I don't have any close friends

What do you do when you don't have any close friends and need to go out and talk ? I know people from different places but they are rarely available and trying to connect with them is always met with late answers and no clear break but the distance is there. It's the kind of people you can have a casual chat with, but you wouldn't talk about your life problems because it would be tmi.

A lot of the time, reaching out feels like begging for attention rather than the friendship being mutual and lately, the perspective of them not answering has discouraged me from sending the first message, a lot. They don't reach out either.

I've moved a lot in my life and have not had time to build proper friendships through lived experiences together.
The rare close friendships I had slowly faded as they met new people and we were only keeping in touch long-distance.

Reply 1

pet_yj

Same here.

Reply 2

jelllyfiiish

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I recommend going on walks or jogs alone, it helped me refresh my mind anytime I felt lonely. Similarly, nature is beautiful, give yourself time to visualise the great world around you :h:

If you miss company, I also recommend giving family members (e.g. a parent, sibling) a call whilst going on that walk

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by Anonymous

What do you do when you don't have any close friends and need to go out and talk ? I know people from different places but they are rarely available and trying to connect with them is always met with late answers and no clear break but the distance is there. It's the kind of people you can have a casual chat with, but you wouldn't talk about your life problems because it would be tmi.
A lot of the time, reaching out feels like begging for attention rather than the friendship being mutual and lately, the perspective of them not answering has discouraged me from sending the first message, a lot. They don't reach out either.
I've moved a lot in my life and have not had time to build proper friendships through lived experiences together.
The rare close friendships I had slowly faded as they met new people and we were only keeping in touch long-distance.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

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by jelllyfiiish

I recommend going on walks or jogs alone, it helped me refresh my mind anytime I felt lonely. Similarly, nature is beautiful, give yourself time to visualise the great world around you :h:

If you miss company, I also recommend giving family members (e.g. a parent, sibling) a call whilst going on that walk

I do go out quite a lot since I go to uni and I live at home, so I have my family. I just don't have any friends (or very very unavailable ones) 🥲

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

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by pet_yj

Same here.

I am not alone I guess

Reply 5

on the shore

Pretty much the same here as well

I feel like no one really likes me enough

All my friends just slowly distance themselves from me
It does hurt. No one ever stays

While I haven't got any advice, I can say just hang in there - you'll find your people some day!

Reply 6

kgoldfalcon

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by Anonymous

What do you do when you don't have any close friends and need to go out and talk ? I know people from different places but they are rarely available and trying to connect with them is always met with late answers and no clear break but the distance is there. It's the kind of people you can have a casual chat with, but you wouldn't talk about your life problems because it would be tmi.
A lot of the time, reaching out feels like begging for attention rather than the friendship being mutual and lately, the perspective of them not answering has discouraged me from sending the first message, a lot. They don't reach out either.
I've moved a lot in my life and have not had time to build proper friendships through lived experiences together.
The rare close friendships I had slowly faded as they met new people and we were only keeping in touch long-distance.

When i didn't have a close friends, i just carried doing my hobby and talked with the regulars in that in which i was invited for just a meal after a training session in a cafe nearby which was quite productive and hilarious. Honestly, i have more ''friends'' who are older (22-45) than my own age (18) because i think there are just things that click for me with people who have jobs, children, houses and other stuff...even though i don't have any of that yet.

Overall, just know it can still be worse...i dont use social media (insta, snap etc none of that stuff) except whatsapp and youtube, so i have to do more physical stuff than look at a screen...im clueless if you ask me for anything social media related 😄. Maybe look for more physical interactions than online even if it is just 1hr or a quick 15min lunch