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Missing Old Uni

Hi everyone,

I completed a foundation year and progressed onto first year then ended up leaving in my second semester. I decided to return to my studies at a different university (same city). I'm in second year now but I honestly hate my course and the uni, and I feel pretty isolated.

I'd like some advice on how to get through until I graduate because currently all I can think about is how much I regret leaving my original course, and how I could have fixed the problems I had that led me to leave (mental health stuff mostly). It's really taking a toll and I barely attend uni anymore because I feel no sense of belonging here.
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by rubbergeorge65
Hi everyone,
I completed a foundation year and progressed onto first year then ended up leaving in my second semester. I decided to return to my studies at a different university (same city). I'm in second year now but I honestly hate my course and the uni, and I feel pretty isolated.
I'd like some advice on how to get through until I graduate because currently all I can think about is how much I regret leaving my original course, and how I could have fixed the problems I had that led me to leave (mental health stuff mostly). It's really taking a toll and I barely attend uni anymore because I feel no sense of belonging here.

Hey,

Failing modules does not make you stupid, lazy or a disappointment. It usually means something significant was getting in the way, and you have already identified that your mental health played a part. That matters. First year is one of the most common points at which students struggle. The shift in independence, pace and expectations can be overwhelming, especially alongside anxiety, depression or burnout. Universities know this, which is why mitigating circumstances exist.

It may help to separate what happened from what you are telling yourself about it. What happened is that you failed three modules during a period of poor mental health. What your mind is adding is that you are stupid, hopeless or a disappointment. Those are not facts, they are shame responses. They feel convincing, but they are not objective truths about your ability or potential.

This is not the end of your degree. Most universities have clear processes for resits, repeating modules, progressing with support or, if needed, repeating the year. Many students fail first year modules and still go on to graduate and do well. In many cases, first year does not contribute to the final classification. You are also already doing the difficult and important part by acknowledging your mental health, seeking support and applying for mitigation. That shows maturity and effort, even if it does not feel like it.

Please consider speaking to your personal tutor, academic adviser or student wellbeing team and be honest about how this has affected you. You can say that you have applied for mitigation and are struggling with motivation but want help moving forward. You do not need to carry this alone. Feeling disgusted with yourself usually comes from caring deeply and being afraid of what this means. You do not need punishment, you need support, stability and time. You are not broken. You are a student who has struggled, and that is something that can be worked through.

Good Luck 😊
Arslan University of Salford Student Representative

Reply 2

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by University of Salford Student Rep
Hey,
Failing modules does not make you stupid, lazy or a disappointment. It usually means something significant was getting in the way, and you have already identified that your mental health played a part. That matters. First year is one of the most common points at which students struggle. The shift in independence, pace and expectations can be overwhelming, especially alongside anxiety, depression or burnout. Universities know this, which is why mitigating circumstances exist.
It may help to separate what happened from what you are telling yourself about it. What happened is that you failed three modules during a period of poor mental health. What your mind is adding is that you are stupid, hopeless or a disappointment. Those are not facts, they are shame responses. They feel convincing, but they are not objective truths about your ability or potential.
This is not the end of your degree. Most universities have clear processes for resits, repeating modules, progressing with support or, if needed, repeating the year. Many students fail first year modules and still go on to graduate and do well. In many cases, first year does not contribute to the final classification. You are also already doing the difficult and important part by acknowledging your mental health, seeking support and applying for mitigation. That shows maturity and effort, even if it does not feel like it.
Please consider speaking to your personal tutor, academic adviser or student wellbeing team and be honest about how this has affected you. You can say that you have applied for mitigation and are struggling with motivation but want help moving forward. You do not need to carry this alone. Feeling disgusted with yourself usually comes from caring deeply and being afraid of what this means. You do not need punishment, you need support, stability and time. You are not broken. You are a student who has struggled, and that is something that can be worked through.
Good Luck 😊
Arslan University of Salford Student Representative

I do appreciate the reply but I didn't fail anything, I chose to leave my original uni because my mental health problems were really bad. I passed my exams, which is why I think I should have stayed and tried again.

I've also passed everything at my current uni, it just isn't something I enjoy and I don't really have any friends here.
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by username7914687
I do appreciate the reply but I didn't fail anything, I chose to leave my original uni because my mental health problems were really bad. I passed my exams, which is why I think I should have stayed and tried again.
I've also passed everything at my current uni, it just isn't something I enjoy and I don't really have any friends here.

Hey,

Hi there, first of all, I’m sorry for mis-reading the original post and really glad you reached out. Choosing to step away when your mental health was struggling take a lot of self-awareness. Many students take non-linear paths, and feelings of regret or “what if” thinking are incredibly common, especially when you know you’re academically capable. Passing then and now shows ability was never the issue; the real question is belonging and fulfilment.

It sounds like three things are weighing on you: regret about leaving your original course, dissatisfaction with your current one, and feeling isolated. That combination can make everything feel heavier. It’s also worth remembering that regret can romanticise the past. You made the best decision you could with the mental state you had at the time, and that version of you deserves compassion.

Before resigning yourself to just surviving until graduation, consider whether there are options you haven’t explored. Is transferring truly impossible? Could you switch modules, take a placement year, or reconnect socially with people from your previous university? Even knowing you’ve properly explored your choices can reduce the sense of being trapped. And if isolation is amplifying your dislike of the course, start small: sit in the same place each week, join one society, study in shared spaces, or begin one conversation about coursework. Belonging grows through small, repeated steps.

Finally, don’t dismiss support just because you’re passing. If mental health played a role before, it’s worth proactively accessing counselling or wellbeing services now. There isn’t a guaranteed “better” timeline, only different ones, and the goal isn’t to rewrite the past but to make your present manageable and your future intentional. It’s okay to reassess and choose again if you need to.

Good Luck 😊
Arslan University of Salford Student Representative

Reply 4

Original post
by username7914687
Hi everyone,
I completed a foundation year and progressed onto first year then ended up leaving in my second semester. I decided to return to my studies at a different university (same city). I'm in second year now but I honestly hate my course and the uni, and I feel pretty isolated.
I'd like some advice on how to get through until I graduate because currently all I can think about is how much I regret leaving my original course, and how I could have fixed the problems I had that led me to leave (mental health stuff mostly). It's really taking a toll and I barely attend uni anymore because I feel no sense of belonging here.

Hey,

First of all, congratulations on returning to uni, it shows a lot of resilience and discipline!

The truth is, we make choices based on who we are and what we can handle in the moment. You left because you were struggling mentally, and right now, it sounds like you’re grieving “what it could have been” more than just hating your current course.

If finishing uni is the right move for your future goals, try emotionally detaching for a bit and treating this like a stepping stone.

I hope this helped, best of luck!

Sabina :smile:

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