Invited to a baby shower - do i go or not?

Hey everyone,

Hope you had an amazing Christmas/festive holidays so far?? ✨

Just wanted some additional opinions/thoughts on this topic -
A friend of mine who i haven’t seen or properly spoken to in 1 year has suddenly popped up with a baby shower invite text and i don’t know whether i should go or not. I’ve left her on read for a week now cause i’m still in 2 minds about this decision-

This is ofc a surprise to me as i haven’t spoken to her. This time last year she had suddenly disappeared and stopped replying to my text, completely stopped msg’ing me and engaging in my insta posts and didn’t even wish me a happy birthday despite seeing all my insta stories. It got to a stage where i suspected whether i had done something wrong?
Anyway, I’m quite disappointed in her actions as i thought she was my ‘friend’ and idk if i should go to the shower cause why on earth should i spend my time and money on a gift when she couldn’t even communicate w/me or message a simple 10 second hbd?

Am i overreacting? is there some validity in what i’m writing?
What would you guys do?

Any comments would be appreciated & taken in as food for thought 💭 thank you xxxx

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

For me it would all depend. If on the day of the shower I had something better to do, I'd go to that instead. If I did that, I'd drop her a line saying "Sorry can't make it to the baby shower. It'd be great to get together with you. I'm available on the 8th Jan or 14th Jan. Which of those is better for you?"

If on the other hand it was set to be a run of the mill day I'd go to the shower.
And I'd give her something bought from a charity shop. Probably some baby clothing, but it could be some baby toy. I'd be aiming for something costing less than £5.
If I happened to be particularly busy in the lead up to the shower, I might even turn up with nothing.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Don’t go it’s her problem

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post

by beyhivethe1

Hey everyone,
Hope you had an amazing Christmas/festive holidays so far?? ✨
Just wanted some additional opinions/thoughts on this topic -
A friend of mine who i haven’t seen or properly spoken to in 1 year has suddenly popped up with a baby shower invite text and i don’t know whether i should go or not. I’ve left her on read for a week now cause i’m still in 2 minds about this decision-
This is ofc a surprise to me as i haven’t spoken to her. This time last year she had suddenly disappeared and stopped replying to my text, completely stopped msg’ing me and engaging in my insta posts and didn’t even wish me a happy birthday despite seeing all my insta stories. It got to a stage where i suspected whether i had done something wrong?
Anyway, I’m quite disappointed in her actions as i thought she was my ‘friend’ and idk if i should go to the shower cause why on earth should i spend my time and money on a gift when she couldn’t even communicate w/me or message a simple 10 second hbd?
Am i overreacting? is there some validity in what i’m writing?
What would you guys do?
Any comments would be appreciated & taken in as food for thought 💭 thank you xxxx

I was being a bit dramatic but seriously ? No happy birthday? No communication at all? No excuses really for that if she hadn’t invited u to the shower then maybe it would be more understandable but it seems like she just wants a big party and lots of presents. Just ask if she wants to meet up like just u two and see what she says. She shouldn’t get that many presents bc it’s overconsumption so u could just write her a letter if u go saying something like sorry figured u had lots and kinda forgot like u seemed to forget we were friends, besides u don’t need that much for ur baby that will cost under 10. I don’t think she deserves any more than what she gave you

Reply 4

Wired_1800

Original post

by beyhivethe1

Hey everyone,
Hope you had an amazing Christmas/festive holidays so far?? ✨
Just wanted some additional opinions/thoughts on this topic -
A friend of mine who i haven’t seen or properly spoken to in 1 year has suddenly popped up with a baby shower invite text and i don’t know whether i should go or not. I’ve left her on read for a week now cause i’m still in 2 minds about this decision-
This is ofc a surprise to me as i haven’t spoken to her. This time last year she had suddenly disappeared and stopped replying to my text, completely stopped msg’ing me and engaging in my insta posts and didn’t even wish me a happy birthday despite seeing all my insta stories. It got to a stage where i suspected whether i had done something wrong?
Anyway, I’m quite disappointed in her actions as i thought she was my ‘friend’ and idk if i should go to the shower cause why on earth should i spend my time and money on a gift when she couldn’t even communicate w/me or message a simple 10 second hbd?
Am i overreacting? is there some validity in what i’m writing?
What would you guys do?
Any comments would be appreciated & taken in as food for thought 💭 thank you xxxx

You are not overreacting and your feelings are valid. However, I suggest that you go for the baby. It is a New Year, so secure that good fortune by moving on. Good luck

Reply 5

ibelieve-icanfly

i think she was giving u an invite because ur someone she knows, ur not obliged to go imo
if ur free then u can but i wouldnt bother personally, congratulate her but say u've got other stuff on

Reply 6

PinkMobilePhone

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Nope, don't go.
Also baby showers are so American anyway.

Reply 7

essenceloca

i feel like you shouldn’t go but that’s just me talking out of spite😭 you probably should go and if you do, try to monitor her behaviours after that, see if she speaks to you or anything!