Family are against me wanting todo own thing
I honestly cannot wait till NEXT YEAR, when I will move out of the family house and do my own thing as I please!!! Earlier this year, I’ve been wanting to live a healthier lifestyle by eating right and exercising at the gym, what I thought would be a good thing todo for oneself mentally, physically and emotionally. However, my family think my decision of going to the gym in the morning before work (6-7am) or the evening after work (5-6pm) is being irrational. They think it’s not safe and I’ll be shouted out at home if I do it. They are also against me walking there and back, and would rather feel at ease if another relative was picking me up and taking me there, which I find irrational.
I feel so controlled in this environment, that I honestly can’t take it anymore. And even more so, that I’m starting to have an active social life, meeting up with friends every week at our regular social club, and staying out late, being invited out to parties and events. Is practically a war zone in my household, I am constantly hounded by my family whenever I’m out with friends but the time I’m out with my cousins, my phone is silent; no calls, no texts.
I am so over it!!!!!!! I honestly hate how paranoid they are about everything!!! Do they expect someone in their 20’s to stay indoors forever, and only leave the house for work??!!!! They are honestly unbelievable!!!
IF only they knew, I walk back late at nite (10pm) when I meet my friends at the social club, they would be roaring at my face. I just feel so FREE when I do it. It’s funny after all these years, that they think I’m getting the bus back and spending money on a 10 minute journey. Absolutely not!!!!!!
Well I’m just venting here I guess, the only advice is to move out ASAP and reinforce being and living independent (can’t wait) and doing my own thing, on my own terms. I have a whole wish-list of things I will be doing the sooner i move out.
Has anyone else experienced something similar?
I feel so controlled in this environment, that I honestly can’t take it anymore. And even more so, that I’m starting to have an active social life, meeting up with friends every week at our regular social club, and staying out late, being invited out to parties and events. Is practically a war zone in my household, I am constantly hounded by my family whenever I’m out with friends but the time I’m out with my cousins, my phone is silent; no calls, no texts.
I am so over it!!!!!!! I honestly hate how paranoid they are about everything!!! Do they expect someone in their 20’s to stay indoors forever, and only leave the house for work??!!!! They are honestly unbelievable!!!
IF only they knew, I walk back late at nite (10pm) when I meet my friends at the social club, they would be roaring at my face. I just feel so FREE when I do it. It’s funny after all these years, that they think I’m getting the bus back and spending money on a 10 minute journey. Absolutely not!!!!!!
Well I’m just venting here I guess, the only advice is to move out ASAP and reinforce being and living independent (can’t wait) and doing my own thing, on my own terms. I have a whole wish-list of things I will be doing the sooner i move out.
Has anyone else experienced something similar?
Reply 1
Yes 100% my mom yells so much it’s kinda bad she even hit me once bc I didn’t do something right but I agree u should move out! Good luck!! 🙏🎀
Reply 2
The day that you move out will be the happiest of your life!
It sounds like they're so unreasonable that it would make sense for you to keep it secret from them that you're moving out.
And maybe even keep where you're moving to secret.
And maybe even ditch your existing phone number and get a new one.
You have the right attitude and have been doing the right things.
It sounds like they're so unreasonable that it would make sense for you to keep it secret from them that you're moving out.
And maybe even keep where you're moving to secret.
And maybe even ditch your existing phone number and get a new one.
You have the right attitude and have been doing the right things.
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