Moving out??

I’ve wanted to move out for a while. My only excuse to be able to move out is for universities based in the South. So far, I’ve been accepted into Manchester which I can commute to rather than move out. I’m scared that I won’t get into my other options (Durham, UCL, KCL) cause it means I don’t get to move out.
Financially speaking, it’s better to stay home and study- I don’t have to pay money for rent. But genuinely I dread leaving my room or having contact with certain people in my household. It’s really messed with my mental health and I genuinely feel numb and drained.
So, hypothetically, if I got rejected from the other three and were left with Manchester, would it be stupid to consider moving out. I suppose the rent here isn’t half as bad as it is in the south. But it doesn’t make sense financially.
Honestly I don’t know what to do here- any advice from people living with certain people that sucks the life out of them?

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

20

It would be stupid to consider remaining where you are, even if you go to Manchester.
The order in which you should have your priorities in life are:

1.

Your physical and mental health. Without them it's difficult to enjoy life.

2.

Your romantic life. Getting and keeping the right romantic partner.

3.

Very closely behind number 2, your money earning and having enough to live on. With this including your preparations for the money earning stage of your life.

4.

Everything else. Some of these, such as your hobbies and interests may have an overlap with the above 3 in a Venn diagram kind of way.

Two of my older brothers went to unis that were within commuting distance of their childhood home. One commuted and the other moved out. The one that moved out developed better as a person and had a much better uni social life than the one that stayed at home.

Who you live with is more important than where you live. Especially when one or more of them have been affecting your mental health.

Depending on what you'd like to try first as a way to earn money, you may be better off skipping straight to working after A levels and not going to uni at all. Because in many modern walks of life, 3 years doing the job will place you in a better position than having a degree. If you go down this route aim to start working somewhere that's not commutable from where you are now. Your initial earnings will pay for somewhere modest for you to live.

Reply 2

Kingston Eve

Official Rep

13

Original post

by Anonymous

I’ve wanted to move out for a while. My only excuse to be able to move out is for universities based in the South. So far, I’ve been accepted into Manchester which I can commute to rather than move out. I’m scared that I won’t get into my other options (Durham, UCL, KCL) cause it means I don’t get to move out.
Financially speaking, it’s better to stay home and study- I don’t have to pay money for rent. But genuinely I dread leaving my room or having contact with certain people in my household. It’s really messed with my mental health and I genuinely feel numb and drained.
So, hypothetically, if I got rejected from the other three and were left with Manchester, would it be stupid to consider moving out. I suppose the rent here isn’t half as bad as it is in the south. But it doesn’t make sense financially.
Honestly I don’t know what to do here- any advice from people living with certain people that sucks the life out of them?

Hey!

As mentioned above, you don't have to commute simply because you live within commuting distance; if it's financially feasible (with your maintenance loan, savings, part-time wages or any parental help) to move into halls of residence, it's definitely worth considering.

The reason many commuter students choose to live at home is because they genuinely enjoy living there - whilst the cost saving is a huge advantage, it shouldn't be the only factor influencing your decision. If you current living situation is negatively affecting your mental health, it may be better long-term to move out regardless of which university you attend.

Best of luck,
Eve (Kingston Rep).

Reply 3

hallamstudents

Official Rep

18

Original post

by Anonymous

I’ve wanted to move out for a while. My only excuse to be able to move out is for universities based in the South. So far, I’ve been accepted into Manchester which I can commute to rather than move out. I’m scared that I won’t get into my other options (Durham, UCL, KCL) cause it means I don’t get to move out.
Financially speaking, it’s better to stay home and study- I don’t have to pay money for rent. But genuinely I dread leaving my room or having contact with certain people in my household. It’s really messed with my mental health and I genuinely feel numb and drained.
So, hypothetically, if I got rejected from the other three and were left with Manchester, would it be stupid to consider moving out. I suppose the rent here isn’t half as bad as it is in the south. But it doesn’t make sense financially.
Honestly I don’t know what to do here- any advice from people living with certain people that sucks the life out of them?

Hi there,

I am sorry to hear that this is your situation at the moment.

Firstly, I would say don't give up hope on being accepted into other universities! You may still get offers from them and there is still lots of time so don't panic.

However, if you do only get into Manchester it is not a waste of money at all to move out! If you are unhappy, it sounds like it will be a great use of your student loan and you get to move out and enjoy yourself rather than living somewhere you don't want to.

I agree with what has been said here - the reason people tend to commute is because they enjoy being at home, but if you don't enjoy it there is no point staying there when you have a genuine reason to move out elsewhere.

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

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LancashireRep4

Official Rep

10

Original post

by Anonymous

I’ve wanted to move out for a while. My only excuse to be able to move out is for universities based in the South. So far, I’ve been accepted into Manchester which I can commute to rather than move out. I’m scared that I won’t get into my other options (Durham, UCL, KCL) cause it means I don’t get to move out.
Financially speaking, it’s better to stay home and study- I don’t have to pay money for rent. But genuinely I dread leaving my room or having contact with certain people in my household. It’s really messed with my mental health and I genuinely feel numb and drained.
So, hypothetically, if I got rejected from the other three and were left with Manchester, would it be stupid to consider moving out. I suppose the rent here isn’t half as bad as it is in the south. But it doesn’t make sense financially.
Honestly I don’t know what to do here- any advice from people living with certain people that sucks the life out of them?

Hi Anom,

I'm sorry to hear you are unhappy with your current living situation.

I see you have already had some great advice and I would 100% agree that your mental wellbeing should be prioritized in this situation. It does not matter how short the commute is, moving out can provide the independence and freedom many students are looking for. Personally, I know someone who moved out that only had a 15 minute commute, but they wanted to experience living away and move onto a new stage in life.

Many students move out for different reasons and your reason is completely valid. Moving out is not just for distance, but for being independent, meeting new people, experiencing a new area, integrating into the local community, mental wellbeing, personal growth, a new start and more.

I hope this helps, please feel free to ask me any questions,
-Sophia (University of Lancashire)

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