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can you really ever be mates with an ex?

rachplatt

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Opinions please? Not just ex-boyfriends...anyone who you have some sort of relationship with that ended.

Reply 1

wiwarin_mir

rachplatt

Opinions please? Not just ex-boyfriends...anyone who you have some sort of relationship with that ended.

Of course you can, I am great friends with my last 2 ex girlfriends.

Reply 2

britishseapower

14

rachplatt

Opinions please? Not just ex-boyfriends...anyone who you have some sort of relationship with that ended.

with my first girlfriend, when we broke up she still wanted to be friends but I didn't really want to because I didn't see the point, I found it hard to make the distinction between girlfriend and friend after she had already been my girlfriend. Also, if I met anybody else, I thought it would make things awkward if I was still friends with my ex g/f. Looking back though, I think I was being a bit immature and that I should have been friends with her. I was with a girl recently, I wasn't going out with her but we both liked each other and exchanged valentines cards e.t.c. but she wants to be friends with me and this time I'm willing to be but she hasn't bothered txting me or anything so I don't know in what context she wants me to be a friend.

Reply 3

randdom

20

It depends how it ends. My past relationship ended badly therefore I am no longer his friend.

Reply 4

khil

15

Yeh - someone I know is still friends with her ex.

Either way you can defo still stay friendly with each other etc - but that doesn't make you two "friends" - it's sorta my situation atm. I wanna stay friends but he isn't responding - hence I think I just won't bother anymore. Shame though, but his choice really, cus he knows what I think/want.

Reply 5

pink_lucie

14

i was till about 5 secs ago :frown:

Reply 6

BlackHawk

17

yes, been friends with an ex for 2 years and hes coming to my wedding.

Reply 7

glance

17

I'm not really understanding the question...would you not be mates because you no longer liked each other, or would you not be mates because you'd be more, as there's something special between you?

Reply 8

bestdeceptions

2

I don't know... In my personal experience, no. I don't think I'm good friends with any of my exs. Oh well maybe one actually, but we're not exactly close friends, and we were together aaages ago.

I reckon it depends how long you were together and how it ended. A couple of mine have been very painful break-ups so they either can't or don't want to just be friends. Which sucks. I'd really like to stay friends with all of mine and I think you should always try to, because you've obviously spent a lot of time together and had a connection at one point in time. It's a shame to lose the friendship you had.

Reply 9

Jump

18

I reckon you can :smile:

Reply 10

goldenbarnes

11

Depends how deep you were in the relationship. If 10 is you were madly in love and were together for about a year or more, and 1 is just more than a one night stand, I reckon you could be friends if you were 1, 2, 3, or 8, 9, 10 on the scale.

Reply 11

Wild Thing

11

yeah depends...i am friends with my 2 ex but not with 1 of them coz it ended badly :rolleyes:

However, it's not like we're really close or anything more like: hey how are you?hows life...you know?

Reply 12

Wild Thing

11

goldenbarnes

Depends how deep you were in the relationship. If 10 is you were madly in love and were together for about a year or more, and 1 is just more than a one night stand, I reckon you could be friends if you were 1, 2, 3, or 8, 9, 10 on the scale.

wow thats accuracy for you :rolleyes:

Reply 13

amo1

14

well not really y one gd female friend who i went out with... we ended up being friends like a year after we went out and only cause we were on the yearbook team together

Reply 14

Jump

18

goldenbarnes

Depends how deep you were in the relationship. If 10 is you were madly in love and were together for about a year or more, and 1 is just more than a one night stand, I reckon you could be friends if you were 1, 2, 3, or 8, 9, 10 on the scale.

interesting way of doing it...

I reckon it depends on your relationship before, your relationship, i.e. how close you were before you were a couple.

Reply 15

rachplatt

OP

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I'm not sure what the question was really...you are all right though, it does depend on the situation. The ranking system was good and I argee-With ppl you've just been out with a few times its not so hard to be mates as long as neither of you have a jealous new girlf/boyf and i guess if you really loved someone you would have to reamin close in some form even if the relationship ended. The middle group is harder though

Reply 16

frost105

14

Depends on how the relationahip went and how you broke up. I have never been friends with an ex.

Reply 17

khil

15

Given how much hurt me and my ex went through when we broke up I think it's actually quite cool that we still care for each other and are still friends really... but then again the break up was nobody's fault - we both knew what we got ourselves in for - and it was an almost perfect relationship - to me at least - despite very short. A friendship with him is very important to me still. None of my friends actually know why I like him :biggrin:

but he's just different, tis all :smile:

Reply 18

Mrs_F

15

Yeah I think so. I'm good friends with an ex from when I was 16. Although my last ex boyfriend we would speak if we saw each other but we aren't friends, not my choice though, I would be but he hasn't really spoke to me for 2 years since I started going out with my current boyfriend. But all my other ex's I'm pretty friendly with.

Reply 19

viviki

14

I think once you've been very intimate it makes it alot harder.

can you really ever be mates with an ex?

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