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How to ask my crush out (urgent!)

So here’s the dealio…
There’s this girl. Maths class. SO pretty. I’ve spoken to here for a total of 34 minutes now and I think it’s finally time to ask her out. I want the action to be memorable, nothing like she’s ever seen before. This is my first time and im very nervited (slang for nervous/excited). Advice needed.

Reply 1

Rayana182

Original post

by Anonymous

Hi! I think it’s so sweet that you speak about this girl this way, it’s so rare to find people who think like this these days instead of just wanting to link up and stuff. Well, do you know what she’s into? Maybe you could do something sweet like write her a poem, I know it may sound cringe but I think if you do it write and keep it short it could be so cute!!!!

Reply 2

meenu89

the best way would be just to go ahead and ask her directly... would be nice if you leave the choice of the venue of the first date to her.

(edited 1 month ago)

Reply 3

Dunnig Kruger

The fact that she'd be going on a date with YOU should be all that she needs for the date to be the most fantastic and memorable date she's ever had.

Make it so that you really are the prize amongst all of the other children in your year at school.

That's easy to do. Easier overall than not being the most attractive person.
All you need to do is apply wisdom.

The keys to you doing this are:

You're still a child. You're not the finished article. This is first and foremost a learning opportunity.

So that the outcome to you asking her for a date is far less important than you learning from this. By observing what you say to her and how you say it. And observing how she responds to it.

Mental and emotional strength are attractive. Mental and emotional weakness are unattractive. That doesn't mean that macho posing is attractive, because macho posing is less mentally strong than being authentic and being comfortable with who and what you are.

Remain in a rock solid good mood. Do not react in a negatively emotional way when she throws little tests your way. An example of a test is her saying "Do you say that to all the girls?" Or "I'm not going to kiss you."

In life some people will gel with you. Some won't. The less needy you are for people to like you, the more likely they are to warm to you. When you come across someone that's not in your "tribe" simply move on whilst wishing them all best. Or in the case of people you study or work with, be professional with the people that don't like you.

Be a classy person. Someone that's positive, enthusiastic, fun loving, light-hearted, empathetic, has basic good manners in the way you treat others.

Don't supplicate!

Flirt and tease. Use push-pulls. An example of a push-pull is "You look cute, but what was that look about?"

Don't declare your feelings to her. Don't start a "What are we?" conversation with her. Let her be the person to start that type of conversation.

10.

The overall frame should be that you like her, but you're not sure about her. You're not sure because you don't know her well enough because you've not spent enough time with her. And nobody's perfect. If it turns out her imperfections make her the wrong girl for you, you'd be fully willing to walk away.

11.

You can start with a soft close. EG "How do you feel about a chat over a Maccy D's with cute boys after school?"

12.

It's quite possible that your nerves will result in you coming over so weird that she rejects any invitation you offer her. That's OK It's all part of the learning experience.

13.

It's OK for you to be vulnerable and to admit to her that you're nervous because you've never asked anyone out before and that you're still going to go ahead and ask her, despite your nerves.

Good luck. And enjoy the moment on Monday or Tuesday when you speak with her.