I hate being the child of immigrants
as the title says it's just annoying because my parents knew nothing about the education system in the UK and only knew stereotypes and their own country but forced me into the wrong choices at every step of the way that now if I want to do my own thing I can't because the UK education system hates people 'changing their minds' and they have the audacity to be embarrassed because a 16 year old didn't have the due diligence to research that med unis hate btec subjects and want triple science not combined (what was I supposed to research, I blindly trusted my parents which is my fault to be fair) that now their 20 year old daughter is on a gap year and on top of that they have the audacity to say they don't think I'll get into med school when that's what I want to do now AHHHHHH 😭😭
I wish I could have amnesia and just forget about all this and have a cute office job, 9-5 and an apartment of my own away from my family because thanks to them my life is ****ed and my parents forced me into a rich person's game
I wish I could have amnesia and just forget about all this and have a cute office job, 9-5 and an apartment of my own away from my family because thanks to them my life is ****ed and my parents forced me into a rich person's game
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by Anonymousas the title says it's just annoying because my parents knew nothing about the education system in the UK and only knew stereotypes and their own country but forced me into the wrong choices at every step of the way that now if I want to do my own thing I can't because the UK education system hates people 'changing their minds' and they have the audacity to be embarrassed because a 16 year old didn't have the due diligence to research that med unis hate btec subjects and want triple science not combined (what was I supposed to research, I blindly trusted my parents which is my fault to be fair) that now their 20 year old daughter is on a gap year and on top of that they have the audacity to say they don't think I'll get into med school when that's what I want to do now AHHHHHH 😭😭
I wish I could have amnesia and just forget about all this and have a cute office job, 9-5 and an apartment of my own away from my family because thanks to them my life is ****ed and my parents forced me into a rich person's game
I wish I could have amnesia and just forget about all this and have a cute office job, 9-5 and an apartment of my own away from my family because thanks to them my life is ****ed and my parents forced me into a rich person's game
How are you doing now?
The fact that you are now aware of your previous experiences and current position will help you attain your goals.
Being the child of immigrants has nothing to do with this situation at all. If your parents chose not to research the UK education system, that's on them as people, not on them as immigrants.
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by jelllyfiiishHow are you doing now?
The fact that you are now aware of your previous experiences and current position will help you attain your goals.
The fact that you are now aware of your previous experiences and current position will help you attain your goals.
I've kind of just accepted I won't be able to do the things I like / want to do and because I have like no back bone to stand up to my parents lol but at least with my knowledge now i know my siblings won't make similar mistakes 🙂
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by PinkMobilePhoneBeing the child of immigrants has nothing to do with this situation at all. If your parents chose not to research the UK education system, that's on them as people, not on them as immigrants.
I appreciate you're probably doing the right thing and heading away from being mean about people who weren't born here. But at the same time, the OP has a real problem and they have identified that many people were lucky enough to be guided by parents who had at least been through the same education system as them. Meanwhile, the OP's parents don't have that first hand knowledge because they grew up in a different country. This is an example of the barriers faced by second-generation immigrants, and it doesn't seem right to dismiss that and say that it's just down to the parents not doing their research. You can't substitute 15+ years of personal experience with a bit of googling.
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by Llamas_and_CakeYou can't substitute 15+ years of personal experience with a bit of googling.
Well, it is pretty easy to look at uni websites and check their requirements for med. I would have thought either our OP or their parents would be more inclined to do this if they were unfamiliar with the education system.
Hopefully the OP has picked up either Bio or Chem in their gap year.
Reply 6
You can still do Medicine with combined science GCSE as long as you have science A-levels tho? I don't think it's fair to blame your parents.
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by Llamas_and_CakeI appreciate you're probably doing the right thing and heading away from being mean about people who weren't born here. But at the same time, the OP has a real problem and they have identified that many people were lucky enough to be guided by parents who had at least been through the same education system as them. Meanwhile, the OP's parents don't have that first hand knowledge because they grew up in a different country. This is an example of the barriers faced by second-generation immigrants, and it doesn't seem right to dismiss that and say that it's just down to the parents not doing their research. You can't substitute 15+ years of personal experience with a bit of googling.
My dad came to the UK at the age of 38 in 1989.
My mother was born in England but her parents came to the UK as adults in the 1940s.
I myself was not born in the UK.
To assume immigrants can't do some research into the UK education system, especially now given that the internet makes it far easier than it ever was before to carry out said research, is a bit bonkers.
(edited 2 months ago)
Reply 8
Not going to lie that's your fault , don't blame it on your parents. As a 16 year old , 16 is defo old enough to know what med unis want and don't want tbh.
Reply 9
Honestly this is often just as much a generational than an immigration/outsider thing, we've changed education so much even in the time I've been alive, we've redone the school qualifications a good few times and the role, scope and interaction between further education colleges and universities has changed a lot.
My dad still firmly believes there was no point in me going to uni because I didn't get a degree and no amount of explaining that an HND was my original aim, is compatible with the degree program and I'd just need to pop back for an easy year to get the degree If I wished makes sense to him. As far as he knows uni = degree, and if I didn't get one I failed uni 😅 he just can't get his head around how all the newer qualifications interact. (I think in the end I told him it was the same as a foundation degree and that seemed to cheer him up as it had the word degree in it)
My dad still firmly believes there was no point in me going to uni because I didn't get a degree and no amount of explaining that an HND was my original aim, is compatible with the degree program and I'd just need to pop back for an easy year to get the degree If I wished makes sense to him. As far as he knows uni = degree, and if I didn't get one I failed uni 😅 he just can't get his head around how all the newer qualifications interact. (I think in the end I told him it was the same as a foundation degree and that seemed to cheer him up as it had the word degree in it)
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