am i in a dead end relationship?

I’ll try to keep this as succinct as possible-
me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, we’ve had a few ups and downs, mainly because our ways of dealing with disagreements and arguments are very different, and so make situations worse- he likes to ignore and brush things under the rug and go back to business as usual without any clear resolution, whereas i need to face things head on, talk it out, see where our differences are and why and figure out how we can move forward and be better. we’re both stubborn, so he hates how i push this and make him talk, but i won’t back down. eventually he opens up, apologises for shutting me out, and we’re good.
sticking to the stubborn theme- he’s going through some work troubles right now. he was in car sales when i met him, a job suited so well for him because he has the gift of the gab, is very likeable and extroverted. something happened in this job that made him walk away, it was minor, but he felt invalued and so he walked. we had only been together a short time then so i didn’t feel like i could really give my true opinions on it, i just supported him and allowed him to choose his own path. he went onto taxis, which he had done years prior, and basically crashed and burned. he wasn’t making nearly enough money to make ends meet and ended up in a lot of debt, was struggling mentally and physically with hours and having to work all day every day to make a dent in his debts, and it was really affecting our relationship, we hardly talked, he was easily rattled and i was starting to see the cracks, but he couldn’t because like i said, he ignores these things and doesn’t think they’re big deals. anyway, fast forward, he goes back into car sales this year after realising he really needs a more steady job that will pay better. it’s been 3 months, and today he overslept, meaning 2 clients he was closing deals on ended up being dealt with by somebody else who therefore got the money. he’s obviously annoyed and wants to leave now. and like i said, being stubborn, nothing can change his mind. i sympathised a bit, saying how that doesn’t sound like a great start to the day and that i was sorry it happened, but if he oversleeps, he sort of only has himself to blame? i mean, customers can’t wait for him if they don’t know where he is or when he’ll come in, so they’ll either walk away entirely, making the business look bad, or someone can jump in and deal with it. i get he feels robbed but, if you oversleep.. what can you expect?
he wasn’t happy i said this, he said i don’t understand, he hates it, wants to walk away from it all and go back onto taxis. i said this isn’t clever, he hated the taxis, they didn’t pay well, he struggled with the hours and ultimately ended up leaving for good reason, so why would he want to go back to that? i said if he wants to leave then that’s fine, i’ll back him, but he needs to have another stable job lined up before jumping ship or he’ll be back at square one. and he may not remember what that was like but i do, and selfishly, i can’t take that again, he was so down about not being able to afford things, and i couldn’t do a lot to help him. it strained us. and i feel like he doesn’t care, because of how much he avoids things and ignores them, and i just feel like all the conversations we had after our arguments, about how to better ourselves for the future us, have all been for nothing.
and maybe im thinking too deep, but say one day we move in together and want to make a life together, i can’t deal with someone who’s constantly jumping from job to job with cuts in pay and all the rest of it just because things aren’t going his way, i can just see me now being the one having to pick up the slack and it’s not fair.
so i honestly just feel like im in a rut, after i told him to line up another job before leaving he said i was arguing with him. he just doesn’t want to hear it, he wants me to lay down and agree to every word he says but to me that’s not what a couple should do if we know bad or silly decisions are being made. after i replied saying i wasn’t arguing or looking to argue, im just trying to guide him, he ignored the message, but has still read it.
and now hes sending me tik toks?
i just don’t get it, he’s going back to the pattern of “oh things are getting hard and kinda deep, time to ignore that and just send funny stuff on tik tok and move on”
i really don’t think i can take much more when this is such a repeating pattern.
any advice would be so appreciated!!

I’ll try to keep this as succinct as possible-
me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, we’ve had a few ups and downs, mainly because our ways of dealing with disagreements and arguments are very different, and so make situations worse- he likes to ignore and brush things under the rug and go back to business as usual without any clear resolution, whereas i need to face things head on, talk it out, see where our differences are and why and figure out how we can move forward and be better. we’re both stubborn, so he hates how i push this and make him talk, but i won’t back down. eventually he opens up, apologises for shutting me out, and we’re good.
sticking to the stubborn theme- he’s going through some work troubles right now. he was in car sales when i met him, a job suited so well for him because he has the gift of the gab, is very likeable and extroverted. something happened in this job that made him walk away, it was minor, but he felt invalued and so he walked. we had only been together a short time then so i didn’t feel like i could really give my true opinions on it, i just supported him and allowed him to choose his own path. he went onto taxis, which he had done years prior, and basically crashed and burned. he wasn’t making nearly enough money to make ends meet and ended up in a lot of debt, was struggling mentally and physically with hours and having to work all day every day to make a dent in his debts, and it was really affecting our relationship, we hardly talked, he was easily rattled and i was starting to see the cracks, but he couldn’t because like i said, he ignores these things and doesn’t think they’re big deals. anyway, fast forward, he goes back into car sales this year after realising he really needs a more steady job that will pay better. it’s been 3 months, and today he overslept, meaning 2 clients he was closing deals on ended up being dealt with by somebody else who therefore got the money. he’s obviously annoyed and wants to leave now. and like i said, being stubborn, nothing can change his mind. i sympathised a bit, saying how that doesn’t sound like a great start to the day and that i was sorry it happened, but if he oversleeps, he sort of only has himself to blame? i mean, customers can’t wait for him if they don’t know where he is or when he’ll come in, so they’ll either walk away entirely, making the business look bad, or someone can jump in and deal with it. i get he feels robbed but, if you oversleep.. what can you expect?
he wasn’t happy i said this, he said i don’t understand, he hates it, wants to walk away from it all and go back onto taxis. i said this isn’t clever, he hated the taxis, they didn’t pay well, he struggled with the hours and ultimately ended up leaving for good reason, so why would he want to go back to that? i said if he wants to leave then that’s fine, i’ll back him, but he needs to have another stable job lined up before jumping ship or he’ll be back at square one. and he may not remember what that was like but i do, and selfishly, i can’t take that again, he was so down about not being able to afford things, and i couldn’t do a lot to help him. it strained us. and i feel like he doesn’t care, because of how much he avoids things and ignores them, and i just feel like all the conversations we had after our arguments, about how to better ourselves for the future us, have all been for nothing.
and maybe im thinking too deep, but say one day we move in together and want to make a life together, i can’t deal with someone who’s constantly jumping from job to job with cuts in pay and all the rest of it just because things aren’t going his way, i can just see me now being the one having to pick up the slack and it’s not fair.
so i honestly just feel like im in a rut, after i told him to line up another job before leaving he said i was arguing with him. he just doesn’t want to hear it, he wants me to lay down and agree to every word he says but to me that’s not what a couple should do if we know bad or silly decisions are being made. after i replied saying i wasn’t arguing or looking to argue, im just trying to guide him, he ignored the message, but has still read it.
and now hes sending me tik toks?
i just don’t get it, he’s going back to the pattern of “oh things are getting hard and kinda deep, time to ignore that and just send funny stuff on tik tok and move on”
i really don’t think i can take much more when this is such a repeating pattern.
any advice would be so appreciated!!