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Stinging/ burning sensation after he comes

After having sex it sometimes feels really uncomfortable when my boyfriend has come inside me (on the pill as I hate condoms), not instantly but afterwards, and when I wee after sex it sometimes stings, not like cystits/ urinary infection, as in if the wee goes anywhere in that region it stings? Kind of hard to explain but it only happens when he's cum inside me.

Is this normal?? I'm starting to think it isn't, but does anyone else ever get this? I'm starting to worry that I have a really sensitive vagina and the cum irritates it or something.

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Reply 1
yea ive had that before.
i dont want to worry you, but i got this once when id caught a STI after...
but i had had it before that when i didnt have anything
Reply 2
i had the same problem about 2 days back. It was like a really bad burning sensation when i urinated but only once, after that it went. :s-smilie:
I still don't know what it is.
I think its just where you've had a penis in a small hole tbh. I get it everytime I have sex. Goes away after a couple of hours
When i was having sex i used to get this (currently single with principles so haven't had sex in a loooong time), i would describe it as a friction burn but on the inside - for me it was agonising and i'd often find myself in the bathroom crying in pain after sex. Obviously, as a first port of call i must suggest using loads-and i mean loads of LUBE! It *could* be an STD so i'd get yourself checked, but equally it could be vaginismus (as it is for me).

Vaginismus is a psychological condition where your muscles tense up (uncontrollably) causing pain during and after sex.

See this website for more details http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-symptoms

The problem with vaginismus is that you get into a vicious cycle, sex hurts because the muscles go crazy because you aren't relaxed (again must make clear it's not a conscious decision to relax) and your body expects it to hurt, then because it still hurts again the next time you try it can be worse. etc. etc.

Now, i'm not saying for sure that you have this. It could be an STI. Or just that you aren't lubricated enough. But more girls should be aware of it. I haven't had a chance to cure mine (due to no partner and principles that say it's wrong to shag randomers - plus because i *know* it will hurt i'm not convinced that i'd physically be able to have sex casually). However, the doctor did suggest things like drinking alcohol before sex to relax me. Or (on a different occasion to the alcohol) taking a couple of paracetamol plus before sex to counteract the pain before it happens (or something).

In conclusion... you should first try more lube, then go to your doctor and be checked for an STI. And if it comes back clear you may be an unfortunate suffer of this particular irritation condition.

But remember, as the doctor said to me. Sex should be fun, not painful. (obviously it's usually painful for girls at first what with the hymen breaking and everything, but i had never had painfree sex in two different relationships which combined were about 2.5 years!) His advice was literally "drink booze then have a massage then have sex, do this a lot" I liked this doctor.
Its not uncommon to have pain after sex. I think the pain isn't coming from the fact the semen is in your vagina but from the probability that you're probably having sex for longer the times that he does come so there's more friction if you see what i mean.
Everyone hurts after a long session right?
Its really good to pee after long sex tho as it helps prevent cystitis so keep doing it!
Reply 6
I had the same problem... I didn't worry about it. I think it's just from the penetration, it makes that area sensitive.
Reply 7
I've started getting this recently, from google I've found it's a very common problem. There can be many causes, such as urinary and yeast infections, STIs, a pH imbalance, vaginal erosion (from friction) or vaginismus like someone mentioned. For some people it clears itself up quickly but for other it can be a long term problem that they are unable to find a solution to.

There are quite a few things you can try though, like creams available from he doctor, antibiotics, and some people say yoghurt helps - either eating more of it or inserting it - as it's supposed to restore the bacterial and pH balance.
Reply 8
Smile88egc
Its not uncommon to have pain after sex. I think the pain isn't coming from the fact the semen is in your vagina but from the probability that you're probably having sex for longer the times that he does come so there's more friction if you see what i mean.
Everyone hurts after a long session right?
Its really good to pee after long sex tho as it helps prevent cystitis so keep doing it!


glad this happens to other people but I do think this only really happens when he's come inside me rather than it just being because it's gone on longer, as in it's something to do with his cum I think... hmm.

STI's worried me a bit but we've only slept with each other so unlikely surely?

thrush sounds like a possibility cos I think I had that a bit recently.
Yep, it's normal. Back in the days where i actually had sex this happened every time. I think some women are just generally irritated by semen.
Hi im so glad others suffer from this, ive been with my bf for a year now and i ahve been suffering the same problem. but it wasnt always like it. i have been to the doctors and they have done sti and thrush checks and nothing was positive,
however mine always seems to get worse when i urinate and will do for about 2 or 3 times after sex.
any suggestions of what it could be would be very much appreciated as the doctors dont know what it could be
thanx
Well, its probably micro tears in the Vj after the guy has rogered you for a bit.

Lube might help unless you're already really wet but still, friction causes damage on any scale and if the semen gets there it possibly stings.
Yeah I get this after sex, i'm actually really glad this thread is here because I was worried myself! I'm glad i'm not the only one (in the most non selfish way possible!)
Original post by HARRY PUTAH
Well, its probably micro tears in the Vj after the guy has rogered you for a bit.

Lube might help unless you're already really wet but still, friction causes damage on any scale and if the semen gets there it possibly stings.


Thanks so much, its wierd the doctors never even mentioned tears, i geuss its a pretty simple thing. I mean there has never been any need for lube always have foreplay before. so is there anyway to stop micro tears happening or is it just one of those things?
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks so much, its wierd the doctors never even mentioned tears, i geuss its a pretty simple thing. I mean there has never been any need for lube always have foreplay before. so is there anyway to stop micro tears happening or is it just one of those things?


I have no idea how your Vj reacts so I cannot comment on stopping it but try lube maybe? No shame in using it.,

There may be an allergic reaction to his cum, which leads to all sorts of possibilities?

If a guys cum is acidic (yeah, bad diet etc) then that can be a factor, he is your boyfriend so find out what he eats, his body uses that food/drink to produce all sorts of stuff soe look into it. ...Yes this sounds redonculous but its an avenue to investigate.

Here is an experiement you can try.

If you can get him off with oral sex (no penetrative sex), have him brought near to climax and have him cum inside of you (not mouth!), if you react badly to his cum then its possible there is an allergy problem.

Leave this test for some time after you last had sex, say 3-4 days so if any tearing occured you can be sure that they should have healed.
Reply 15
Thankyou so much, i will try it and hopefully be able to narrow down the problem. You have been so much more help than two of the doctors i have been to.
Fingers crossed ill find a soultion :biggrin:
Reply 16
I have search for answers for this problem for a long time. Partners I have had have complained of this burning sensation after sex. I know finally know what may be the cause. HIGH ALKALINE SPERM. so don't worry girls it may not be you it may be our ****ed up sperm. I have learned many things can cause high alkaline sperm (also the sperm may look yellow). For me I believe it is because I am a smoker. So on behalf of men with high alkaline sperm I apologise. Im going to look into fixing my sperms ph levels.
Thank you I have always wondered why sex was so painful for me all these years and no obgyn could find anything wrong with me.i started to think I was the 1 in 5 people who were asexual. (Asexual is someone who hates sex so they never have a sexual relationship) I hate sex because of how painful it is to me. I now know to bring up Vaginismusat at my next obgyn appointment!
I had unprotected sex with a man the other night and afterwards he complained the tip of his penis was burning , does this mean he has an Sri?
Hi, I always feel a stingy/burning sensation immediately, everytime my boyfriend ***s inside me (so I know when he starts ***ing). This has always been, from day 1, we've been together for about 2years now. When I pee, it worsens. It doesn't feel that way when we use a condom (but I hate condoms, tend to get itchy afterwards)