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So things suck tbh

This is honestly more of vent post so forgive my rambling:
I’m constantly stressed and unwell. I keep sleeping at bad times and staying awake when I should be asleep. I keep not focusing even when I should and I can’t do anything about it. I work so slowly that I struggle to finish homework simply because because I took too long on 2 questions (I’m talking hours). My diet varies from just about decent to really not great (once I managed to eat nothing except biscuits and chips for an entire day). Sometimes I struggle to do basic hygiene. Sometimes I can’t finish answering a question because my brain is too focused on picking this layer of dead skin on my finger, or fighting the urge to stab myself with a sharp object.
And I don’t really have anyone I can vent about this to. (No, not my parents, and I’m not comfortable discussing why). Nor do I have anyone coping strategies that actually work.
Even my original idea of “go and do something you enjoy until you’re ready to work” isn’t working because I’m struggling to enjoy the things I enjoy???

Yeah so that’s my life rn.

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
This is honestly more of vent post so forgive my rambling:
I’m constantly stressed and unwell. I keep sleeping at bad times and staying awake when I should be asleep. I keep not focusing even when I should and I can’t do anything about it. I work so slowly that I struggle to finish homework simply because because I took too long on 2 questions (I’m talking hours). My diet varies from just about decent to really not great (once I managed to eat nothing except biscuits and chips for an entire day). Sometimes I struggle to do basic hygiene. Sometimes I can’t finish answering a question because my brain is too focused on picking this layer of dead skin on my finger, or fighting the urge to stab myself with a sharp object.
And I don’t really have anyone I can vent about this to. (No, not my parents, and I’m not comfortable discussing why). Nor do I have anyone coping strategies that actually work.
Even my original idea of “go and do something you enjoy until you’re ready to work” isn’t working because I’m struggling to enjoy the things I enjoy???
Yeah so that’s my life rn.

Man I get this. So sorry you're going through a really rough patch. Are you at school, is there a councler you could talk to there? You could try some online services, Kooth or Qwell are good ones. Try focusing on one task at a time, go for a quick walk round your neighborhood or get your body moving. Try focusing on yourself more than your work. I hope your doing okay :smile:)

Reply 2

I’ll definitely look into the online services (and moving around a bit more)
We DO have a school councillor/safeguarding team but I’m not sure if that would benefit me much, because I feel like if I say the wrong thing they’re gonna report what I say to my parents and that’s part of the issue actually. And I fear if they can’t go to my parents, they’ll go to the police instead (which would probably be worse). Basically, I don’t wanna risk having my confidentiality breached.

Reply 3

I’m sorry that you’re having a hard time. If you’re struggling with something that would be police business, you absolutely have to tell someone, as it sounds serious, and perhaps like you are at risk. If you’re not comfortable telling your parents, perhaps some close friends?? And if you look into your school safeguarding team’s policy, and you feel that it’s confidential enough, I would speak to them as they are trained professionals, and will likely give you better advice than your friends or random (untrained) people on tsr. I get not wanting to tell people about your problems, really I do, but in the end it will be better for you. Bottling things up is never the answer, it will only bring you grief. I hope you checked out the resources that anon 2 sent over. Please stay safe, and I wish you all the best. Remember that whatever you are going through is not everything, and things will get better. ❤️

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