I don't think anyone would want to date me because of my job

I am a recycling worker and I don't think women would want to date me because of this as they went to university and have professional jobs.

But:

Man named a is a recycling worker and his partner is a teacher

Man named j is a recycling worker and his partner is a professional

Man named r is a coach driver and his partner went to university

Man named j is a security guard and his partner is a professional worker

Same with another man who is a plumber who's partner is an accountant

Reply 1

Crazy Jamie

19

What do you want us to say? It's not right to say that women who have been to university are only open to dating men who have also been to university, and you know that yourself because you know of several men who are with better educated women. That must mean the same is possible for you as well, but you may also come across a woman who hasn't been to university that you click with. I don't think we can add much to that.

Reply 2

Admit-One

Universities Forum Helper

21

I mean, you say no one would like to date you because of your job, then immediately list numerous examples of people dating others with unskilled jobs quite readily, (although I wouldn't count plumber amongst these).

The reality is that for many people, having good work ethic and not being a complete berk is more than enough.

Reply 3

Old Skool Freak

20

Original post

by Anonymous

I am a recycling worker and I don't think women would want to date me because of this as they went to university and have professional jobs.
But:
Man named a is a recycling worker and his partner is a teacher
Man named j is a recycling worker and his partner is a professional
Man named r is a coach driver and his partner went to university
Man named j is a security guard and his partner is a professional worker
Same with another man who is a plumber who's partner is an accountant

So what?

I'm guessing that in the cases of these examples you've given, there's far more to their attraction / relationship(s) than their occupations (e.g. looks, personality, mutual interest / compatibility etc.)… so rather than focusing on why women wouldn't want to date you, why not think about the reasons why they would? What is it about you that potentially makes you special or desirable to other people?

For the record, in between graduating from my bachelors degree and starting my postgrad, I actually worked as a dustman during that summer. Admittedly it's the kind of job that I was always threatened with if you don't do well academically, apart from that it's good money & because it involves running behind a truck and moving bins, you still need to be reasonably physically fit and strong to do it. Moreover, whilst it may not be the most glamourous profession, I'm sure most women would take that over a layabout who is happy to live of benefits.

So yeah... any job that provides a roof over your head, puts food on your table etc. (and is legal / legit, of course) is a "proper" job IMHO.

(edited 1 month ago)

Reply 4

StriderHort

21

Yeah I've worked in recycling/gardens/dirty stuff/manual trades... never has it got in the way of my dating life I'm aware of. Like you're taking it as an absolute that women go to university and men don't? I've graduated uni and I currently drive a van because it's what suits me for now. There's also a huge difference between deciding recycling is all you'll ever do and slumming it in a steady low paid job while you make other plans to improve yourself or progress, and that's the sort of thing decent potential partners notice more imo.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post

by StriderHort

Yeah I've worked in recycling/gardens/dirty stuff/manual trades... never has it got in the way of my dating life I'm aware of. Like you're taking it as an absolute that women go to university and men don't? I've graduated uni and I currently drive a van because it's what suits me for now. There's also a huge difference between deciding recycling is all you'll ever do and slumming it in a steady low paid job while you make other plans to improve yourself or progress, and that's the sort of thing decent potential partners notice more imo.

If you don't mind me asking, what is your job now?

Reply 6

StriderHort

21

Original post

by Anonymous

If you don't mind me asking, what is your job now?

Right now I'm a van driver for supermarkets, I'm certainly capable of higher level employment but this suits me for now. My partner is quite a bit more qualified than me and has her masters but that's never been an issue, if anything I'm prob still the one that's brought in the most/more consisent earnings over the last decade odd.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post

by StriderHort

Right now I'm a van driver for supermarkets, I'm certainly capable of higher level employment but this suits me for now. My partner is quite a bit more qualified than me and has her masters but that's never been an issue, if anything I'm prob still the one that's brought in the most/more consisent earnings over the last decade odd.