Happy around friends but sad when alone
Hey guys
Idek I’m just wondering how normal this is. I hung out with some friends today and I just had so much fun I was genuinely really happy around them but after I got back home I’ve just been sitting here doing nothing for two hours feeling really empty, and like I want to cry, but I can’t summon up the tears or even enough emotion for that. All I want to do is sleep or see my friends again. I used to love reading, and have other hobbies, but now I just feel like I don’t have the energy to do that. I’ve also been feeling really terrible about the couple of awkward moments of today, even though they really were not big deals. I don’t always feel this way when I’m alone, only sometimes so idk if I’m just making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.
Also whenever I feel low like this I always imagine telling one of my friends exactly how I feel, especially this one girl (call her N) who’s just so funny and interesting and amazing and I love her so much (not romantically! Just as a friend) and I wish we were closer and hung out more. But that’s a problem for another day sorry that’s a bit of a tangent. Anyway I imagine telling N or someone else about how I feel whenever I feel down, either about being generally sad + empty like now, or about a couple of things that happened to me last year that I haven’t told anyone about. However, even though I want to do this I also really don’t, as I absolutely hate opening up about my feelings to anyone, my general philosophy is just bottle it up. And whenever I do tell anyone anything I always regret it.
+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point.
Anyway this has turned into a rant. I just kind of wanted to share my feelings with someone, even if it’s to random strangers on the internet. I’m not looking for anything in particular from doing this, ig I’m kind of just trying to do a journal entry without the journal lol.
Anyway if anyone else feels like this you’re not alone ig.
Idek I’m just wondering how normal this is. I hung out with some friends today and I just had so much fun I was genuinely really happy around them but after I got back home I’ve just been sitting here doing nothing for two hours feeling really empty, and like I want to cry, but I can’t summon up the tears or even enough emotion for that. All I want to do is sleep or see my friends again. I used to love reading, and have other hobbies, but now I just feel like I don’t have the energy to do that. I’ve also been feeling really terrible about the couple of awkward moments of today, even though they really were not big deals. I don’t always feel this way when I’m alone, only sometimes so idk if I’m just making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.
Also whenever I feel low like this I always imagine telling one of my friends exactly how I feel, especially this one girl (call her N) who’s just so funny and interesting and amazing and I love her so much (not romantically! Just as a friend) and I wish we were closer and hung out more. But that’s a problem for another day sorry that’s a bit of a tangent. Anyway I imagine telling N or someone else about how I feel whenever I feel down, either about being generally sad + empty like now, or about a couple of things that happened to me last year that I haven’t told anyone about. However, even though I want to do this I also really don’t, as I absolutely hate opening up about my feelings to anyone, my general philosophy is just bottle it up. And whenever I do tell anyone anything I always regret it.
+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point.
Anyway this has turned into a rant. I just kind of wanted to share my feelings with someone, even if it’s to random strangers on the internet. I’m not looking for anything in particular from doing this, ig I’m kind of just trying to do a journal entry without the journal lol.
Anyway if anyone else feels like this you’re not alone ig.
Reply 1
Original post
by AnonymousHey guys
Idek I’m just wondering how normal this is. I hung out with some friends today and I just had so much fun I was genuinely really happy around them but after I got back home I’ve just been sitting here doing nothing for two hours feeling really empty, and like I want to cry, but I can’t summon up the tears or even enough emotion for that. All I want to do is sleep or see my friends again. I used to love reading, and have other hobbies, but now I just feel like I don’t have the energy to do that. I’ve also been feeling really terrible about the couple of awkward moments of today, even though they really were not big deals. I don’t always feel this way when I’m alone, only sometimes so idk if I’m just making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.
Also whenever I feel low like this I always imagine telling one of my friends exactly how I feel, especially this one girl (call her N) who’s just so funny and interesting and amazing and I love her so much (not romantically! Just as a friend) and I wish we were closer and hung out more. But that’s a problem for another day sorry that’s a bit of a tangent. Anyway I imagine telling N or someone else about how I feel whenever I feel down, either about being generally sad + empty like now, or about a couple of things that happened to me last year that I haven’t told anyone about. However, even though I want to do this I also really don’t, as I absolutely hate opening up about my feelings to anyone, my general philosophy is just bottle it up. And whenever I do tell anyone anything I always regret it.
+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point.
Anyway this has turned into a rant. I just kind of wanted to share my feelings with someone, even if it’s to random strangers on the internet. I’m not looking for anything in particular from doing this, ig I’m kind of just trying to do a journal entry without the journal lol.
Anyway if anyone else feels like this you’re not alone ig.
Idek I’m just wondering how normal this is. I hung out with some friends today and I just had so much fun I was genuinely really happy around them but after I got back home I’ve just been sitting here doing nothing for two hours feeling really empty, and like I want to cry, but I can’t summon up the tears or even enough emotion for that. All I want to do is sleep or see my friends again. I used to love reading, and have other hobbies, but now I just feel like I don’t have the energy to do that. I’ve also been feeling really terrible about the couple of awkward moments of today, even though they really were not big deals. I don’t always feel this way when I’m alone, only sometimes so idk if I’m just making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.
Also whenever I feel low like this I always imagine telling one of my friends exactly how I feel, especially this one girl (call her N) who’s just so funny and interesting and amazing and I love her so much (not romantically! Just as a friend) and I wish we were closer and hung out more. But that’s a problem for another day sorry that’s a bit of a tangent. Anyway I imagine telling N or someone else about how I feel whenever I feel down, either about being generally sad + empty like now, or about a couple of things that happened to me last year that I haven’t told anyone about. However, even though I want to do this I also really don’t, as I absolutely hate opening up about my feelings to anyone, my general philosophy is just bottle it up. And whenever I do tell anyone anything I always regret it.
+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point.
Anyway this has turned into a rant. I just kind of wanted to share my feelings with someone, even if it’s to random strangers on the internet. I’m not looking for anything in particular from doing this, ig I’m kind of just trying to do a journal entry without the journal lol.
Anyway if anyone else feels like this you’re not alone ig.
hello
i dont know how much this will help, but i find that shared experiences help me a lot, so i could share a little with you too maybe
i loved reading and art a while ago, but i slowly dwindled out of it because i had experienced these similar and awful low moments, and it didnt feel like just moments in a day, it would dragggg out for weeks on end. id find solace amongst my friends, like you, as in my expeirnece, they served as a good distraction to however i was feeling.
i also am a high schieving student, but these periods of time tolled significantly on my academics, but i just felt unmotivated to do anything, and i felt only okay when i was with other people as i could talk and laugh and forget about everything else.
i know that fo rme there much be some kinf od reason behind it perhaps. this might not be the same for you, but i would get extremely stressed and just decide to do nothing and do no work instead of actually trying which made me feel worse.
i ended up losing all these friends which was awful as i had noone left, but i had started a new college and ended up making new friends and it was better eventually. i got close to one guy in particular and we ended up being together for a year, which was great until my mum made us split up as he was not the same religion as me lol so that was terrbile as id poured by heart into this guy and i wasnt able to be with him anymore and feel that support anymore.
but slowly, i built myself up again i guess. i found other distractions than people. i have a good surrounding of friends, and i find comfort in studying and got back into reading and artwork and things.
my main point is, dont rely on other people for you happiness and comfort. i know that friends bring you this, but honestly, you can never be sure of what might happen. not saying that it will - your friends might be amaxing people. but i was friends with my old group for almost 10 years, and it ended up ending over such stupid reasons.
also *"+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point."* i realllllyyy felt it when you said this, as i feel the same way. whenever i tried to open up about problems id get the same response as people would always make my problems insignificant compared to others. like yes, but i am still struggling yk??
but i am always here to talk to, as i heavilyyy resonate with what you are saying. i dont know how similar we afre in terms of the reasins why we rely on people so much for happiness, but maybe we can help each other to find that solace within ourselves and within the things we enjoy as well as other people?
) feel free to open up about anything else because i am not ehre to judge XxReply 2
Original post
by AnonymousHey guys
Idek I’m just wondering how normal this is. I hung out with some friends today and I just had so much fun I was genuinely really happy around them but after I got back home I’ve just been sitting here doing nothing for two hours feeling really empty, and like I want to cry, but I can’t summon up the tears or even enough emotion for that. All I want to do is sleep or see my friends again. I used to love reading, and have other hobbies, but now I just feel like I don’t have the energy to do that. I’ve also been feeling really terrible about the couple of awkward moments of today, even though they really were not big deals. I don’t always feel this way when I’m alone, only sometimes so idk if I’m just making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.
Also whenever I feel low like this I always imagine telling one of my friends exactly how I feel, especially this one girl (call her N) who’s just so funny and interesting and amazing and I love her so much (not romantically! Just as a friend) and I wish we were closer and hung out more. But that’s a problem for another day sorry that’s a bit of a tangent. Anyway I imagine telling N or someone else about how I feel whenever I feel down, either about being generally sad + empty like now, or about a couple of things that happened to me last year that I haven’t told anyone about. However, even though I want to do this I also really don’t, as I absolutely hate opening up about my feelings to anyone, my general philosophy is just bottle it up. And whenever I do tell anyone anything I always regret it.
+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point.
Anyway this has turned into a rant. I just kind of wanted to share my feelings with someone, even if it’s to random strangers on the internet. I’m not looking for anything in particular from doing this, ig I’m kind of just trying to do a journal entry without the journal lol.
Anyway if anyone else feels like this you’re not alone ig.
Idek I’m just wondering how normal this is. I hung out with some friends today and I just had so much fun I was genuinely really happy around them but after I got back home I’ve just been sitting here doing nothing for two hours feeling really empty, and like I want to cry, but I can’t summon up the tears or even enough emotion for that. All I want to do is sleep or see my friends again. I used to love reading, and have other hobbies, but now I just feel like I don’t have the energy to do that. I’ve also been feeling really terrible about the couple of awkward moments of today, even though they really were not big deals. I don’t always feel this way when I’m alone, only sometimes so idk if I’m just making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.
Also whenever I feel low like this I always imagine telling one of my friends exactly how I feel, especially this one girl (call her N) who’s just so funny and interesting and amazing and I love her so much (not romantically! Just as a friend) and I wish we were closer and hung out more. But that’s a problem for another day sorry that’s a bit of a tangent. Anyway I imagine telling N or someone else about how I feel whenever I feel down, either about being generally sad + empty like now, or about a couple of things that happened to me last year that I haven’t told anyone about. However, even though I want to do this I also really don’t, as I absolutely hate opening up about my feelings to anyone, my general philosophy is just bottle it up. And whenever I do tell anyone anything I always regret it.
+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point.
Anyway this has turned into a rant. I just kind of wanted to share my feelings with someone, even if it’s to random strangers on the internet. I’m not looking for anything in particular from doing this, ig I’m kind of just trying to do a journal entry without the journal lol.
Anyway if anyone else feels like this you’re not alone ig.
also im sorry if i sounded like i was trauma dumping or ranting in response to your rant! i dont know how well i worded all of that but lmk
Reply 3
Original post
by Anonymoushello
i dont know how much this will help, but i find that shared experiences help me a lot, so i could share a little with you too maybe
i loved reading and art a while ago, but i slowly dwindled out of it because i had experienced these similar and awful low moments, and it didnt feel like just moments in a day, it would dragggg out for weeks on end. id find solace amongst my friends, like you, as in my expeirnece, they served as a good distraction to however i was feeling.
i also am a high schieving student, but these periods of time tolled significantly on my academics, but i just felt unmotivated to do anything, and i felt only okay when i was with other people as i could talk and laugh and forget about everything else.
i know that fo rme there much be some kinf od reason behind it perhaps. this might not be the same for you, but i would get extremely stressed and just decide to do nothing and do no work instead of actually trying which made me feel worse.
i ended up losing all these friends which was awful as i had noone left, but i had started a new college and ended up making new friends and it was better eventually. i got close to one guy in particular and we ended up being together for a year, which was great until my mum made us split up as he was not the same religion as me lol so that was terrbile as id poured by heart into this guy and i wasnt able to be with him anymore and feel that support anymore.
but slowly, i built myself up again i guess. i found other distractions than people. i have a good surrounding of friends, and i find comfort in studying and got back into reading and artwork and things.
my main point is, dont rely on other people for you happiness and comfort. i know that friends bring you this, but honestly, you can never be sure of what might happen. not saying that it will - your friends might be amaxing people. but i was friends with my old group for almost 10 years, and it ended up ending over such stupid reasons.
also *"+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point."* i realllllyyy felt it when you said this, as i feel the same way. whenever i tried to open up about problems id get the same response as people would always make my problems insignificant compared to others. like yes, but i am still struggling yk??
but i am always here to talk to, as i heavilyyy resonate with what you are saying. i dont know how similar we afre in terms of the reasins why we rely on people so much for happiness, but maybe we can help each other to find that solace within ourselves and within the things we enjoy as well as other people?) feel free to open up about anything else because i am not ehre to judge Xx
i dont know how much this will help, but i find that shared experiences help me a lot, so i could share a little with you too maybe
i loved reading and art a while ago, but i slowly dwindled out of it because i had experienced these similar and awful low moments, and it didnt feel like just moments in a day, it would dragggg out for weeks on end. id find solace amongst my friends, like you, as in my expeirnece, they served as a good distraction to however i was feeling.
i also am a high schieving student, but these periods of time tolled significantly on my academics, but i just felt unmotivated to do anything, and i felt only okay when i was with other people as i could talk and laugh and forget about everything else.
i know that fo rme there much be some kinf od reason behind it perhaps. this might not be the same for you, but i would get extremely stressed and just decide to do nothing and do no work instead of actually trying which made me feel worse.
i ended up losing all these friends which was awful as i had noone left, but i had started a new college and ended up making new friends and it was better eventually. i got close to one guy in particular and we ended up being together for a year, which was great until my mum made us split up as he was not the same religion as me lol so that was terrbile as id poured by heart into this guy and i wasnt able to be with him anymore and feel that support anymore.
but slowly, i built myself up again i guess. i found other distractions than people. i have a good surrounding of friends, and i find comfort in studying and got back into reading and artwork and things.
my main point is, dont rely on other people for you happiness and comfort. i know that friends bring you this, but honestly, you can never be sure of what might happen. not saying that it will - your friends might be amaxing people. but i was friends with my old group for almost 10 years, and it ended up ending over such stupid reasons.
also *"+ all my issues feel like they’re just things everyone else deals with, or people have it way worse, so really they’re not big deals so there’s no point."* i realllllyyy felt it when you said this, as i feel the same way. whenever i tried to open up about problems id get the same response as people would always make my problems insignificant compared to others. like yes, but i am still struggling yk??
but i am always here to talk to, as i heavilyyy resonate with what you are saying. i dont know how similar we afre in terms of the reasins why we rely on people so much for happiness, but maybe we can help each other to find that solace within ourselves and within the things we enjoy as well as other people?
) feel free to open up about anything else because i am not ehre to judge XxThank you for your response. It means a lot, truly, even though as I’m typing this I’m fine, I just had one of those ‘moments’ yesterday. I really appreciate you sharing how you have felt, as it resonates with me, and shared experiences also help me I think. I’m glad you’re doing well now, and thank you again xxx
Reply 4
There is a lot of support out there such as:
-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day
-Mind, 0300 123 3393
-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm
-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm
-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service
-Crises, 741741, text service
-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress
-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927
-No Panic, 0800 138 8889
-Relate, they have a chat advisor
-NHS mental health, 111
-Side by side: https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/ (online community help)
-Kooth, www.kooth.com, a chat, message website
-7cups, www.7cups.com, 24/7 online chat
-Support line, 01708 765200, email: [email protected]
-Anxiety UK, 03444 775 774, 9:30am to 17:30pm Mon to Friday, a text service 07537 416905
-Young minds, www.youngminds.org.uk
-Calm, calm.com
-Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516
-Young minds, text "YM" to 85258, for free, 24/7 support
-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area.
-Nightline, usually run by your university
You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.
Young minds website has a variety of information for mental health, from anxiety, depression, panic attacks, stress to loneliness etc.
Heads above the waves website has great information, advice and resources regarding a variety of mental health issues.
Calm app
Headspace app
There is the mind forum
Also Facebook groups
You can join support groups
There must be sanctuary hubs based on your local area
You can contact a crises team if things get very bad
Plenty of resources online, infor mation regarding well being.
Natural methods such as taking a walk, talking to a friend, exercising, engaging in a hobby
-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day
-Mind, 0300 123 3393
-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm
-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm
-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service
-Crises, 741741, text service
-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress
-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927
-No Panic, 0800 138 8889
-Relate, they have a chat advisor
-NHS mental health, 111
-Side by side: https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/ (online community help)
-Kooth, www.kooth.com, a chat, message website
-7cups, www.7cups.com, 24/7 online chat
-Support line, 01708 765200, email: [email protected]
-Anxiety UK, 03444 775 774, 9:30am to 17:30pm Mon to Friday, a text service 07537 416905
-Young minds, www.youngminds.org.uk
-Calm, calm.com
-Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516
-Young minds, text "YM" to 85258, for free, 24/7 support
-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area.
-Nightline, usually run by your university
You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.
Young minds website has a variety of information for mental health, from anxiety, depression, panic attacks, stress to loneliness etc.
Heads above the waves website has great information, advice and resources regarding a variety of mental health issues.
Calm app
Headspace app
There is the mind forum
Also Facebook groups
You can join support groups
There must be sanctuary hubs based on your local area
You can contact a crises team if things get very bad
Plenty of resources online, infor mation regarding well being.
Natural methods such as taking a walk, talking to a friend, exercising, engaging in a hobby
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