Muslim bullies
Sometimes I wonder why certain people hate me, bully me, or treat me badly when I’ve never harmed them. In Islam, we’re taught that people act based on what’s inside their hearts. A pure heart produces kindness, and a corrupted heart produces harm. I’ve been called “weird,” been picked on, and been talked about behind my back by people who act in toxic ways — but even then, I would never do the same to them. I would never spread rumours, swear at them, or try to get people to hurt them.
I know someone who is quiet and shy, yet she goes around telling lies about me. Even with her, I would never think of hurting her. I just ignore it and move on because you can’t control other people’s behaviour; you can only control your own character.
Sometimes I think: maybe the reason they act like this is because their hearts and souls are not aligned with mine. Maybe am I the bad person that’s going through the punishment?
I really try hard not to backbite. Yes, I vent sometimes, but I don’t make fun of people, lie about them, or slander them. If I don’t know something for sure, I won’t say it, and even when something is true, I prefer to keep it to myself rather than spread it. Why am I being punished? I tried to pray my prayers. For most of my life — nearly 21 years — the people who have bullied me or mistreated me have mainly been Muslims, not Christians or Hindus. Even though I am Muslim myself, I’ve often felt more hurt and judged by people from my own community. I can think of more than 50 Muslim individuals who have caused me pain. Because of this, my faith sometimes feels weaker the more I’m around certain Muslim groups.
It has made me feel unsafe attending Muslim events or spending time with Muslim girls, because in my personal experience, many of the girls I’ve met have been involved in gossip, backbiting, and slander. I’ve especially noticed this behaviour in some South Asian communities — Pakistani, Bengali, and Indian — where slander and drama seem very common. I know this doesn’t represent all Muslims, but these experiences have genuinely affected me and made me feel disconnected and hurt the Muslims that I’ve met from like Canada America they seem to be a bit more open-minded compared to UK South Asian Muslims. I’m not sure if I’m the only person that has gone through this situation.
I know someone who is quiet and shy, yet she goes around telling lies about me. Even with her, I would never think of hurting her. I just ignore it and move on because you can’t control other people’s behaviour; you can only control your own character.
Sometimes I think: maybe the reason they act like this is because their hearts and souls are not aligned with mine. Maybe am I the bad person that’s going through the punishment?
I really try hard not to backbite. Yes, I vent sometimes, but I don’t make fun of people, lie about them, or slander them. If I don’t know something for sure, I won’t say it, and even when something is true, I prefer to keep it to myself rather than spread it. Why am I being punished? I tried to pray my prayers. For most of my life — nearly 21 years — the people who have bullied me or mistreated me have mainly been Muslims, not Christians or Hindus. Even though I am Muslim myself, I’ve often felt more hurt and judged by people from my own community. I can think of more than 50 Muslim individuals who have caused me pain. Because of this, my faith sometimes feels weaker the more I’m around certain Muslim groups.
It has made me feel unsafe attending Muslim events or spending time with Muslim girls, because in my personal experience, many of the girls I’ve met have been involved in gossip, backbiting, and slander. I’ve especially noticed this behaviour in some South Asian communities — Pakistani, Bengali, and Indian — where slander and drama seem very common. I know this doesn’t represent all Muslims, but these experiences have genuinely affected me and made me feel disconnected and hurt the Muslims that I’ve met from like Canada America they seem to be a bit more open-minded compared to UK South Asian Muslims. I’m not sure if I’m the only person that has gone through this situation.
Reply 1
you are definitely not the only person thats gone thru this! i was raised catholic and like to try and meet others but there aren't that many where i live, and majority of the people i've met of different christian denominations just genuinely r some of the worst people ive ever met lol. i live in the uk and the majority of my friends are south asian but i definitely know what u mean that theres def a big population of muslim girls in my year that are really really nasty and very gossipy, but unfortunately people like this really are just everywhere. i think when you have quite a pure connection to ur faith and are quite empathetic its difficult to understand how other people of ur faith don't have a problem acting the way they do, especially when it clearly contradicts how ppl of ur religion should act and treat each other. unfortunately, being of a particular faith - even one that preaches kindness and loyalty - doesn't actually make anybody good people. anyone can twist their religion in ways that justifies what they do, and it can definitely make it harder to connect with others, especially when you want to find people that are similar culturally to u but they all seem horrible lol. all we can really do is try and find the one's that dont and hold onto them as tightly as possible. I dont know if my response is a bit depressing or not that helpful as im not a muslim but i just wanted to say that i know exactly what u mean and ur not alone!
Also, sometimes making friends online can help? im sure that there are lots of other muslim girls (im assuming ur a girl?) online that feel the same way you do and even just talking to them on tiktok or something could make you feel a little less alone xx
Also, sometimes making friends online can help? im sure that there are lots of other muslim girls (im assuming ur a girl?) online that feel the same way you do and even just talking to them on tiktok or something could make you feel a little less alone xx
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