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Horrible mum and trying to move out at 16

My mum genuinely makes me feel worthless to simply put it. She’s honestly so mean to me and uses everything I tell her against me she hits me, threatens me and verbally insults me. She treats me like I’m supposed to be some sort of slave and doesn’t even allow me to have a phone. I can’t open up a bank account and she’s stolen my NI number before I could even look at it. She genuinely does everything in her power to upset me and bring me down . During and before my GCSEs she made my life a living hell, I was getting hit all the time forced to do dishes, clean the house and constantly berated to the point that I was having panic attacks unable to study and just not want to live. Now I’m in sixth form and the cycle has continued. For context she doesn’t work so is home most of the time I come home at around 6pm most days and am expected to clean the house from top to bottom if I don’t I’m called lazy and all sorts of nasty names. She treats me so differently to my siblings driving a wedge between me and them.
She also doesn’t allow me to leave the house ever and when I ask her to I get berated and she acts like I’m a horrible person for asking her and it’s not like I ask to go to parties or anything like that.

Please i need advice on how to move out of the house because I genuinely can’t take this anymore and if i have to endure this any longer i might not be able to keep on going.

Reply 1

charcoal30151

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by Anonymous

My mum genuinely makes me feel worthless to simply put it. She’s honestly so mean to me and uses everything I tell her against me she hits me, threatens me and verbally insults me. She treats me like I’m supposed to be some sort of slave and doesn’t even allow me to have a phone. I can’t open up a bank account and she’s stolen my NI number before I could even look at it. She genuinely does everything in her power to upset me and bring me down . During and before my GCSEs she made my life a living hell, I was getting hit all the time forced to do dishes, clean the house and constantly berated to the point that I was having panic attacks unable to study and just not want to live. Now I’m in sixth form and the cycle has continued. For context she doesn’t work so is home most of the time I come home at around 6pm most days and am expected to clean the house from top to bottom if I don’t I’m called lazy and all sorts of nasty names. She treats me so differently to my siblings driving a wedge between me and them.
She also doesn’t allow me to leave the house ever and when I ask her to I get berated and she acts like I’m a horrible person for asking her and it’s not like I ask to go to parties or anything like that.
Please i need advice on how to move out of the house because I genuinely can’t take this anymore and if i have to endure this any longer i might not be able to keep on going.

Hi I'm really sorry you're going through that. As I haven't experienced it I can't give much advice, but maybe go and stay with a friend if you need to get away really badly?

Reply 2

Hdhsshhs

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by Anonymous

My mum genuinely makes me feel worthless to simply put it. She’s honestly so mean to me and uses everything I tell her against me she hits me, threatens me and verbally insults me. She treats me like I’m supposed to be some sort of slave and doesn’t even allow me to have a phone. I can’t open up a bank account and she’s stolen my NI number before I could even look at it. She genuinely does everything in her power to upset me and bring me down . During and before my GCSEs she made my life a living hell, I was getting hit all the time forced to do dishes, clean the house and constantly berated to the point that I was having panic attacks unable to study and just not want to live. Now I’m in sixth form and the cycle has continued. For context she doesn’t work so is home most of the time I come home at around 6pm most days and am expected to clean the house from top to bottom if I don’t I’m called lazy and all sorts of nasty names. She treats me so differently to my siblings driving a wedge between me and them.
She also doesn’t allow me to leave the house ever and when I ask her to I get berated and she acts like I’m a horrible person for asking her and it’s not like I ask to go to parties or anything like that.
Please i need advice on how to move out of the house because I genuinely can’t take this anymore and if i have to endure this any longer i might not be able to keep on going.

Aww no u poor thing what I think is good is I don’t think you should leave at 16. Considering ur still in sixth form it’s a hard, if you can wait till your eighteen u can move out for uni can’t you? U can use ur student finance and get a small job if that’s possible but I’m pretty sure u can maintain ur finances

My sister moved out and she lives on her loan she has enohhh money to pay rent food and travel.
u don’t have to have a job

But you should defnintrly get some work experience during ur time and then fet a job after u graduate the instant u graduate and u can spend less time with her depending on whether u will still live with her or not?

Hope that’s helps

Reply 3

PurpleDiva

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by Anonymous

My mum genuinely makes me feel worthless to simply put it. She’s honestly so mean to me and uses everything I tell her against me she hits me, threatens me and verbally insults me. She treats me like I’m supposed to be some sort of slave and doesn’t even allow me to have a phone. I can’t open up a bank account and she’s stolen my NI number before I could even look at it. She genuinely does everything in her power to upset me and bring me down . During and before my GCSEs she made my life a living hell, I was getting hit all the time forced to do dishes, clean the house and constantly berated to the point that I was having panic attacks unable to study and just not want to live. Now I’m in sixth form and the cycle has continued. For context she doesn’t work so is home most of the time I come home at around 6pm most days and am expected to clean the house from top to bottom if I don’t I’m called lazy and all sorts of nasty names. She treats me so differently to my siblings driving a wedge between me and them.
She also doesn’t allow me to leave the house ever and when I ask her to I get berated and she acts like I’m a horrible person for asking her and it’s not like I ask to go to parties or anything like that.
Please i need advice on how to move out of the house because I genuinely can’t take this anymore and if i have to endure this any longer i might not be able to keep on going.

Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. What you’ve described isn’t normal strict parenting — it’s abusive, and anyone in your situation would feel overwhelmed and worn down. None of this is your fault, and you don’t deserve to be treated like that by the person who’s supposed to keep you safe. You shouldn’t have to face this on your own. Since you’re 16, you can get help even if your mum wouldn’t want you to. Talking to someone at school (like a safeguarding lead, head of year, or counsellor) can really help start the process of keeping you safe and giving you options. They deal with situations like this more often than you’d think, and they’ll take you seriously. If speaking feels hard, even showing them what you wrote here could help them understand. You can also call Childline (0800 1111) — it’s confidential and they can talk with you about your options, including safe housing or staying with another family member. Leaving home on your own without support can be risky, but leaving with help is completely possible for 16–17-year-olds in the UK. You deserve support and safety, and you’re not wrong for wanting out of that situation. Please remember you’re not alone in this, and reaching out is a really strong first step. If you ever want to talk more, people here will listen.

Reply 4

Daisyjacobs5

Do you have anyone else you can stay with, I had problems at home and now I live with my auntie

Reply 5

Aarya25041

Could anyone please clarify why my post was taken down
Idk why but I decided to give advice but it may have not been the best so please clarify before taking it down I mean I was trying to help ig but no matter it doesn't matter these other people deffo gave more helpful advice 👍🥲

Reply 6

Mohammed_2000

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by Aarya25041

May possibly subject to moderation approval

Reply 7

PurpleDiva

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by Aarya25041

Yeah, sometimes posts get taken down if they accidentally break a guideline, even if the intention was good. It might be worth messaging a mod to ask — they’re usually happy to explain.