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Is he rlly interested?

I’m talking to this guy and it’s been weird.
He’s a little bit older (less than 2 yrs dw), and half of the time he texts be back almost instantly or very quickly even while at work. We get along well and have deep talks about the world, philosophy, life and love ect. He calls me names sometimes like “my girl”, “love” and “beautiful” but has started calling me them a bit less.
Sometimes though he’s online and just leaves me on delivered. Like I’ll send a snap or text and he’ll be online for hours but not open/ respond and he’s rly dry sometimes. :/
I’m not sure what to do tbh.
Is he using me/ not interested or do I overthink too much?

Reply 1

Crazy Jamie

You're likely overthinking it. I've said many times and recently, but if there's one thing that the current generation of teenagers and those in their early 20s take very seriously but is absolutely meaningless, it's being left on delivered. In and of itself, that means nothing. You have to remember that he has a life outside of communicating with you. There are any number of very good reasons why he might not respond immediately. Even deciding to speak to other people or focus on something else are good reasons. You should not measure interest in you based on how quickly he drops everything else to message you. Plenty of people do that, particularly early on, but it's not sustainable and really gives no insight at all into the sort of things you want to be paying attention to to determine whether or not this guy is right for you.

The way you figure out if he's interested in you or right for you is that you step up the interaction by going on dates and/or meeting in person. Trying to draw conclusions from things like how long you're on delivered, how often he's calling you certain names and whether he's dry or not is completely pointless because none of those things point clearly in one direction or another. Meeting up and interacting in person will give you a much clearer idea of where things are going.