Girl at work
I've started a new job and there's a girl I like at my workplace. She works in the office next to mine. I found a reason to go upto her and I found myself walking alongside her. I managed to introduce myself and she just said nice to meet you.
I'm a big overthinker and the problem is in a couple of weeks I'm moving to another building so I doubt I'm going to see her again.
How do I approach this and even if I don't get a chance to speak to her again I could find a reason to message her on the internal system
I'm a big overthinker and the problem is in a couple of weeks I'm moving to another building so I doubt I'm going to see her again.
How do I approach this and even if I don't get a chance to speak to her again I could find a reason to message her on the internal system
Reply 1
I forgot to mention we are both Muslim
Reply 2
Is it a job you'd be happy to lose?
Are you willing to get a reference from this employer where they say that the reason they dismissed you was because you made inappropriate and unprofessional advances towards a female co-worker?
If you want to keep this job or to get a good reference from them, be very professional towards this woman and every other woman you come across in the line of your work.
Do not do anything that could be or could be misinterpreted as sexual harassment.
There's billions of women on this planet that aren't your co-worker and that aren't clients of where you work. Go interact with women outside your work in a socially calibrated man to woman way.
And be so professional with the women at your work that it's down to them making a move on you.
With you being doubly professional when using the internal communications system. With you sending messages that are strictly work related and professional in tone.
Otherwise you could be handing them the evidence for misconduct on a plate.
A good policy to have is that you won't consider her as a potential romantic partner. But you would be open to starting a romance with someone from her social circle that you don't work with. And in return you'd be happy to introduce her to your friends. With this all being done via the normal social life and social events open to multiple people at your work.
Are you willing to get a reference from this employer where they say that the reason they dismissed you was because you made inappropriate and unprofessional advances towards a female co-worker?
If you want to keep this job or to get a good reference from them, be very professional towards this woman and every other woman you come across in the line of your work.
Do not do anything that could be or could be misinterpreted as sexual harassment.
There's billions of women on this planet that aren't your co-worker and that aren't clients of where you work. Go interact with women outside your work in a socially calibrated man to woman way.
And be so professional with the women at your work that it's down to them making a move on you.
With you being doubly professional when using the internal communications system. With you sending messages that are strictly work related and professional in tone.
Otherwise you could be handing them the evidence for misconduct on a plate.
A good policy to have is that you won't consider her as a potential romantic partner. But you would be open to starting a romance with someone from her social circle that you don't work with. And in return you'd be happy to introduce her to your friends. With this all being done via the normal social life and social events open to multiple people at your work.
Reply 3
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You need to be very careful as you’ve no idea if she feels the same. Other than hoping your paths will pass occasionally and you can keep talking and judge mutual interest, I would do nothing. And certainly not send a random message
(edited 2 months ago)
Reply 4
Original post
by ZarekYou need to be very careful as you’ve no idea if she feels the same. Other than hoping your paths will pass occasionally and you can keep talk and judge mutual interest, I would do nothing. And certainly not send a random message
Well I'm not moving buildings anymore so hopefully I should run see her a few times a week
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