Bf following a girl that flirts with him

I need advice💔 there’s this girl on my bf’s course that flirts with him. Last time I saw her she was talking to him saying stuff like “Omg you’re *name* right?” “Omg you were sooo funny in class”🤨 Last night he went to a party, she was there. This morning I’ve just checked Instagram and now all of a sudden he’s following her. How do I approach this situation? I feel uncomfortable with him getting close with her because she so obviously flirts with him but he doesn’t see it, but I don’t want to be insecure and controlling

Being uncomfortable and worried is not a bad thing. It shows that you care. So its totally normal to feel that way if you think your bf is getting close to another girl who flirts with him.
I'm not a relationship expert but I think there is a few things that you can do.
1) Try and keep calm, take a few deep breaths and try not to overthink it too much because if you do, you will just be stressed even more and everything can go spiraling down.
2) Ask him what his opinion on that girl is and how they met
3) Ask him what he would do if that girl said that she likes him. (If he starts stuttering and looks away HE IS NOT LOYAL TO YOU)
4) Ask him if he sees a future with you and ONLY you.
5) ask his guy friends about if your BF speaks abut you when you are not around and if it is positive or negative
6) Observe him and look at how his behavior changes when he sees her walking past or is around her.
I hope this helps

I need advice💔 there’s this girl on my bf’s course that flirts with him. Last time I saw her she was talking to him saying stuff like “Omg you’re *name* right?” “Omg you were sooo funny in class”🤨 Last night he went to a party, she was there. This morning I’ve just checked Instagram and now all of a sudden he’s following her. How do I approach this situation? I feel uncomfortable with him getting close with her because she so obviously flirts with him but he doesn’t see it, but I don’t want to be insecure and controlling

I need advice💔 there’s this girl on my bf’s course that flirts with him. Last time I saw her she was talking to him saying stuff like “Omg you’re *name* right?” “Omg you were sooo funny in class”🤨 Last night he went to a party, she was there. This morning I’ve just checked Instagram and now all of a sudden he’s following her. How do I approach this situation? I feel uncomfortable with him getting close with her because she so obviously flirts with him but he doesn’t see it, but I don’t want to be insecure and controlling

Np!
Enjoy your yoga class and keep me updated on what happened so I can give you more advice if you need it or if you just need to vent!

You have every right to validate and put your feelings across to him in how your feeling about this whether it’s making you insecure, uncomfortable and even worried.
I personally think that you and him just need to sit down and talk remind him that your there as well as his (girlfriend) and that your feelings here matter the most if it’s something in which you feel as though yes it’s something I need to put a boundary in or across then so be it because at the end of the day you are first. If it’s a friend to friend thing then that’s understandable. But get him to realise and understand by saying “Look I believe girl whoever is trying to do this…this is making me feel…would you please respect my feelings and bare this in mind by not doing such stuff or this…”.
It’s also sensible to understand what his perception on the girl is look if he says it’s nothing but a friend to friend thing that’s cool but if he fails to understand then it’s another thing. Put him on the spot in a few scenarios if that girl became flirty in text, or in person what would his cause of action be failure to provide an answer, no seriousness, not expecting the answer you’d hope for. Stuttering suggests no seriousness which means no loyalty a red flag 🚩.
Reiterate what your worth is to him. And only you know what it is. Ask any of his close mates whether he himself discusses about this girl, any form of praise or compliment or does he speak about you in a positive or negative manner.
And notice whether he’s stuck to his words or not because it’s unfair on you and in all honesty every man should treat his woman with priority whilst equally treating her with respect and so she does not feel at discomfort or unease. She should feel happy, she should feel that security in a positive sense and she should be able to have that trust and belief without having to question it.

Thank you so much for your advice, it has really helped me. I have to go to a yoga class now for 2 hours but I just asked him if we can talk when I get back. We’ll sit down and I’ll ask my questions about it

There is a distinct possibility that he cheated on you last night - from what you've told us.
If he did cheat, there's a high chance he will lie convincingly about it if you confront him.
If he didn't cheat you will be pushing him towards cheating or breaking up with you if you question him about it.
One highly valid tactic you could use would be to say in an off-hand way that you think he and her should get together as she's clearly highly attracted to him and she seems like a nice enough girl.

Thank you for your advice, do you think I should talk to him about it and tell him how I feel uncomfortable or should I just let it slide and say something if anything happens again?

Thank you for your advice, do you think I should talk to him about it and tell him how I feel uncomfortable or should I just let it slide and say something if anything happens again?

...most of this advice is awful 😅
If clicking to follow someone online led to all this drama and sitting down for one sided conversations about boundaries and respect I'd be reconsidering the relationship overall.

...most of this advice is awful 😅
If clicking to follow someone online led to all this drama and sitting down for one sided conversations about boundaries and respect I'd be reconsidering the relationship overall.

Least it’s advice. You offer your input and we’ll be the judge to that to see whether it’s helpful or not

I did, my advice was essentially not to make mountains out of molehills Every little insecurity should not be an excuse to confront your partner, put them on the spot and bang on about boundaries, respect and feeling validated. That's the sort of relationship that ends up driving many people away or funnily enough, to someone else.