No motivation to study and feel mentally drained
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As I've said on the title, I have no motivation to study
I really need to lock in but I just feel mentally drained
Most of the time I just feel so empty and want to cry for no reason
Because of this I sometimes let my sadness out through anger and always end up in arguments with my parents
I understand my parents care for me so so much but I cannot control my emotions and I always regret it after
The conflict between me and my parents just lead me into more sadness and I just lose all motivation to study
I don't have a big passion or anything but I like the medicine field because it is something that sparks my interest more than the rest
And I also understand it is very competetive
But since october my grades have been slipping from like predicted GCSE 9s to predicted 7s or something
I also ****ed up my mocks because I felt like I didn't have the energy to revise which I understand is so stupid
I honestly don't know how to fix this whole situation and I want to go back to normal (where I was more happy and actually had more motivation to study)
I really need to lock in but I just feel mentally drained
Most of the time I just feel so empty and want to cry for no reason
Because of this I sometimes let my sadness out through anger and always end up in arguments with my parents
I understand my parents care for me so so much but I cannot control my emotions and I always regret it after
The conflict between me and my parents just lead me into more sadness and I just lose all motivation to study
I don't have a big passion or anything but I like the medicine field because it is something that sparks my interest more than the rest
And I also understand it is very competetive
But since october my grades have been slipping from like predicted GCSE 9s to predicted 7s or something
I also ****ed up my mocks because I felt like I didn't have the energy to revise which I understand is so stupid
I honestly don't know how to fix this whole situation and I want to go back to normal (where I was more happy and actually had more motivation to study)
Reply 1
Hey, I'm an A level student and honestly im feeling the same way right now, tbh procrastinating whilst writing this oops.
I justed wanted to say the you have to be gentle with yourself. I think especially this time of year everything feels quite depressing at times. I'm sure conflict with your parents isn't helping and im really sorry things are tough. It sounds like youve found somthing you're interested in, so I would try to follow that and find other things yourpassionate about and use them as fuel for your work. What I've found though is often by just accepting that i'm feeling bad and unmotivated and then figuring out how I might feel better really helps.
I know it can be really difficult when you don't get what you've aiming towards in mocks, but ultimately (as lots of people have probably told you) they don't matter. This is coming from someone who got mostly 6s in my mocks and left with 9s and an 8. It sounds like you're actually doing really well, I would cut yourself some slack. I'll be honest I get it, sometimes things just suck and life feels pretty awful. I think that the best way to deal with life when its like that is to accept what your feeling and just try to figure out what works for you to make you feel better. (Sorry this is turning into a bit of a rant!) Also, sometimes I find if I'm feeling mentally bad just to literally start working makes me feel a lot better, because it stops me spiraling in the guilt of not doing work.
Ultimately, things will get better, if you keep on trying to be positive and doing your best, that's all you can do. I know sometimes when things are really tough its really hard to see how things will get better, but inevitably they will.
I'm sorry this turned into a bit of a therapisty rant but I hope it was at least a tiny bit helpful!
I justed wanted to say the you have to be gentle with yourself. I think especially this time of year everything feels quite depressing at times. I'm sure conflict with your parents isn't helping and im really sorry things are tough. It sounds like youve found somthing you're interested in, so I would try to follow that and find other things yourpassionate about and use them as fuel for your work. What I've found though is often by just accepting that i'm feeling bad and unmotivated and then figuring out how I might feel better really helps.
I know it can be really difficult when you don't get what you've aiming towards in mocks, but ultimately (as lots of people have probably told you) they don't matter. This is coming from someone who got mostly 6s in my mocks and left with 9s and an 8. It sounds like you're actually doing really well, I would cut yourself some slack. I'll be honest I get it, sometimes things just suck and life feels pretty awful. I think that the best way to deal with life when its like that is to accept what your feeling and just try to figure out what works for you to make you feel better. (Sorry this is turning into a bit of a rant!) Also, sometimes I find if I'm feeling mentally bad just to literally start working makes me feel a lot better, because it stops me spiraling in the guilt of not doing work.
Ultimately, things will get better, if you keep on trying to be positive and doing your best, that's all you can do. I know sometimes when things are really tough its really hard to see how things will get better, but inevitably they will.
I'm sorry this turned into a bit of a therapisty rant but I hope it was at least a tiny bit helpful!
Reply 2
I know exactly what you mean, so I'm just gonna give you some things that I did and if it helps, it helps.
1. Delete social media. This is the best thing for me personally. I understand it gets really hard for some people but honestly, after a few months of not having it, you don't even crave it anymore and shi just feels peaceful. I didn't delete snap cause that's some of my friends main way of communication, but I deactivated and deleted insta and tiktok- best decision ever. I'll deffo get it back after GCSEs but I feel so good w this I lwk might delete it in yr 12 asw
2. Pinterest. It's such a feel good motivation board for me, where everything you see is curated for what YOU want it to be. I constantly interact w those tiktoks where it's like them "toxic" motivation (they don't seem toxic at all but it motivates me nonetheless) so its all over my feed. Plus, I really wanna live in LA when I'm older, so I fill my feed w things like that asw so it's like a small reminder as to what i could do if I actually lock TF in.
3. This is probably the most helpful if the other two don't seem very applicable, but abuse TF out of the weekends. Try not to wake up too late or that already starts it out lazy, and immediately play some good music when you wake up. Like you're some main character or sumn, idk I like it. Do your morning routine- brush, breakfast, blah blah- and then sit down on a table and chair- NO BED- and grind. Pick a hard subject. Something you don't like or find hard or that you're behind on. And don't base it on the amount of time you study, instead, focus on the amount of topics you do. And no music w lyrics when studying memorising things (I can give you recommendations on what you can listen to that helps if you need). By the time you get to lunch, you'll feel like you at least accomplished something. But lunch is your break and we are not getting off that grind. Eat your lunch and talk to people. Your parents, siblings, anyone and anything. Not watching your phone or TV. Or read a book. Sumn. The second you're done eating, GET BACK ON THAT GRIND. Start a new subject after luch. Do the same until dinner, yada yada yada.
4. Plan. I have a small book, and in that I have left two or three pages. All dedicated to why I want my grades. Why I need the grades. Then, on a seperate page, I write the date, how many days until GCSEs, how I'm feeling and what I'm gonna do. A small checklist and it gives me a reality check.
But yeah. I'm no study freak or school topper, but these things definitely have given me even the tiniest bit of motivation, and I'd say that is better than none. Plus, ik I'm not 'not capable' of getting the grades I want. And neither are you. No one is if they REALLY want it and REALLY out their mind into it. So literally just remind yourself how much you want the grades and that'll be reflected in the effort you put in.
1. Delete social media. This is the best thing for me personally. I understand it gets really hard for some people but honestly, after a few months of not having it, you don't even crave it anymore and shi just feels peaceful. I didn't delete snap cause that's some of my friends main way of communication, but I deactivated and deleted insta and tiktok- best decision ever. I'll deffo get it back after GCSEs but I feel so good w this I lwk might delete it in yr 12 asw
2. Pinterest. It's such a feel good motivation board for me, where everything you see is curated for what YOU want it to be. I constantly interact w those tiktoks where it's like them "toxic" motivation (they don't seem toxic at all but it motivates me nonetheless) so its all over my feed. Plus, I really wanna live in LA when I'm older, so I fill my feed w things like that asw so it's like a small reminder as to what i could do if I actually lock TF in.
3. This is probably the most helpful if the other two don't seem very applicable, but abuse TF out of the weekends. Try not to wake up too late or that already starts it out lazy, and immediately play some good music when you wake up. Like you're some main character or sumn, idk I like it. Do your morning routine- brush, breakfast, blah blah- and then sit down on a table and chair- NO BED- and grind. Pick a hard subject. Something you don't like or find hard or that you're behind on. And don't base it on the amount of time you study, instead, focus on the amount of topics you do. And no music w lyrics when studying memorising things (I can give you recommendations on what you can listen to that helps if you need). By the time you get to lunch, you'll feel like you at least accomplished something. But lunch is your break and we are not getting off that grind. Eat your lunch and talk to people. Your parents, siblings, anyone and anything. Not watching your phone or TV. Or read a book. Sumn. The second you're done eating, GET BACK ON THAT GRIND. Start a new subject after luch. Do the same until dinner, yada yada yada.
4. Plan. I have a small book, and in that I have left two or three pages. All dedicated to why I want my grades. Why I need the grades. Then, on a seperate page, I write the date, how many days until GCSEs, how I'm feeling and what I'm gonna do. A small checklist and it gives me a reality check.
But yeah. I'm no study freak or school topper, but these things definitely have given me even the tiniest bit of motivation, and I'd say that is better than none. Plus, ik I'm not 'not capable' of getting the grades I want. And neither are you. No one is if they REALLY want it and REALLY out their mind into it. So literally just remind yourself how much you want the grades and that'll be reflected in the effort you put in.
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