an argument. Most people like this back off when you stop giving them access to your reactions. And you don’t have to lose your other friendships either you can stay friendly with the group while not being as close to this one person. Slowly creating space usually works better than a dramatic fallout.
In the long run, you’ll feel a lot better around people who actually respect you, and distancing yourself lets you keep your social circle without staying stuck in a friendship that feels draining.

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Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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by Kuriknowsbest98

Hey, I went through something similar back in Year 7–8. There was a girl who copied me all the time and even stole from me, but I still cared about her so much. The best thing you can do is take a small step back from them without turning it into a big confrontation. You don’t need to “call them out” directly if that feels stressful just stop sharing as much personal stuff with them and try to put a bit of distance in naturally.
If they’re rude or mocking, you can set very simple boundaries like “I don’t appreciate that” or “please don’t talk about me like that,” but you don’t have to get into an argument. Most people like this back off when you stop giving them access to your reactions. And you don’t have to lose your other friendships either you can stay friendly with the group while not being as close to this one person. Slowly creating space usually works better than a dramatic fallout.
In the long run, you’ll feel a lot better around people who actually respect you, and distancing yourself lets you keep your social circle without staying stuck in a friendship that feels draining.

Thank you this has been very helpful

Reply 3

Kuriknowsbest98

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by Anonymous

Thank you this has been very helpful

Of course!

Reply 4

quantfinancenerd

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Honestly don't worry about leaving them, there's still other people out there and you shouldn't have to tolerate anything that you're not comfortable with. All the best, qfn :smile:

Reply 5

Dfogofroeosoap

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by Kuriknowsbest98

Hey, I went through something similar back in Year 7–8. There was a girl who copied me all the time and even stole from me, but I still cared about her so much. The best thing you can do is take a small step back from them without turning it into a big confrontation. You don’t need to “call them out” directly if that feels stressful just stop sharing as much personal stuff with them and try to put a bit of distance in naturally.
If they’re rude or mocking, you can set very simple boundaries like “I don’t appreciate that” or “please don’t talk about me like that,” but you don’t have to get into an argument. Most people like this back off when you stop giving them access to your reactions. And you don’t have to lose your other friendships either you can stay friendly with the group while not being as close to this one person. Slowly creating space usually works better than a dramatic fallout.
In the long run, you’ll feel a lot better around people who actually respect you, and distancing yourself lets you keep your social circle without staying stuck in a friendship that feels draining.

You could ask her if you’ve done anything wrong next time she’s rude to you. If she can’t reply, she’ll realise it’s her and maybe then she’ll stop being so rude. Idk but hope you get it sorted out, maybe distance yourself if that doesn’t work. Make sure not to get too bothered by it though because in my experience it just fuels them if you get annoyed or act in a way that could be considered “overreacting”

Reply 6

Kuriknowsbest98

17

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by Dfogofroeosoap

You could ask her if you’ve done anything wrong next time she’s rude to you. If she can’t reply, she’ll realise it’s her and maybe then she’ll stop being so rude. Idk but hope you get it sorted out, maybe distance yourself if that doesn’t work. Make sure not to get too bothered by it though because in my experience it just fuels them if you get annoyed or act in a way that could be considered “overreacting”