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Should I or shouldnt I??

Mods, please dont delete this, its a serious question!! I am thinking about getting more piercings done, specifically my nipples I would just do one at a time but I dont want them to look lopsided. However I am not sure to ask my girlfriend what she thinks about the idea. As I am not too sure if she would like it at all. Should I ask her or not?

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SciFi25
Mods, please dont delete this, its a serious question!! I am thinking about getting more piercings done, specifically my nipples would just do one at a time but i dont want them to look lopsided. However I am not sure to ask my girlfriend what she thinks about the idea. Should I ask her or not?

Poll coming soon!

are they something you really want? If so then I don't think you need her authorisation or anything of the sort :smile:
Ha get it done! Her reaction will be hillarious er...one of content!
Reply 3
Natalie Lane
are they something you really want? If so then I don't think you need her authorisation or anything of the sort :smile:


Yeah I have been thinking about it and wanting it ever since I had my eyebrow done. So its not like I havent got pierced before. I think it would just be slightly wrong if she takes off my shirt and bam, there is this modification to my body that she didnt know about! :biggrin: After all I do love her alot and I dont want to hurt her.
Reply 4
PublicSchoolAnn
Ha get it done! Her reaction will be hillarious er...one of content!


What makes you think that?? I dont want to upset her.
SciFi25
What makes you think that?? I dont want to upset her.

she wont be upset,do it! they rock get a little chain and connect them. :thrasher:
Reply 6
My ex didn't tell me he intended to have a tattoo done. It felt like the bottom of my stomach had fallen out when he told me after he had it done!
blissy
My boyfriend didn't tell me when he had a tattoo done and it felt like the bottom of my stomach had fallen out when he told me!


His body.
Reply 8
NDGAARONDI
His body.

What about his body? *has missed something*
Reply 9
PublicSchoolAnn
she wont be upset,do it! they rock get a little chain and connect them. :thrasher:


Connect them? Well I gotta get them done first!! lol!
Reply 10
blissy
What about his body? *has missed something*


Me too! :biggrin: Seriously, was it bad what your bf did?
Reply 11
If she says no, then you're in real trouble since you'll be doing something against her will. Don't tell her.
Reply 12
i wouldnt say you need to ask....
just warn her!!!
blissy
What about his body? *has missed something*


The fact that he had a tattoo on his own body does not mean he's obliged to tell you. You know what I'm trying to say, been up since 5am :p:
Reply 14
SciFi25
Me too! :biggrin: Seriously, was it bad what your bf did?

No not at all, he came home from going out for the day and said "I got a tattoo". I was so shocked that I almost fainted. By that time we'd been going out for 2 years, I wouldn't have expected him to tell me but I was just so so so shocked because it was completely out of character for him to get a tattoo on the spur of the moment! Anyway, I made him show me right there and then and it was actually really nice. Then I interrogated him about where he had it done, who by, whether it was a reputable place etc.

I just thought I'd let you know what my reaction was so you'd expect her to be rather surprised if you had it done without telling her!
Reply 15
emily87
i wouldnt say you need to ask....
just warn her!!!


mmm, yeah. I will talk to her about it tomorrow.
Reply 16
NDGAARONDI
The fact that he had a tattoo on his own body does not mean he's obliged to tell you. You know what I'm trying to say, been up since 5am :p:

It wouldn't have taken me long to find it even if he didn't tell me! :biggrin:

emily87
i wouldnt say you need to ask....
just warn her!!!

Exactly, that was the "moral" of my story I suppose!

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If she says no, then you're in real trouble since you'll be doing something against her will. Don't tell her.

But then that's good advice as well. I do like my boyfriend's tattoo, but because it's so obviously to do with me (the design) I would have tried my hardest to dissuade him from having it done if he'd asked me my opinion - so I'm not branded on him forever! But then, your situation is just about a piercing, so I don't see why she would have any real objections to do with you doing something irreversible.
Reply 17
blissy
No not at all, he came home from going out for the day and said "I got a tattoo". I was so shocked that I almost fainted. By that time we'd been going out for 2 years, I wouldn't have expected him to tell me but I was just so so so shocked because it was completely out of character for him to get a tattoo on the spur of the moment! Anyway, I made him show me right there and then and it was actually really nice. Then I interrogated him about where he had it done, who by, whether it was a reputable place etc.

I just thought I'd let you know what my reaction was so you'd expect her to be rather surprised if you had it done without telling her!


Thanks blissy, as always full of good advice!! lol!! I will talk to her about it. I just hope she will understand.
Reply 18
blissy
I don't see why she would have any real objections to do with you doing something irreversible.


You never know the idea of pierced nipples might completely freak her out.
Reply 19
SciFi25
You never know the idea of pierced nipples might completely freak her out.

I suppose it just comes down to how much you value her opinion then - at what stage you are in the relationship. If she doesn't like it then you'll just have to try and put together a long list of pros including: "well I like it" as one of them.