is anyone else really sad about going back to uni?

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I'm a first year biomed student and I'm really sad about leaving home again, with leaving my family and my pets. I also have an exam a week after i get back, and an essay due the week after which ive only half done (to prioritise the exam). I felt like this before I started in September, and I got through it, so rationally it'll be fine. I have friends there and im in society, and I genuinely enjoy uni, but I always get so sad when I leave home because I feel like im missing out/losing time. I felt the same way when I left uni at the end of term though, so idk

Does anyone else feel a similar way/have any tips?

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Kingston Eve

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by doomed-milestone

I'm a first year biomed student and I'm really sad about leaving home again, with leaving my family and my pets. I also have an exam a week after i get back, and an essay due the week after which ive only half done (to prioritise the exam). I felt like this before I started in September, and I got through it, so rationally it'll be fine. I have friends there and im in society, and I genuinely enjoy uni, but I always get so sad when I leave home because I feel like im missing out/losing time. I felt the same way when I left uni at the end of term though, so idk
Does anyone else feel a similar way/have any tips?

Hey @doomed-milestone,

I felt the exact same way in first year. It can be hard to leave your family and pets again after returning from a break as coming home has likely reminded you of all the things you missed whilst at uni. Nonetheless, you'll likely find that you settle in quite quickly once you do go back - it's just about taking that next step. 🙂

Talk to your family about when you plan to visit next (e.g. spring) and set a concrete date. This way, you'll have something to look forward to when you're at uni.

Hope this helps,
Eve (Kingston Rep).

(edited 1 month ago)

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PinkMobilePhone

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Everyone is different. My daughter loves being at home but says she also loves being at uni as she has her friends there and her independence, so she's not sad about going back to uni (although she's loved being back here for Christmas).
It's certainly not abnormal to feel upset about going back though.

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maybe-laiba

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I don't feel like this for uni but probably school. I can understand the dread knowing we have to return to our usual lives (especially exams ☹️ ) again but hey, like you and others have mentioned, friends definitely make it better 🙂You'll probably enjoy it again once your return, this is just a temporary feeling. Good luck!

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BCU Student Rep

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by doomed-milestone

I'm a first year biomed student and I'm really sad about leaving home again, with leaving my family and my pets. I also have an exam a week after i get back, and an essay due the week after which ive only half done (to prioritise the exam). I felt like this before I started in September, and I got through it, so rationally it'll be fine. I have friends there and im in society, and I genuinely enjoy uni, but I always get so sad when I leave home because I feel like im missing out/losing time. I felt the same way when I left uni at the end of term though, so idk
Does anyone else feel a similar way/have any tips?

Hey @doomed-milestone , I hope you are doing great! Honestly, as someone in their final year, I would definitely say what you are feeling is really normal. It's just that very few people say it out loud. So as someone who relates, I hope this will be helpful 🙂

Firstly, what I have realised is, what hurts is the grief over time passing, sadness about not being in two places at once and awareness that moments with family and pets are finite. And for me, it does hit both when I leave home and when I leave Uni which can be so confusing (cause it's like come on, pick a lane 😂) but again, it is every common.

And I have noticed, it is always harder now than in September because this period tends to be more demanding. But what I can assure you is that you can do this, sadness peaks then settles and you will still always enjoy Uni once you are back. The fact that you have felt this before and got through it matters a lot because it shows that you are capable.

Practical ways to make the transition gentler:
Honestly, these have helped me so much so I hope they will help you too!

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Take something "home" with you

This sounds small but it helps:

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photos of your family and pets

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a familiar mug, blanket or object

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Plan the next visit (even loosely)

Knowing when you will be back turns "I'm losing time" into "this is temporary."

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Let yourself be sad without fighting it

When I try to 'logic' my way out of sadness, it often makes it worse. So instead remind yourself that you are sad because you love home, you love your family and that makes sense. Feeling it usually makes it pass faster when you do not resist it.

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Break uni stress into tiny pieces

You do not need to solve everything today. Settle in with light revision, then have focused exam prep. You do not need to solve everything today.

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Normalise staying in constant communication with people at home

I always try to call home or even just text as much as possible and it really helps!

And a gentle perspective **** that helps is remembering that you are growing, becoming someone who will come home with new stories and deepening relationships in a different way. And if it becomes too overwhelming, it is always worth reaching out to uni wellbeing services, a trusted tutor and someone at home just to talk to.

Remember, you do not need to fix this feeling. You just need to move through it like you did before and you definitely will. I really hope this helped 🙂

Ru
BCU Student rep.

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