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The art of kissing, is it natural, or learned

i remember when i was younger and had never kissed anyone i used to get worried about how you do it, and it just happens naturally, like you're programmed to do it :p:

Reply 41

Annik

2

The first time I kissed a guy, it was disgusting.. I was too scared to kiss any other guy. Then after kissing the next guy I was seeing..I realised that the first guy just couldnt kiss at all lol

Reply 42

lou p lou

2

i think in some ways it comes naturally... some people will never be good kissers

but i think you can learn... especially if you're with someone ages. the more you get to know a person the better your kisses are (imo), i def prefer kisses with my bf now than i did a year ago (lol, just realises that makes it sound like they were bad, they weren't, it's just that we both can completely gauge waht the other person wants)

lou xxx

Reply 43

hollylianne

i think its a bit of both really. although the 1st guy i snogged was seriously bad, it was disgusting! Thankfully the few after that were much better and havn't put me off guys!

Reply 44

eurasianfeline

13

i think it's both. i used to not have a clue how to kiss...but then my ex taught me...and my bf said i'm a good kisser haha. well he's probably just being flattering but that's not the point.

Reply 45

Eru Iluvatar

18

I wish i knew how to kiss...

Reply 46

NDGAARONDI

16

I notice the amount of girls whose first experience kissing a guy is not the best of ones. Why is this? Age?

Reply 47

KingAS

eurasianfeline

i think it's both. i used to not have a clue how to kiss...but then my ex taught me...and my bf said i'm a good kisser haha. well he's probably just being flattering but that's not the point.

its definately natural ... your first kiss is also amazing. the first girl i kissed, was rather awkward, but i kinda just went with the flow and followed her lead.

its not something you can learn, cause all people have different styles, which have their own special bit to it.

and babe, i was being honest, u are a great kisser, ill tell you why somewhere more appropriate :wink:

Reply 48

eurasianfeline

13

KingAS

its definately natural ... your first kiss is also amazing. the first girl i kissed, was rather awkward, but i kinda just went with the flow and followed her lead.

its not something you can learn, cause all people have different styles, which have their own special bit to it.

and babe, i was being honest, u are a great kisser, ill tell you why somewhere more appropriate :wink:

ah well i should get back to chem (yes bloody AQA paper again...my teacher's obsessed)...tell me tonight haha :biggrin:

Reply 49

Tyler Durden

17

It's natural I'd say.

Reply 50

Angel_Cake

2

NDGAARONDI

I notice the amount of girls whose first experience kissing a guy is not the best of ones. Why is this? Age?

I was about 11 the first time, he had sticky-out teeth and had just eaten some really smelly crisps. All our friends were standing around, saying "come on then - kiss!", so we did! It was absolutely awful and quite painful!

Then there were a few more similar experiences until I got with my first serious boyfriend at 15 - I was so incredibly scared as it was the first time I really wanted to impress the boy I was kissing and it had been about a year since I'd kissed anyone else (think I was worried I'd forgotten how!). Because of that I didn't even think about what it was like, I just spent the whole time worrying "am I doing this right? Has it been long enough yet? Should I open my eyes or close them?" etc etc...Looking back I can't believe what a big deal it seemed at the time! But yes, in answer to your question, I think age has a great deal to do with it - you gain more perspective as you grow older, and realise that there actually are more important things in life than your kissing technique!

Reply 51

Helenia

20

NDGAARONDI

I notice the amount of girls whose first experience kissing a guy is not the best of ones. Why is this? Age?

I think possibly some teenage boys are a little overenthusiastic when it comes to the whole tongues/saliva thing. Probably partly age, partly lack of experience. My own first kiss wasn't bad as they go, I've had both better and worse since.

Reply 52

Angel_Cake

2

And also, I don't think it's natural - everyone has their own way of kissing but you get better with practise - guys that have been in long term relationships are better than guys that haven't!

Reply 53

F. Poste

NDGAARONDI

I notice the amount of girls whose first experience kissing a guy is not the best of ones. Why is this? Age?

I think girls have higher standards.. we've watched and learned through all the romantic movies and books and things like that, whereas I don't think boys pay the same amount of attention- hense why lots of them just go for the "tongue down throat" action despite the fact you NEVER see anyone kiss like that in the movies :p:

Reply 54

Mad_Monkey59

2

The problems most people have is going in to far, and inadvertantly bang teeth *cringe*

yer so slow down, and also if you dont know what you are doing, just copy the other person, do what she does with her tongue how hard/soft she likes it... just do it back.

Its not brain science, and it is natural to an extent, but the difference between a good kisser and a bad kisser is firstly having experiance and actually using it, and secondly is to enjoy it. (its fun remember :wink:

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Reply 55

wiwarin_mir

Some people have quirks when they are kissing like biting lips or tongues and kissing around the mouth somewhat as well, so unless people like that sort of thing, they could be described as a bad kisser.

Reply 56

serious narb

11

wiwarin_mir

Some people have quirks when they are kissing like biting lips or tongues and kissing around the mouth somewhat as well, so unless people like that sort of thing, they could be described as a bad kisser.

a girl started biting me once when we are kissing, was actualy quite painful, could feel a tear starting to well up, not pleasant :biggrin:

i've been told im a good kisser and that i'm innocent in the way i do it, dunno if that's a compliment or not :biggrin:

Reply 57

wiwarin_mir

serious narb

a girl started biting me once when we are kissing, was actualy quite painful, could feel a tear starting to well up, not pleasant :biggrin:

i've been told im a good kisser and that i'm innocent in the way i do it, dunno if that's a compliment or not :biggrin:

Micala was a biter when she kissed me, but I actually didn't mind it since it felt quite nice.

Reply 58

kokopops

10

ive had two extremes, some really forceful...and then some soft and you just adapt to how it is ... i like the little quirks like kissing the cheek and moving into the lips ... makes it more ... nice!? i deffo think you can teach ppl who are bad but that if you're good its natural

Reply 59

mangomaz

14

i definately prefer the softer approach and more gradual. cant stand it wen they just launch themselves down ur throat or see how far they can get their tongue in :rolleyes:

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