Help I think my mate likes me
Hi
so I have a mate who I am decently close with. Recently (past lets say 5 months) we have gotten especially close and I also told them that I had suffered abuse by family in this period.
Now, I have noticed them glancing at me in class and when we are in a group they seem to almost talk at me in the group-not necessarily ignoring others but directing the convo at me and often makes eye contact.
They very often give me compliments subtly beyond just the causal nice shirt kinda thing and even told me that I am. great influence on them and that they admire me.
They also I feel like seek 1-on-1 time together
I partially feel like I am making this all up and that no one could ever like me in this way but I have noo clue- any advice would be greatly appreciated
so I have a mate who I am decently close with. Recently (past lets say 5 months) we have gotten especially close and I also told them that I had suffered abuse by family in this period.
Now, I have noticed them glancing at me in class and when we are in a group they seem to almost talk at me in the group-not necessarily ignoring others but directing the convo at me and often makes eye contact.
They very often give me compliments subtly beyond just the causal nice shirt kinda thing and even told me that I am. great influence on them and that they admire me.
They also I feel like seek 1-on-1 time together
I partially feel like I am making this all up and that no one could ever like me in this way but I have noo clue- any advice would be greatly appreciated
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by AnonymousHi
so I have a mate who I am decently close with. Recently (past lets say 5 months) we have gotten especially close and I also told them that I had suffered abuse by family in this period.
Now, I have noticed them glancing at me in class and when we are in a group they seem to almost talk at me in the group-not necessarily ignoring others but directing the convo at me and often makes eye contact.
They very often give me compliments subtly beyond just the causal nice shirt kinda thing and even told me that I am. great influence on them and that they admire me.
They also I feel like seek 1-on-1 time together
I partially feel like I am making this all up and that no one could ever like me in this way but I have noo clue- any advice would be greatly appreciated
so I have a mate who I am decently close with. Recently (past lets say 5 months) we have gotten especially close and I also told them that I had suffered abuse by family in this period.
Now, I have noticed them glancing at me in class and when we are in a group they seem to almost talk at me in the group-not necessarily ignoring others but directing the convo at me and often makes eye contact.
They very often give me compliments subtly beyond just the causal nice shirt kinda thing and even told me that I am. great influence on them and that they admire me.
They also I feel like seek 1-on-1 time together
I partially feel like I am making this all up and that no one could ever like me in this way but I have noo clue- any advice would be greatly appreciated
Hi,
We're missing some important details, and you need to clarify a few things before anyone can give you any real, constructive advice.
Due to the nature of how you've written your post, I'm assuming this individual is of the same sex as yourself. Can you confirm this is the case? If so, can you also advise us on your own sexual orientation?
I should also remind you that you are posting anonymously, so there's little chance of any adverse reactions getting back to you.
Reply 2
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by Old Skool FreakHi,
We're missing some important details, and you need to clarify a few things before anyone can give you any real, constructive advice.
Due to the nature of how you've written your post, I'm assuming this individual is of the same sex as yourself. Can you confirm this is the case? If so, can you also advise us on your own sexual orientation?
I should also remind you that you are posting anonymously, so there's little chance of any adverse reactions getting back to you.
We're missing some important details, and you need to clarify a few things before anyone can give you any real, constructive advice.
Due to the nature of how you've written your post, I'm assuming this individual is of the same sex as yourself. Can you confirm this is the case? If so, can you also advise us on your own sexual orientation?
I should also remind you that you are posting anonymously, so there's little chance of any adverse reactions getting back to you.
Hiya,
yeah sorry good point I didn't want to make it too long...No he is the opposite sex to me and we both are straight (I might be bi not totally sure but I am sure I am into guys). The thing is I have no clue if I like them back but kinda just want to know if that makes sense
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by AnonymousHiya,
yeah sorry good point I didn't want to make it too long...No he is the opposite sex to me and we both are straight (I might be bi not totally sure but I am sure I am into guys). The thing is I have no clue if I like them back but kinda just want to know if that makes sense
yeah sorry good point I didn't want to make it too long...No he is the opposite sex to me and we both are straight (I might be bi not totally sure but I am sure I am into guys). The thing is I have no clue if I like them back but kinda just want to know if that makes sense
Lol,
Don't worry about it... it's all good... just want to make sure you get the advice / help you want.
What does your gut instinct tell you? There's an old saying it goes a bit like this:- "If it looks like a dog, sounds like a dog, smells like a dog and behaves like a dog, then guess what? It probably IS a dog." (think about it). It's difficult to say accurately without actually seeing the dynamic between the two of you... but from how you've described it, I'd say there's more than a fair chance he does like you; even if he is being a bit shy.
Provided you're not physically repelled by him (and you're not already seeing someone ofc), I don't see the harm in spending some "one on one" time with him. You could hang out after school together or meet up in the shopping mall on the weekend... try roller-skating together or whatever it is teenagers do these days... and see how you feel about him. Remember going on one date (if you can call it that) doesn't mean you're married or anything; if you like, you can see it as (kind-of like) an interview process, when you're trying to suss him out (and yourself for that matter). If you enjoyed your time, then you can meet up again and see where that takes you... if not, then you can make your excuses and leave it (be mindful of his feelings though).
Personally, I would recommend you do this outside of school, as (from my experience, at least) other people have a habit of sticking their noses into these kind of things, and it can embarrass the two of you. If you have a mutual friend who you think can give you the low-down, then maybe talk to them. If not, then ask him if he wants to meet up outside school / college and see where that takes you.
I partially feel like I am making this all up and that no one could ever like me in this way but I have noo clue- any advice would be greatly appreciated
Don't put yourself down.
It's worth remembering you're always your own worst critic; by this, I mean people tend to be far harsher when evaluating themselves compared to other people. Remember we are always acutely aware of our own personal flaws, but the next person won't see things like that. For example, one person might be acutely aware of that stubborn bit of flab on their stomach that they can't get rid of... but all the other people see is that Gym / beach body in the making.
I promise you, you're far more attractive than you think you are; even if you don't see it yourself.
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Maybe ask him out on a friendly date. Nothing romantic, no obligations. Just ice cream or hot chocolate. Just a friendly one-on-one time to get to know each other better and spend some quality time. It is good even if you are just friends. That way you can know better if he likes you or just being friendly (which is good too).
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