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struggling socially at sixth form

ok so im in need of advice and help, hopefully someone will see this and respond💔💔 but basically i recently moved to london from essex and i live in marylebone but go to skl in maida vale, the mix isnt very diverse especially for myself as a black student coming from essex where the mix very vast, im among around 8 or more externals in my sixth form and REALLY struggling w friends, i hang around a small gorup of girls but i dont gel w them, i can barely conversate w them and dont have any common interests, i enjoy sociology and english a lot in the skl and really like my english teachers, they are soo nice and made me feel so welcome, politics not so much i am really considering moving skls but i dont know skls in my area that much, ny borough is westminster and im considering neighbouring boroughs too so PLS LMK WHAT I SHLD DO, shld i jus stay in teh skl and manage it or move??
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Reply 1

Hey
The way I see it is that unless you are genuinely really unhappy you should stick with it. While the friendships and social aspect is super important your education is also super important and you said your english teachers are great so I would stick with it.
I'm presuming you're in year 12 so youre still fairly early in the year still and have plenty of time to make solid friendships. I was definitely very nervous as an external going into sixth form and it wasnt until around christmas time that I made my friendships properly. Honestly its the people in your classes and any clubs you go to or maybe just friends of friends but you can definitely still enjoy yourself even if you dont make lifelong friends in sixth form. I know its not ideal but you still have plenty of time after sixth form to make amazing friendships
Good luck with whatever you decide xx

Reply 2

HI!
Im so sorry to hear youve been going through this! One of my friends was external and she found it very hard to gel with people like you had said in your post so know youre probably not the only one!

For me I love to give people compliments whenever im speaking to people (even if i don't know them fully) because you will literally make their day! But if you want to start making more friends you can either start messaging on social media about your day and ask about theirs or you can either start asking more questions IRL (people love to speak to themselves and they will prob remember you listening to them). If that doesnt work then maybe consider trying out a club or what not? I did Young Enterprise last year which introduced me to the girl in the first paragraph and we are still friends to this day!

I hope everything goes well for you :smile:)

Reply 3

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by agent_duck343
Hey
The way I see it is that unless you are genuinely really unhappy you should stick with it. While the friendships and social aspect is super important your education is also super important and you said your english teachers are great so I would stick with it.
I'm presuming you're in year 12 so youre still fairly early in the year still and have plenty of time to make solid friendships. I was definitely very nervous as an external going into sixth form and it wasnt until around christmas time that I made my friendships properly. Honestly its the people in your classes and any clubs you go to or maybe just friends of friends but you can definitely still enjoy yourself even if you dont make lifelong friends in sixth form. I know its not ideal but you still have plenty of time after sixth form to make amazing friendships
Good luck with whatever you decide xx


apologies for not replying sooner but thank uu for the adviceee

Reply 4

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by spowerr
HI!
Im so sorry to hear youve been going through this! One of my friends was external and she found it very hard to gel with people like you had said in your post so know youre probably not the only one!
For me I love to give people compliments whenever im speaking to people (even if i don't know them fully) because you will literally make their day! But if you want to start making more friends you can either start messaging on social media about your day and ask about theirs or you can either start asking more questions IRL (people love to speak to themselves and they will prob remember you listening to them). If that doesnt work then maybe consider trying out a club or what not? I did Young Enterprise last year which introduced me to the girl in the first paragraph and we are still friends to this day!
I hope everything goes well for you :smile:)


i will definitely try this out thanksss smmmm

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