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My Mom is always ill...its driving me up the bloody wall
Im sorry but I have to let this off somewhere I am absolutely ENRAGED.. I am sick to death of my mom being ill. And I know that sounds heartless...but since september now on and off everytime Im at home she's had the bloody flu.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Reply 1
Could you not go elsewhere to revise? Perhaps to the local library or somewhere else which is relatively quiet?
Are you an only child? Could you not ask a sibling/relative to keep your mum company whilst you revise?
Alternatively, have you thought about airing your concerns over your revision to you mother? Maybe she doesn't realise what a burden she is being.
Are you an only child? Could you not ask a sibling/relative to keep your mum company whilst you revise?
Alternatively, have you thought about airing your concerns over your revision to you mother? Maybe she doesn't realise what a burden she is being.
Reply 2
I feel absolutely awful for moaning I really do... I must sound like a horrible person No, I love her and shes my mom afterall its my place to make sure she's ok. I just wished that when I came home we could have a relaxing time- especially as we had had our difficulties about me going to uni at all let alone to do med. I mean I just am frustrated/worried/concerned that she is ill as often as she is.
I wrote that last post when I was quite angry, which is quite out of character for me- but she had told me that she didnt care about my career or my life and didnt want to hear any more about the topic, after trying to breach the subject of telling her I need more time to work.
For example, I asked her, [ we are having a big house extension] whether it would be possible to delay until Jan when I go back to uni. Initially she said yes not a problem, I come home to find work men all over the place and understandably a lot of noise. And I find it hard to concentrate, I live in the countryside so theres not much in the way of libraries. Im just thinking saying "oh im sorry my mom was ill and we had a house extension" isnt going to cut it as a plausible reason as to why I failed my Jan exams. The only thing I can think of, is we have a house in London I might just go down for a couple of days...perhaps it'll give me some time to do some work and maybe a little seperation could ease tensions a little?
I feel like a terrible daughter
Good god, you're at medical school yet this is how you respond to a difficult patient?
If she keeps being ill maybe there is something wrong that just hasn't been picked up on, having flu 7 times in 3 months doesn't seem normal to me. Try and be a bit more sympathetic, and be thankful you have another house to go to, which is more than most people have!
If she keeps being ill maybe there is something wrong that just hasn't been picked up on, having flu 7 times in 3 months doesn't seem normal to me. Try and be a bit more sympathetic, and be thankful you have another house to go to, which is more than most people have!
Reply 6
My Mum's like this but to a much lesser extent. She always seems to have a cold, goes on about her neuralgia all the time and if you say you're not feeling to great she tries to convince you she's even sicker. I'm accustomed to it now and to a point I notice myself doing it too lol. Part hypochondria, part attention seeking.
Reply 7
Strange that it's been every time you've been home. Are you in your first year at uni?
Maybe your mum just misses you, and thinks that if she says she's ill, that you'd visit more. 7 times in 3 months, if that's how many times you've been home, maybe it is that she just misses you.
Maybe your mum just misses you, and thinks that if she says she's ill, that you'd visit more. 7 times in 3 months, if that's how many times you've been home, maybe it is that she just misses you.
Reply 8
Anonymous
Im sorry but I have to let this off somewhere I am absolutely ENRAGED.. I am sick to death of my mom being ill. And I know that sounds heartless...but since september now on and off everytime Im at home she's had the bloody flu.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Coming form a medic surely you find illness interesting.
Nothing you can do really, at the end of the day she is your mum.
And id does appear that you have a bit of a personality and health issue with this.
Reply 9
My mum has always found a reason to never to be with my sis and I. It's bloody annoying. Her main reason why is she has a bloody headache. Who can't have a headache for 52 days. Can anyone tell me is this possible?😖
Original post by Band geek
My mum has always found a reason to never to be with my sis and I. It's bloody annoying. Her main reason why is she has a bloody headache. Who can't have a headache for 52 days. Can anyone tell me is this possible?😖
This is an old thread.
Reply 11
That's true love right there
Caring for your exams over your own mother
NICE ONE
Caring for your exams over your own mother
NICE ONE
Original post by Anonymous
Im sorry but I have to let this off somewhere I am absolutely ENRAGED.. I am sick to death of my mom being ill. And I know that sounds heartless...but since september now on and off everytime Im at home she's had the bloody flu.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Sounds like you need some space so this doesn't get to you so much. I understand how annoying health issues can be, even if you do love the person. It's understandable that you would get stressed over something like this. It's interfering with your life and giving you issues. Doesn't mean you hate your mum for it or anything, you just need to vent.
Is there a coffee shop, park, pizza hut, pub or something you could take a laptop or some books to? That could be a better place for you to revise sometimes. You could even invest in some decent headphones or earplugs for a quieter experience.
Might be good to get some space if nothing else so you're not constantly having to deal with your mum and brother.
You could also look into accommodation you can stay in over summer for later years.
Hope that helps
Original post by Anonymous
Im sorry but I have to let this off somewhere I am absolutely ENRAGED.. I am sick to death of my mom being ill. And I know that sounds heartless...but since september now on and off everytime Im at home she's had the bloody flu.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Now I understand that the flu isnt very nice, but at the end of the day ITS JUST THE FLU. She'll sit there and complain "AAArgh I just dont feel well enough to do anything"...to put things into perspective she has been ill 7 times since september.
The night before I started university september 22nd, I was in a and e with her for 6 hours to get her ear checked....we did so and the doctor said theres nothing wrong.
Ive taken her to 4 doctors, they all say the same nothing major...just go to deal with it. Now I feel ill, I cant revise I AM GOING TO FAIL MY MEDICAL SCHOOL EXAMS because I have to keep looking after my brother...and I just cannot cope with this anymore. Its everytime I come home, theres something different wrong with her....
...I dont know what to do, I have a heart problem myself Im that angry at the moment, i keep having tachycardic runs..I need to calm myself down. At the end of the day I get cluster headaches, but u know what you just take some BLOODY PARACETEMOL dont you?
Im just at the end of my absolute tether. She has got a thing with her health from being ill in childhood...I understand that, buts it getting to the point where theres somethign different every week. And god forbid Id be distraught if anything was wrong with her, but right now I need to get out.
but i cant because of revision i just feel as though everything is coming down on top of me and i cant do anything to stop it.
Flu isn't just a bad cold. It's a serious disease which can and does kill a lot of people.
That said, you need to get yourself into a more healthy situation.
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