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SciFi25

Mods, please dont delete this, its a serious question!! I am thinking about getting more piercings done, specifically my nipples I would just do one at a time but I dont want them to look lopsided. However I am not sure to ask my girlfriend what she thinks about the idea. As I am not too sure if she would like it at all. Should I ask her or not?

I thhink more important than asking you girlfriend, is the fact you would look like a raving poof.
I've known many guys think it would be really cool to get nip piercing, and then realised that look completely silly if you aren't ripped.

Reply 21

covered farm wagon

You should definitely tell her! I'd feel sad if I knew that my boyfriend had deliberately kept it from me, especially if he had told loads of strangers on an internet message board! Yes, it's your body, and you can do what you like with it; your girlfriend probably agrees with this. Here are the scenarios as I see them:

Your girlfriend hates nipple piercings.
*if you tell her beforehand* - she can ask you not to, and you can explain that you want it done but that you wanted to talk to her about it first - she will hopefully be glad that you value her opinion and didn't do it behind her back, and it wont be such a shock as being presented with the piercings themselves.
*if you do it secretly* then it'll be a shock when you just show them to her, she'll feel sad that you didn't even talk about it to her beforehand.

Your girlfriend doesn't mind.
*if you tell her beforehand* she'll be glad you spoke to her about it first, might even come with you to hold your hand!
*do it secretly* she'll wonder why you didn't even mention it first

Well, this is how I would react in the circumstances anyway. Not telling her just seems to be a losing situation, however she feels about nipple piercings.

Reply 22

SciFi25

blissy

I suppose it just comes down to how much you value her opinion then - at what stage you are in the relationship. If she doesn't like it then you'll just have to try and put together a long list of pros including: "well I like it" as one of them.

Erm, I value her opinion alot! Like I said I love her and I dont want to hurt her.

Thanks guys, you have helped me sort this out. I will talk to her about it.

Reply 23

SciFi25

covered farm wa

Your girlfriend hates nipple piercings.
*if you tell her beforehand* - she can ask you not to, and you can explain that you want it done but that you wanted to talk to her about it first - she will hopefully be glad that you value her opinion and didn't do it behind her back, and it wont be such a shock as being presented with the piercings themselves.

Yeah this is the one I am going to choose!! Seems the best option!

Reply 24

RetiredAccount89

By the by, i didn't mean 'poof'as a disparagement of the gay community. Fact is i have relatively few friends who aren't gay or female, but rather the fact you look either gay, or a rather silly straight boy if you have pierced nips and ARE male.
BBear in mind i see numerous people in the clinic who have pierced nips, are out of shape, and inevitably gay. (well it is a predominantly gay clinic)
Fact is my honest opinion is that people with nipple piercings regret it. I know few people that haven't permenantly removed them within a year.

bear in mind also, i hate people that don't attach a name to neg rep...

Reply 25

SciFi25

lessthanthree

yes, you should.

It's always better to get a different perspective on body mods.

The question is; if she said she didn't like them, would it stop you?