Reply 1
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by ribbed-pearhello!
this is really random but I am 19 and I noticed I have some noticeable peach fuzz of my face so I bought an electric razor, the flawless one as its supposed to be good
I’ve been insecure about having a mustache since I was about 12 and anytime I’d mention to my mum she’d crash out and wouldn’t let me and said it would grow back longer and worse than before
therefore due to this I ordered one from boots with an eyreshadow I wanted to get anyway and because my parcel was delayed and my mum wanted to see if I got the address right she saw I bought a razor and is crashing out as if I’ve just told her I’ve murdered someone and keeps saying she hates me and that if I use it she will throw me out and how I’m such a disappointment (she’s really nice usually but gets weird about stuff like this) idk what to do she already knows i’ve always been insecure about it but idk what to do she also wants me to give her back the £70 she gave me for driving lessons because she doesn’t want to have paid for it even though she hasn’t and i paid for it by myself
can you please tell me if what she’s saying is right and what I should do
I don’t like being “sly” but because I knew she would never agree I felt I could only buy it secretly
this is really random but I am 19 and I noticed I have some noticeable peach fuzz of my face so I bought an electric razor, the flawless one as its supposed to be good
I’ve been insecure about having a mustache since I was about 12 and anytime I’d mention to my mum she’d crash out and wouldn’t let me and said it would grow back longer and worse than before
therefore due to this I ordered one from boots with an eyreshadow I wanted to get anyway and because my parcel was delayed and my mum wanted to see if I got the address right she saw I bought a razor and is crashing out as if I’ve just told her I’ve murdered someone and keeps saying she hates me and that if I use it she will throw me out and how I’m such a disappointment (she’s really nice usually but gets weird about stuff like this) idk what to do she already knows i’ve always been insecure about it but idk what to do she also wants me to give her back the £70 she gave me for driving lessons because she doesn’t want to have paid for it even though she hasn’t and i paid for it by myself
can you please tell me if what she’s saying is right and what I should do
I don’t like being “sly” but because I knew she would never agree I felt I could only buy it secretly
It does seem like an extreme reaction, especially as you are 19 so you are not a child. But obviously I see you want to respect your mum. I wonder whether there is some personal reason why it is triggering her so much- like maybe she has her own insecurities about body hair or something from her past? Or do you think it is because it is specifically a razor and the blade could be dangerous in other ways?
I don’t really have any advice for you but do you think she may accept a compromise - for example have you ever tried threading? You can often get threading done in shopping centres or asian shops and I have found the hair grows back much finer as it comes out from the root. The first time is very painful but less so afterwards. The problem with using a razor on your face is that the hair definitely does grow back thicker as it doesn’t come out from the root fully but just cuts the hair more bluntly.
Anyway I don’t think you’re being unreasonable and hope you can find a way to talk to your Mum and get some understanding between you.
Reply 2
Aim to change her mood, not her mind.
Don't argue logically with her about the razor. Listen to what she has to say and remind her how much you love and respect her.
Keep the razor and use it. Just don't throw it in your mum's face that you're using it - IE don't use it in front of her.
Don't lie to her. Don't make promises to her that you won't keep.
Respect yourself, first and foremost. And respect your mum as a close second.
If she ever threatens to throw you out, start crying and tell her that you'd miss her so much if she were to do that.
In the meantime, do what you reasonably can to move out sooner rather than later. You're 19. You're an adult now. Time to leave the nest.
Don't argue logically with her about the razor. Listen to what she has to say and remind her how much you love and respect her.
Keep the razor and use it. Just don't throw it in your mum's face that you're using it - IE don't use it in front of her.
Don't lie to her. Don't make promises to her that you won't keep.
Respect yourself, first and foremost. And respect your mum as a close second.
If she ever threatens to throw you out, start crying and tell her that you'd miss her so much if she were to do that.
In the meantime, do what you reasonably can to move out sooner rather than later. You're 19. You're an adult now. Time to leave the nest.
Reply 3
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I think she’s being unreasonable. What she’s saying is nonsense and anyway you’re ann adult a can decide on this yourself. As to what to do, I would try to stand your ground, say your sorry she’s upset and that you don’t want to discuss it anymore
Reply 4
That's crazy unreasonable of her 😭
I mean, for starters, when you remove body hair, it doesn't come back stronger than before. It just looks it because it's regrowing blunt hair.
Unless you have a bad history with razors or something, I don't get why she is so pressed about it, as it's your body and you're 19. Nothing here she's saying here seems right.
I mean, for starters, when you remove body hair, it doesn't come back stronger than before. It just looks it because it's regrowing blunt hair.
Unless you have a bad history with razors or something, I don't get why she is so pressed about it, as it's your body and you're 19. Nothing here she's saying here seems right.
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