Relationship advice ... please

I was in a similar situation and kind of blew it because I kept pressing for us to go out, just be her friend and it will happen if its going to, just have to be patient, let things run their natural course. You said your prepared to wait so just wait. Funnily enough I waited 2 months as well and sort of give her a second ultimatum and things just fell apart and I regret it deeply, I reckon I would have stood a chance if I had just waited.

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Toy Soldier

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PublicSchoolAnn

Oh dear,maybe it is best you are in isolation for a while because you sound dangerous. Er...is the dog okay?

Hmm. Probably. It was the last time I checked. And I'm not really dangerous - no one can be held resposible for committing GBH when they've just spent half an hour playing a Royal Rumble to come 2nd. 2ND! Just thinking about it is making me... so angry.

britishseapower

just be her friend and it will happen if its going to

That's the most rubbish advice I've ever heard. Find out if she likes you or not. If she doesn't, then have nothing more to do with her. Seriouly. Being 'just friends' with a girl you really like is hell, it'll gradually wear you down into a weak, simpering, pathetic wretch of a man of no worth to anybody. And it can take a good 6 months - a year of ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT with this 'female friend' to get back any manliness at all.

Trust me!

Reply 22

F. Poste

I don't want to sound mean but in a lot of cases, "confused" is a very bad sign.. I'm sure you deserve someone who has their feelings straight and knows for sure that they like you :smile:

Reply 23

annabellewalter

1

Confused means that she can't think of a good reason to turn you down, or at least this is a possibilty. Confusion tends never to clear up and you want someone who knows they want to be with you. I'd say if youve asked her out twice before and shes reasonably bright she'll KNOW you still like her, and telling her again will just put her in an uncomfortable position and increase the akwardness between you. Let her come to you when she knows she loves you....!!

Reply 24

magiccarpet

2

Rozzalot

Alright, i'll try and be as clear as i can. I like this girl and i think she likes me. We get on really well and have got "friendly" before. I've asked her out twice now (relationship sense of the term) and both times, she has said no (because she is confused, she says ...)
Things have become quite awkward between us, when we meet at dinner and stuff (we are at school together) we say hi but nothing more, while when in private we are much more open.
How do i explain to her that i don't want to be just friends; i'm prepared to wait if she says she's confused but i'm worried the more I wait, the more awkward things will become (this has been dragging on for about 2 months now).
What should/can I do?
Thanks

i think she isnt confused. seems like a brush off to me. say hey, i like you as more than m8s, whats the deal.

for confusing, how does it rate getting dumped by a text saying ''i just need some time to get to know you better and sort out my life'' ?lol happedned to me

Reply 25

danni_bella

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Rozzalot

Alright, i'll try and be as clear as i can. I like this girl and i think she likes me. We get on really well and have got "friendly" before. I've asked her out twice now (relationship sense of the term) and both times, she has said no (because she is confused, she says ...)
Things have become quite awkward between us, when we meet at dinner and stuff (we are at school together) we say hi but nothing more, while when in private we are much more open.
How do i explain to her that i don't want to be just friends; i'm prepared to wait if she says she's confused but i'm worried the more I wait, the more awkward things will become (this has been dragging on for about 2 months now).
What should/can I do?
Thanks

I'd be honest with her, and let her know how you feel... however be subtle! :smile:

And tell her in a way that is fairly light and doesn't give out too much info. Also be prepared for an awkward silence by having a backup subject (pref something funny/cool :elefant:

) to talk about just in case!

Good luck,

Luv Danni x

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