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Should I give away his teddy

So I broke up with my ex for the last time back in October however we were very un enough for the entire year. And in doing this I blocked him absolutely everywhere including TikTok Snapchat and Instagram which he’d been blocked on for about a year before I officially officially ended it. It was only WhatsApp he wasn’t blocked on because we spoke fairly often until I blocked him for good back in October. However, since I don’t use Xbox too often I forgot to block him and he texted me on the 18th of February just saying how are you? How are my cats blah blah blah. I answered not straight away of course, but I also mirrored his response time if he took three days to reply I took three days to reply. So a couple days later, he asked me if he could get his childhood Teddy that he had given me three years ago. Obviously, I’m not against this even though I told him strict boundaries that he’s not coming to collect it and he’s not meeting up with me but I’m happy to post it. He said that’s fine and I said since it’s his he should pay for shipping which he agreed. However since then I’ve been arranging all the logistics I found the shipping company, I put in the details, I even asked for his address and he was taking quite long to reply and I could tell this was on purpose. And this was quite infuriating, especially since it’s his item and he initiated contact first so I don’t see why he should be taking five days to reply when he doesn’t have a job or go to school and just sits at home. Anyway, when I finish setting up the logistics, I finally had the price. I told him how much it would be and since then it’s been radio silence. This was about a week ago and I still haven’t got an answer yet the past couple of days he’s benn constantly
stalking my TikTok accounts on a alternative account and this is the first time I’m noticing it in years. So I’m annoyed that he’s not replying back to finish this ordeal, but he has time to stalk both of my TikTok accounts multiple times a day. And what’s even scarier is that my alt account which doesn’t have my name, my face, or anything is also being stalked. Anyway, this prolonged chain of Messages is really starting to drag out and I think I’m just gonna give his teddies to charity because obviously he’s not interested and he’s too busy stalking my profiles and because I just wanna get rid of everything, I’ve already gotten rid of our pictures, all the gifts and letters and also because I frankly don’t want any memory of him because he wasn’t the best boyfriend.

Should I wait for a response or just send the teddy to charity or throw away because I’m honestly tired and I’m not being respected here

Reply 1

I am sorry you had a bad time with your boyfriend, and i am sorry for the stress this teddy situation is causing you. It is hard to advice, but I will suggest an alternative possibility. Send the teddy back, at your expenses, and cut the final tie with your ex. I don't know how much money we are talking about, but if they relieve you from feeling guilty at throwing away someone's childhood memory and the help you closing this last chapter of a relationship you clearly don't cherish, they are money well spent. I wish you all the best for your future

Reply 2

I would post it. You’ve done the decent thing and drawn a final line with the return of this item

Reply 3

Original post
by Anonymous
So I broke up with my ex for the last time back in October however we were very un enough for the entire year. And in doing this I blocked him absolutely everywhere including TikTok Snapchat and Instagram which he’d been blocked on for about a year before I officially officially ended it. It was only WhatsApp he wasn’t blocked on because we spoke fairly often until I blocked him for good back in October. However, since I don’t use Xbox too often I forgot to block him and he texted me on the 18th of February just saying how are you? How are my cats blah blah blah. I answered not straight away of course, but I also mirrored his response time if he took three days to reply I took three days to reply. So a couple days later, he asked me if he could get his childhood Teddy that he had given me three years ago. Obviously, I’m not against this even though I told him strict boundaries that he’s not coming to collect it and he’s not meeting up with me but I’m happy to post it. He said that’s fine and I said since it’s his he should pay for shipping which he agreed. However since then I’ve been arranging all the logistics I found the shipping company, I put in the details, I even asked for his address and he was taking quite long to reply and I could tell this was on purpose. And this was quite infuriating, especially since it’s his item and he initiated contact first so I don’t see why he should be taking five days to reply when he doesn’t have a job or go to school and just sits at home. Anyway, when I finish setting up the logistics, I finally had the price. I told him how much it would be and since then it’s been radio silence. This was about a week ago and I still haven’t got an answer yet the past couple of days he’s benn constantly
stalking my TikTok accounts on a alternative account and this is the first time I’m noticing it in years. So I’m annoyed that he’s not replying back to finish this ordeal, but he has time to stalk both of my TikTok accounts multiple times a day. And what’s even scarier is that my alt account which doesn’t have my name, my face, or anything is also being stalked. Anyway, this prolonged chain of Messages is really starting to drag out and I think I’m just gonna give his teddies to charity because obviously he’s not interested and he’s too busy stalking my profiles and because I just wanna get rid of everything, I’ve already gotten rid of our pictures, all the gifts and letters and also because I frankly don’t want any memory of him because he wasn’t the best boyfriend.
Should I wait for a response or just send the teddy to charity or throw away because I’m honestly tired and I’m not being respected here

From one of my own experiences i would agree that he's most probably and maybe even definitely doing all of this to you on purpose. Most people who reply late / respond late would usually have a reason as to why. An example of this would be a friend using the '"I've been so busy with work" line. However, considering that you can see him popping up on your TikTok accounts, its clear that he isn't even as busy as he seems. The reason he's replying late is because his method on you is working just the way he wants it too. What i mean by that is he wants you to keep having him in your mind especially with knowing that no matter how long you take to reply in return, he knows you will reply.
It seems to be that he's going with the aspect of dragging the whole thing out for as long as possible. In my opinion, he's had his time to want this childhood teddy back. Also to mention, if he wanted the teddy back so badly he wouldn't be taking days and now a whole week to reply. And i agree with your last statement, you aren't being respected at all and its not fair since its clear that its taking a toll on you when I'm sure you have far more better things to be focusing on and doing with your life. My final take on this? Get rid of the teddy by giving it to charity, selling it, or even binning it. You shouldn't of had to go through the whole process of mailing it back to him just for him to not bother replying, despite looking at all of your TikTok accounts. :smile:

Reply 4

Original post
by Anonymous
So I broke up with my ex for the last time back in October however we were very un enough for the entire year. And in doing this I blocked him absolutely everywhere including TikTok Snapchat and Instagram which he’d been blocked on for about a year before I officially officially ended it. It was only WhatsApp he wasn’t blocked on because we spoke fairly often until I blocked him for good back in October. However, since I don’t use Xbox too often I forgot to block him and he texted me on the 18th of February just saying how are you? How are my cats blah blah blah. I answered not straight away of course, but I also mirrored his response time if he took three days to reply I took three days to reply. So a couple days later, he asked me if he could get his childhood Teddy that he had given me three years ago. Obviously, I’m not against this even though I told him strict boundaries that he’s not coming to collect it and he’s not meeting up with me but I’m happy to post it. He said that’s fine and I said since it’s his he should pay for shipping which he agreed. However since then I’ve been arranging all the logistics I found the shipping company, I put in the details, I even asked for his address and he was taking quite long to reply and I could tell this was on purpose. And this was quite infuriating, especially since it’s his item and he initiated contact first so I don’t see why he should be taking five days to reply when he doesn’t have a job or go to school and just sits at home. Anyway, when I finish setting up the logistics, I finally had the price. I told him how much it would be and since then it’s been radio silence. This was about a week ago and I still haven’t got an answer yet the past couple of days he’s benn constantly
stalking my TikTok accounts on a alternative account and this is the first time I’m noticing it in years. So I’m annoyed that he’s not replying back to finish this ordeal, but he has time to stalk both of my TikTok accounts multiple times a day. And what’s even scarier is that my alt account which doesn’t have my name, my face, or anything is also being stalked. Anyway, this prolonged chain of Messages is really starting to drag out and I think I’m just gonna give his teddies to charity because obviously he’s not interested and he’s too busy stalking my profiles and because I just wanna get rid of everything, I’ve already gotten rid of our pictures, all the gifts and letters and also because I frankly don’t want any memory of him because he wasn’t the best boyfriend.
Should I wait for a response or just send the teddy to charity or throw away because I’m honestly tired and I’m not being respected here

Give him a deadline to send what you need then, if no response, give it to charity.
(edited 1 month ago)
I would just set a deadline.

"Hey, I'm still happy to post this. Could you let me know by XXX. If I don't hear back it will likely be going along with some other things I am clearing out.".

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