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by deniiak
Hi everyone, so I have taken two consecutive gap years for the past two years due to financial issues meaning that i couldn't start university. I will now be going to university this year and i am kind of scared. I will be 21 when i start, and i will be turning 22 soon after i start. My main worry is not being able to make friends since majority of people start at 18/19, will i be considered too old??? I would really like to form some really close friendships in univeristy since that will be the last school phase i will go through and my previous school phases havent been that great so i would like to make the most out of this last school phase. I know some people do start university later but as i know so far is that the majority of first year students are 18/19. I also plan on moving into a student accom and I'm scared that people may be weirded out that a 21 year old is living with a bunch of 18 year olds. if anyone was 21 or older in their first year of univeristy, i would really appreciate some insight as to how the experience was of making friends, and living in accomdations where most of the people are younger than you, and were/are you still able to make the most of uni lif despite your age. And if anyone who did start university at 18/19, and met people who were older than you, what were your thoughts on meeting the people who are older than you who were in the same year with you. Thank you to all who decide to read and respond to this :smile: !!!!!

Hello!

I completely understand how you're feeling; I also took two consecutive gap years and started my first year just after my 20th birthday. I remember worrying about the exact same things you've mentioned here. I remember also being told that Uni is unlike school, and that there are many different ages, but I was still worried.
However, since starting uni, I have been suprised to find that my age has not affected my experience whatsoever. Some of my closest friends are almost two years younger than me, but this hasn't affected how we treat eachother whatsoever. In fact, I don't think anyone even asked how old I was in my first few months of uni, and when I did tell them, no one seemed bothered!

Uni really is full of a wide range of ages: I've got friends who are a couple of years younger than me, some who are the same age as me, and a few who are much older! And these age differences have never affected our friendship - we're all adults!

I hope this has eased your mind in any way! Feel free to drop a message if you'd like to discuss further :smile:

Joe (2nd Year Film Student at ARU, Cambridge)
Hi deniiak,

I started at Salford at 22 nearly 23. In my 2 and a half years at Uni, I have not had one fellow student say ‘wow you’re old’, or stop being friends with me once they knew my age. In most cases people don’t think about the ages of everyone else. I don’t know if it’s because they assume everyone is 18/19 or they just don’t care but most times the only person concerned about me being too old to fit in is me.

There might be times you think, ‘wow they are all so young’ but that’s just life. They have come straight out of school to Uni, and at least one of your flatmates won’t know how to cook pasta. But everyone mentally matures at different rates. So, chances are you could meet an 18 year old who you think is wise beyond your years never mind theirs.

I have made great friends at Uni, and you’d honestly be surprised at just how many ‘mature’ students there are. I remember having one conversation about who got to go first in a board game and the rule was eldest first. I was all prepared to go, when a friend of mine grabbed the dice. Turns out they are 27 and I just didn’t realise. They also didn’t realise I’m 25 so we made a group of two shocked ‘mature’ students and group of entertained 21 year olds.

Eleanor
University of Salford Student Rep

Reply 22

Original post
by deniiak
Hi everyone, so I have taken two consecutive gap years for the past two years due to financial issues meaning that i couldn't start university. I will now be going to university this year and i am kind of scared. I will be 21 when i start, and i will be turning 22 soon after i start. My main worry is not being able to make friends since majority of people start at 18/19, will i be considered too old??? I would really like to form some really close friendships in univeristy since that will be the last school phase i will go through and my previous school phases havent been that great so i would like to make the most out of this last school phase. I know some people do start university later but as i know so far is that the majority of first year students are 18/19. I also plan on moving into a student accom and I'm scared that people may be weirded out that a 21 year old is living with a bunch of 18 year olds. if anyone was 21 or older in their first year of univeristy, i would really appreciate some insight as to how the experience was of making friends, and living in accomdations where most of the people are younger than you, and were/are you still able to make the most of uni lif despite your age. And if anyone who did start university at 18/19, and met people who were older than you, what were your thoughts on meeting the people who are older than you who were in the same year with you. Thank you to all who decide to read and respond to this :smile: !!!!!

Hi @deniiak👋

Hope you are well. It is completely normal to start university late! There are many people who are actually older than others in their first year, there are people who start university at 25 or 26 years old and it is actually quite easy to settle in. Most people are not bothered age wise but there are so many friend groups you can explore and sometimes events for mature learners so do not worry too much! I have 2 flatmates who were 22 when I started University while I was 19 and I always forgot about our age gap 😊

Essex Student Rep- Lavanya 💜

Reply 23

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by ARUStudents
Hello!
I completely understand how you're feeling; I also took two consecutive gap years and started my first year just after my 20th birthday. I remember worrying about the exact same things you've mentioned here. I remember also being told that Uni is unlike school, and that there are many different ages, but I was still worried.
However, since starting uni, I have been suprised to find that my age has not affected my experience whatsoever. Some of my closest friends are almost two years younger than me, but this hasn't affected how we treat eachother whatsoever. In fact, I don't think anyone even asked how old I was in my first few months of uni, and when I did tell them, no one seemed bothered!
Uni really is full of a wide range of ages: I've got friends who are a couple of years younger than me, some who are the same age as me, and a few who are much older! And these age differences have never affected our friendship - we're all adults!
I hope this has eased your mind in any way! Feel free to drop a message if you'd like to discuss further :smile:
Joe (2nd Year Film Student at ARU, Cambridge)

Thank you so much!

Reply 24

Just drink some alcohol and it will be fine

Reply 25

Original post
by deniiak
Hi everyone, so I have taken two consecutive gap years for the past two years due to financial issues meaning that i couldn't start university. I will now be going to university this year and i am kind of scared. I will be 21 when i start, and i will be turning 22 soon after i start. My main worry is not being able to make friends since majority of people start at 18/19, will i be considered too old??? I would really like to form some really close friendships in univeristy since that will be the last school phase i will go through and my previous school phases havent been that great so i would like to make the most out of this last school phase. I know some people do start university later but as i know so far is that the majority of first year students are 18/19. I also plan on moving into a student accom and I'm scared that people may be weirded out that a 21 year old is living with a bunch of 18 year olds. if anyone was 21 or older in their first year of univeristy, i would really appreciate some insight as to how the experience was of making friends, and living in accomdations where most of the people are younger than you, and were/are you still able to make the most of uni lif despite your age. And if anyone who did start university at 18/19, and met people who were older than you, what were your thoughts on meeting the people who are older than you who were in the same year with you. Thank you to all who decide to read and respond to this :smile: !!!!!


Heyy!!!
Seeing this discussion I wanted to throw in my quick take onto this as a first year who is currently 18!

Applying to University is intimidating, and being afraid that people may view you as "too old" (which you are absolutely not!! Any age if you want to study at university is already a great achievement <3) is really understandable!! It's a scary feeling but I PROMISE nobody at University cares if you are older.

At University, I currently have a friend who is a first year who is 20 alongside a partner who was 19 when he entered University. None of these have felt a difference in how they're treated just for being older. And from personal experience, someone older than me has never been a concern. Especially as when I was in college, it was aged 16+ and I had a classmate who was seven years older than me and we got along just fine for the time! Her age never impacted our friendship at all despite the gap. I also had two friends older than me as well and it never impacted our friendships either! I still talk to them both even after finishing college and it's no different than someone my age.

Alongside this, I work alongside some brilliant student content creators who are most certainly older than me but it's genuinely never bothered me or impacted how I interact with them. All that matters is that you are a good person as that's really all that matters!!

University is that stage where we're all kind of in the same shoes. We're all working towards getting our careers in a course that we enjoy or are learning if we truly enjoy it or not! It's a great development stage where most of us become a lot more independent than we used to be and we're all becoming adults. Older students aren't a concern at all, as the University no longer works in social divides like say Secondary School does. No one pays attention to it anymore, that's a promise!

I hope this helps clear any of your concerns, but if you have any questions please let me know! :smile:
- Staffs Rep Vera

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