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why don't my friends invite me to anything

I think I'm probably overreacting but whenever my friends make plans together I never seem to get invited. I'm friends with lots of different people too so it's not just one group of people it's people who don't even know each other. everyone seems to be going places or hanging out all the time but they never invite me. like on Friday one of my first friends at college who I've known for like nearly 2 years now had a birthday get together and invited all our mutual friends except for me. I didn't even know it was happening because none of them told me until I found out that there was no point waiting for my best friend to finish his classes because he was going too. this doesn't even happen just outside of college sometimes in college I'll have to sit on a table by myself in break because they don't want to make room for me on their table, and if I am there they don't let me join in with their conversation. another one of my friends is going out soon for her birthday and they keep talking about it when im there. she keeps talking about it as like a girls night out and all the girls we're friends with are invited except for me. I feel like even though I'm friends with them I'm not close enough with any of them to be invited. my best friend cancelled hanging out with me today because he has too much work to do even though he wasn't doing anything yesterday and went out on Friday and last weekend and the weekend before. I always think maybe I need better friends but there isn't actually anyone else because everyone has already been with their friends for early two years and I've just been here. everyone already has their person so they don't need me as well.

Reply 1

Yeah, They are ALL definitely excluding you on purpose. I think they like the chase how you just sit there even though they ignore u. Think of it as some sort of entertainment. Man you need some better friends, try online or some other people? Even though everyone has their own person already, some people still want new friends.

Side note: your friends are horrible people but have you done something that they may have not liked...?

Reply 2

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by Anonymous
I think I'm probably overreacting but whenever my friends make plans together I never seem to get invited. I'm friends with lots of different people too so it's not just one group of people it's people who don't even know each other. everyone seems to be going places or hanging out all the time but they never invite me. like on Friday one of my first friends at college who I've known for like nearly 2 years now had a birthday get together and invited all our mutual friends except for me. I didn't even know it was happening because none of them told me until I found out that there was no point waiting for my best friend to finish his classes because he was going too. this doesn't even happen just outside of college sometimes in college I'll have to sit on a table by myself in break because they don't want to make room for me on their table, and if I am there they don't let me join in with their conversation. another one of my friends is going out soon for her birthday and they keep talking about it when im there. she keeps talking about it as like a girls night out and all the girls we're friends with are invited except for me. I feel like even though I'm friends with them I'm not close enough with any of them to be invited. my best friend cancelled hanging out with me today because he has too much work to do even though he wasn't doing anything yesterday and went out on Friday and last weekend and the weekend before. I always think maybe I need better friends but there isn't actually anyone else because everyone has already been with their friends for early two years and I've just been here. everyone already has their person so they don't need me as well.
yea idk. i feel like the same happens with me, and the only person who does invite me places i don't like for many very good reasons (homophobia [i'm gay and he doesn't know] is just one of the probably more tame examples) and all my friends who i actually like go out all the time and yet i never go with them. i've never even been to a single birthday party of a girl i consider my best friend. she's been to all of mine tho :tongue:

Reply 3

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by 1llusions
Yeah, They are ALL definitely excluding you on purpose. I think they like the chase how you just sit there even though they ignore u. Think of it as some sort of entertainment. Man you need some better friends, try online or some other people? Even though everyone has their own person already, some people still want new friends.
Side note: your friends are horrible people but have you done something that they may have not liked...?

honestly im not sure what I could've done, I fell out with one of the girls going to that birthday party last year but that was just between us and we have since made up. when I got with my (now ex) boyfriend I didn't spend as much time with my friends as before for obvious reasons, but even when we weren't together I didn't get invited places and a lot of the people I class as friends now are people I met while I was in a relationship. our relationship ended on good terms as well and we're still friends in the same circles so I don't know if its something related to that.. anyways its probably better if I stop moaning and just get on with life

Reply 4

Original post
by Anonymous
I think I'm probably overreacting but whenever my friends make plans together I never seem to get invited. I'm friends with lots of different people too so it's not just one group of people it's people who don't even know each other. everyone seems to be going places or hanging out all the time but they never invite me. like on Friday one of my first friends at college who I've known for like nearly 2 years now had a birthday get together and invited all our mutual friends except for me. I didn't even know it was happening because none of them told me until I found out that there was no point waiting for my best friend to finish his classes because he was going too. this doesn't even happen just outside of college sometimes in college I'll have to sit on a table by myself in break because they don't want to make room for me on their table, and if I am there they don't let me join in with their conversation. another one of my friends is going out soon for her birthday and they keep talking about it when im there. she keeps talking about it as like a girls night out and all the girls we're friends with are invited except for me. I feel like even though I'm friends with them I'm not close enough with any of them to be invited. my best friend cancelled hanging out with me today because he has too much work to do even though he wasn't doing anything yesterday and went out on Friday and last weekend and the weekend before. I always think maybe I need better friends but there isn't actually anyone else because everyone has already been with their friends for early two years and I've just been here. everyone already has their person so they don't need me as well.

I'll say it straight.
You need to either step up and make boundaries on what feels comfortable or not.
Personally i'd gang up on all of them and just interrogate but sadly i'm not you.
Find the weakest friend who's sweet and kind and easy to lie to.
Start getting close to them. Tell them that you don't know why everybody in your life keep separating for you
Keep pushing for an answer on why everyone is not inviting you.
Let her pity you or feel bad or sad idc just get her to tell you the reason.
If that doesn't work then honestly f em all and walk the other way, you are not a punching bag they can use for a day then forget about.

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