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Is an open relationship,defined by each partner allowing the other to sleep with as many people as they like, morally wrong/abnormal??

Reply 1

Eru Iluvatar

18

Wrong forum i'm afraid.

Reply 2

Toy Soldier

3

Nah, so long as both people really are fine with it, and one of them isn't just pretending to be OK with it but actually feels jealous.

I think there are definately people with a really strong emotional connection, that can love each other completely and still sleep with others as pure recreation. I personally think people put too much significance in sex. It's primarily about copulation, and other than that it's just about having a good time.

Needs more cowbell.

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Iluvatar

Wrong forum i'm afraid.

I dontthink i intended to put it on here...could it be moved??

Reply 5

Tyler Durden

17

No, not immoral if both agree but pretty stupid. What's the point in being in a relationship with someone if you're going to sleep with loads of other people?

Reply 6

Zurich

9

No, I think it's a bit judgemental to say it's immoral.

It's not something I'd ever do, but if two mature and sensible people decide that's what's best for them, who am I to tell them it's wrong?

Reply 7

KingAS

i dont find an open relationship really appropriate.
so you can sleep with as many people as you like as long as both of you arnt in the same country?

how can you do that without thinking about your gf, everytime u get with someone else?? it just messes things up, mind you it has worked for a couple of friends...

Reply 8

eurasianfeline

13

it's wrong. it's just like sleeping around with anyone!! people who do that...in my opinion...are literally f**kers/sluts. sorry but i ca't stand it. i know a friend who does it...kinda also explains why she never committed in a relationship and is no longer my friend.

Reply 9

Angel_Cake

2

Can't see why anyone would do it...I would become so incredibly jealous if my boyfriend was sleeping with other girls! If you just want to sleep around, why not be single and then you won't risk hurting anyone? In answer to the original question though, it's not morally wrong unless you belong to a religion where adultery is considered a sin.

Reply 10

F. Poste

It's not immoral if it's agreed to.. though not my thing :smile:

Reply 11

naymeee

i dont understand it myself-i think it shows how we all differ though.i can't get my head around how it can be a good thing for a relationship, but if some people can....fine(so long as they don't sleep with already taken people!!)

Reply 12

magiccarpet

2

can i ask, what about if one partner for eg religious/moral reasons chooses not to have sex before marriage. for the other partner to respect that, it should just mean that they do not sleep with their partener yet can regularly meet their needs elsewhere, thus cannot be morraly wrong.

Reply 13

naivesincerity

OP

2

magiccarpet

can i ask, what about if one partner for eg religious/moral reasons chooses not to have sex before marriage. for the other partner to respect that, it should just mean that they do not sleep with their partener yet can regularly meet their needs elsewhere, thus cannot be morraly wrong.

Well i would define that as an open relationship,if the partners are committed, and sone is letting the othe "meet ther need" then,its open

Reply 14

Mrs_F

15

I personally think so. I just don't understand how you can allow the person you love to sleep with another person and vice versa how if someone loves you they can happily allow you to sleep with another person. How can you let them do it and be ok with it? Why would you want to do it if you were happy in your relationship? It's something I just can't understand...

Reply 15

magiccarpet

2

i dont understand either.

if i lov someone as i did with my ex, i cannot stand that they would want to be with someoen else.i thind jealousy is a sign of lov

Reply 16

wiwarin_mir

magiccarpet

i dont understand either.

if i lov someone as i did with my ex, i cannot stand that they would want to be with someoen else.i thind jealousy is a sign of lov

Jealousy is a sign of love, but it can be very dangerous in too great a quantity.

Reply 17

Zurich

9

lynseyweth

I personally think so. I just don't understand how you can allow the person you love to sleep with another person and vice versa how if someone loves you they can happily allow you to sleep with another person. How can you let them do it and be ok with it? Why would you want to do it if you were happy in your relationship? It's something I just can't understand...

I don't understand either, and I could never do it, but I don't see how that makes it immoral?

Reply 18

Mrs_F

15

Zurich

I don't understand either, and I could never do it, but I don't see how that makes it immoral?

Well yes, I suppose it is a bit too much of a harsh word to use. But I do think it is really wrong and shouldnt' be encouraged. I see it as if you want to sleep with other people then you mustn't be happy with the person you are with and therefore shouldn't be in the relationship.

Reply 19

Zurich

9

lynseyweth

I see it as if you want to sleep with other people then you mustn't be happy with the person you are with and therefore shouldn't be in the relationship.

That does seem to be the major flaw. But then plenty of happy couples are into wifeswapping and suchlike... I guess there are just a lot of "different" people.

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