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Do I fit into the lgbtq spectrum if so what labels precisely

So I’m a female I’m 20. I’m asexual, I’m romantic in the sense of emotional intimacy but not interested in physical intimacy in anyway. I might do emotional warmth at times like hugging them if they’re sad or putting a hand on their shoulder, but it’s more emotional based.

I see my face sometimes and I see my father sometimes I see my mom. I have my fathers nose eyes skin tone and hair and mothers eyebrows and face shape and own lips. So I feel very androgynous. I’m also a tomboy but I’m not a man or a masuckine thing so I feel non binary is more like alienated and. Brings the same problem of binary and non binary. So because I’m gender non conforming tho I have very long hair and petite short frame, I say in female but use they them pronouns.

Anyway I’m also attracted to gender non conforming people like me I think it’s called being ceterosexual but that’s what I’m just visually attracted to they’re so unique and I kinda see myself in them too. But even then the attraction is more like admiration since I’m asexual and when this admiration happens I only even acknowledge them like that way after talking and their kind and caring

So far my labels I think I am are

Female just uses they them pronouns gender non conforming

Pansexual I don’t care about their biological sex

Demiromantic only can like after close bond with them caring and protective

Recipromantic- only I respond when someone notices me.

Grey romantic- I rarely feel attached to people after like 1-2 people have already been caring and kind of me.

Asexual no want sex!

Yeah

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
So I’m a female I’m 20. I’m asexual, I’m romantic in the sense of emotional intimacy but not interested in physical intimacy in anyway. I might do emotional warmth at times like hugging them if they’re sad or putting a hand on their shoulder, but it’s more emotional based.
I see my face sometimes and I see my father sometimes I see my mom. I have my fathers nose eyes skin tone and hair and mothers eyebrows and face shape and own lips. So I feel very androgynous. I’m also a tomboy but I’m not a man or a masuckine thing so I feel non binary is more like alienated and. Brings the same problem of binary and non binary. So because I’m gender non conforming tho I have very long hair and petite short frame, I say in female but use they them pronouns.
Anyway I’m also attracted to gender non conforming people like me I think it’s called being ceterosexual but that’s what I’m just visually attracted to they’re so unique and I kinda see myself in them too. But even then the attraction is more like admiration since I’m asexual and when this admiration happens I only even acknowledge them like that way after talking and their kind and caring
So far my labels I think I am are
Female just uses they them pronouns gender non conforming
Pansexual I don’t care about their biological sex
Demiromantic only can like after close bond with them caring and protective
Recipromantic- only I respond when someone notices me.
Grey romantic- I rarely feel attached to people after like 1-2 people have already been caring and kind of me.
Asexual no want sex!
Yeah

You realise we are all on that spectrum.
0%0%0%0%0% is on tbe spectrum.
Why do you need labels? Just live.

Reply 3

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by PinkMobilePhone
Why do you need labels? Just live.

I agree. If it helps you to work through your own emotions, desires and preferences then that is fine. But there is otherwise very little point in it. There are quite a few people on here who seem to want to collect labels like Pokemon, but it just doesn't matter. The potential downside to labels is that once you've landed on one you can feel confined to it, and you can be constantly over analysing your own feelings in order to match them to other labels. Just be who you are and be attracted to what you are attracted to at any moment in time. There's no need to question or analyse that in any sort of depth.

Reply 4

I'm going to ask why do you need the labels at all, but I myself use labels to make it easier for others to understand.
You don't need to 100% fit into any label, you can relate to it, you can use it to explain to others how to treat you right.
As long as you fine with yourself labels don't matter at all.

You are very young and still have time to find yourself, find where do you belong. It is ok to think about it and change how you describe yourself. You have plenty of time to do that. Labels may complicate things.

One thing I have to add as a side not, being asexual is a red flag, it can show something is wrong with your health. Let me explain. No physical attraction means that your hormones aren't working right. Not needing sex is ok, you can get enough 'satisfaction' from a warm physical contact (hugs for example). But not needing any physical contact and not being attracted to anything is a bad sign. Hormones are essential for many other things, not only reproduction, so it is something to look at.

I can relate to a lot of the things you describe, I don't see any of them abnormal, just to keep an open eye on some things that might be symptoms. I have a very low sex drive myself so I can relate to it, but again, it is very low, doesn't mean it is absent.
I've been through a journey of self identification myself and know that it is not easy.

Reply 5

Yeah largely as above, labels seem to be more harm than good here.

Reply 6

Ace is on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, is it not?

Reply 7

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by Kathy89
I'm going to ask why do you need the labels at all, but I myself use labels to make it easier for others to understand.
You don't need to 100% fit into any label, you can relate to it, you can use it to explain to others how to treat you right.
As long as you fine with yourself labels don't matter at all.
You are very young and still have time to find yourself, find where do you belong. It is ok to think about it and change how you describe yourself. You have plenty of time to do that. Labels may complicate things.
One thing I have to add as a side not, being asexual is a red flag, it can show something is wrong with your health. Let me explain. No physical attraction means that your hormones aren't working right. Not needing sex is ok, you can get enough 'satisfaction' from a warm physical contact (hugs for example). But not needing any physical contact and not being attracted to anything is a bad sign. Hormones are essential for many other things, not only reproduction, so it is something to look at.
I can relate to a lot of the things you describe, I don't see any of them abnormal, just to keep an open eye on some things that might be symptoms. I have a very low sex drive myself so I can relate to it, but again, it is very low, doesn't mean it is absent.
I've been through a journey of self identification myself and know that it is not easy.

No u are just a lustful person how can one tell me having no sexual feelings is abnormal or attraction?

I’m not low like that to admire somebody I have confidence power prestige if I experience attraction it’s like seeing myself lower

I get emotionally attracted to people if they care about me but period nothing physical .

Ur the one that’s lustful
Original post
by Anonymous
No u are just a lustful person how can one tell me having no sexual feelings is abnormal or attraction?

I’m not low like that to admire somebody I have confidence power prestige if I experience attraction it’s like seeing myself lower

I get emotionally attracted to people if they care about me but period nothing physical .

Ur the one that’s lustful

Demonising someone else for experiencing sexual attraction is less progressive than you think and no amount of self-labelling is going to change that. Being part of the LGBT* community is accepting the whole community for all the ways they express affection (or don't), including being accepting that some people do necessarily experience sexual attraction and that it is in fact a necessary part of their life.

Also the person you're replying to said that not being interested in sexual activity is fine but being averse to any physical contact may indicate some issue that may be worth exploring.

Reply 9

Sorry.
I didn't mean to hurt. I just say those things as you described them are red flags you should pay attention to. I was not claiming you have something...

Reply 10

As Male I’m gay and I’m proud

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