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Double standards

There's this boy who I like and who likes me but were not together- were just kinda talking. However a deep emotional bond has seemed to form between the both of us and it feels like things are becoming serious. Anyway neither of us follow each other on socials - but a mutual friend let me look at his account from their phone. For context I follow one guy who I have never messaged or met irl. However I found out that he follows dozens of girls- none of whom I know. But somehow at the same time he found out that I follow that guy, and began to act very offended and avoiding me. I haven't said anything about the girls- but i feel like this is double standards. Is he allowed to follow whoever, yet I'm not? Even if I follow like 1 guy and he follows about 90 girls? This feels very double standardish. What should I do?

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

Relegate him to the outer fringes of your social circle.
You can repromote him to your inner circle if he behaves a lot better towards you than he has been doing. Until then he's a friend, but not a close friend.

The last thing you want in your life is some guy that acts offended and avoids you just because of whom you follow on social media.

You have the right attitude in not being bothered about the following habits of other people.

There's plenty of other people out there that would make great additions to your innermost circle.

The nature of getting to know people is that sometimes as you get to know them you find out about the real them and what you find is yuck! With a big test being the first time you observe them when they're not getting what they want. How people respond to stress, pressure, setbacks is the true mark of what calibre of person they are. As it's easy to be nice as pie as long as everything's going your way.