Is she signalling anything or could I be overthinking?
Six months ago back I expressed my feelings for a girl. I really enjoyed working with her, she bought a smile to my face and I felt happy. And I wanted to know whether there was something in the long term for us down the line. With me prepared to wait. She said I’m a decent guy and definitely something in the future.
I was talking to a colleague today, unfortunately due to the circumstances especially the environment story did spread sadly although I consider and trust the word of this colleague who is good friends with me and my brother and he went to me “Don’t quote me, although someone told me she regrets how things turned out in the end between the both or you?” I said to him look I’m being mindful and respectful over the fact that she didn’t want anything now, she had her opportunity and I knew she’ll regret it.
We rarely work the same shifts or days like we used to every opportunity we had we would find ourselves working together.. I was doing a double shift (12 hours) and as I was walking by she was glancing in my direction. She comes across as a shy and quiet girl. She’s sociable obviously to her girl mates perhaps but in general as it is she’s has a shy and quiet introverted personality.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to make things awkward like things are fine and cool between me and her yes I accepted her decision of not wanting to pursue something long term because I wanted to tell my mother so I can marry her by doing a nikkah. But if you’re here telling me you don’t want anything now why are you here making things awkward for me and I’m just being respectful and mindful of what you want what more can I do.
Am I overthinking this? Is she signalling something here. What do I do like I really like her she’s a sweet, well mannered and hardworking polite girl very beautiful and pretty but I’m so lost and confused 😕.
I was talking to a colleague today, unfortunately due to the circumstances especially the environment story did spread sadly although I consider and trust the word of this colleague who is good friends with me and my brother and he went to me “Don’t quote me, although someone told me she regrets how things turned out in the end between the both or you?” I said to him look I’m being mindful and respectful over the fact that she didn’t want anything now, she had her opportunity and I knew she’ll regret it.
We rarely work the same shifts or days like we used to every opportunity we had we would find ourselves working together.. I was doing a double shift (12 hours) and as I was walking by she was glancing in my direction. She comes across as a shy and quiet girl. She’s sociable obviously to her girl mates perhaps but in general as it is she’s has a shy and quiet introverted personality.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to make things awkward like things are fine and cool between me and her yes I accepted her decision of not wanting to pursue something long term because I wanted to tell my mother so I can marry her by doing a nikkah. But if you’re here telling me you don’t want anything now why are you here making things awkward for me and I’m just being respectful and mindful of what you want what more can I do.
Am I overthinking this? Is she signalling something here. What do I do like I really like her she’s a sweet, well mannered and hardworking polite girl very beautiful and pretty but I’m so lost and confused 😕.
Reply 1
I feel like you posted about this before. Irrespective, I don't see an actual example of anything she's done to make it awkward. You have mentioned her glancing at you, which given you work together is going to happen at some point. She can't constantly put her eyes somewhere else. Work place romances and things like this rarely stay a secret, but it sounds to me that as much as you say you respect her decision, you're still struggling with that rejection and are reading too much into her really rather innocuous actions.
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by Crazy JamieI feel like you posted about this before. Irrespective, I don't see an actual example of anything she's done to make it awkward. You have mentioned her glancing at you, which given you work together is going to happen at some point. She can't constantly put her eyes somewhere else. Work place romances and things like this rarely stay a secret, but it sounds to me that as much as you say you respect her decision, you're still struggling with that rejection and are reading too much into her really rather innocuous actions.
I wouldn’t say I’m struggling because I’m totally over her. Although what if the colleague I spoke to is genuinely saying the truth in this case then what is this…?
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by AnonymousI wouldn’t say I’m struggling because I’m totally over her. Although what if the colleague I spoke to is genuinely saying the truth in this case then what is this…?
The colleague's information is third hand. He's telling you something that someone else told him. He didn't even hear it from her directly. Even if it is right, she might not regret her decision but the manner in which it happened. Even if she regrets rejecting you, it doesn't mean she wants to take things further with you now. I can understand why you would overthink this, but unless you get something tangible from her, I'd just ignore it. If you must do something about it, just talk to her directly about it, but I strongly suspect the information won't be correct or there will have been some other miscommunication.
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by Crazy JamieThe colleague's information is third hand. He's telling you something that someone else told him. He didn't even hear it from her directly. Even if it is right, she might not regret her decision but the manner in which it happened. Even if she regrets rejecting you, it doesn't mean she wants to take things further with you now. I can understand why you would overthink this, but unless you get something tangible from her, I'd just ignore it. If you must do something about it, just talk to her directly about it, but I strongly suspect the information won't be correct or there will have been some other miscommunication.
Yeah I said to him look I do take your word for it although she had her opportunity and yet I respect what she initially wanted yet knew she’ll eventually regret the outcome of what happened between us. Yeah I’m not wrong in my part to overthink it here. I don’t intend to do anything about it although the month of Ramadan is only a week away and I hope to utilise Ramadan productively especially spiritually and what maybe afterwards.
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