Not having a best friend

So I.m currently a university student on my year abroad and it's been incredible here, I've made some new friends from across the world who are doing the same programme as me and they're great. I also had great friends at uni but they've all graduated and in their final year, when we were living together, for some reason they started leaving me out of all their plans and going out together with other friends.

So I've been struggling a bit when I see people who are really best friends with each other, they know everything about each other, they match each other's freak, they have the same energy as each other. This might seem kinda random but for example, for anyone who has seen 'heated rivalry', the actors genuinely seem like they're soulmates, not just in a romantic way because of the characters they play, but also in a non-romantic way in interviews. And I know a lot of this is for cameras n all and they probably dial it down a bit off-camera but the connection still feels incredibly strong between them. And it got me thinking that like I literally have nobody who understands me and matches my energy in that way, and so I was just wondering if anyone else has ever felt the same and if yes, how they managed to find someone who understands them to a T, who supports them, who is as weird as them and who they now call their best friend?

I'd appreciate any advice, thnx

Reply 1

ma4x

I totally get where you're coming from. My year abroad was amazing but also incredibly lonely at times. It's weird how you can be surrounded by new people and still feel like no one truly 'gets' you.

Honestly, those 'perfect' friendships you see (especially on social media or TV) are often just highlights. Most people don't find that one 'soulmate' best friend until much later in life, or they find different parts of that connection in different people. Don't put too much pressure on finding 'The One' best friend right now. Just enjoy the random connections you make while travelling – sometimes those fleeting friendships are special in their own way.

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Anonymous #1

You’re not weird or alone for feeling this way. A lot of people don’t have that “perfectly matching” best friend, especially during big life changes. Real connections usually grow slowly, not instantly like they seem online or in movies. Just keep being yourself, the right people tend to find you when you least expect it. Slope 2

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Kingston Sarah

Official Rep

Original post

by SimSim0303

So I.m currently a university student on my year abroad and it's been incredible here, I've made some new friends from across the world who are doing the same programme as me and they're great. I also had great friends at uni but they've all graduated and in their final year, when we were living together, for some reason they started leaving me out of all their plans and going out together with other friends.
So I've been struggling a bit when I see people who are really best friends with each other, they know everything about each other, they match each other's freak, they have the same energy as each other. This might seem kinda random but for example, for anyone who has seen 'heated rivalry', the actors genuinely seem like they're soulmates, not just in a romantic way because of the characters they play, but also in a non-romantic way in interviews. And I know a lot of this is for cameras n all and they probably dial it down a bit off-camera but the connection still feels incredibly strong between them. And it got me thinking that like I literally have nobody who understands me and matches my energy in that way, and so I was just wondering if anyone else has ever felt the same and if yes, how they managed to find someone who understands them to a T, who supports them, who is as weird as them and who they now call their best friend?
I'd appreciate any advice, thnx

Hello,

Unfortunately finding a friend is hard let alone a best friend that matches your vibes and energy. I’d say enjoy your year abroad while it’s lasting and make memories for yourself. In a few years when you reminisce on your year abroad you will not be bothered on whether you had a friend or not. Also, when you naturally go out on your own you’ll end up meeting more people.

-Sarah (Kingston Rep)