Open relationships

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Zurich

That does seem to be the major flaw. But then plenty of happy couples are into wifeswapping and suchlike... I guess there are just a lot of "different" people.

Ah, but are they REALLY happy? If they are why do it? Wish I could get my head round it - I just can't.
I suppose we will never know unless we ourselves are in the situation.

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technik

logically i think its wrong. its hardly a relationship in the context it should be if you're just basically going around with other people too.

isnt something i'd personally do.

Reply 22

magiccarpet

ya thats tru how do you know who you are with?

Reply 23

SamTheMan

naivesincerity

Is an open relationship,defined by each partner allowing the other to sleep with as many people as they like, morally wrong/abnormal??

It's not immorally wrong but this kind of stuff can not be done by just anyone. You're probably referring to swingers. They're quite popular in some European countries. But swingers "swing" among themselves. These are people who are all committed to viewing sex in the same way: as just an ordinary activity people get up to.
Once someone who isn't in the same frame of mind, or who doesn't realise they are, gets involved, things get very messy.

This kind of stuff is for a very restricted number of people who are capable of coping with such situations. In my opinion, they're a bit nutty but that's just my opinion. Young people rarely swing and it's usually a bad idea.

When you're young, you often don't understand how your emotions and sexual behaviour are linked and you end up with very screwed-up situations if you're not careful. I know loads of people my age who have "experimented". A lot of them get hurt very badly, **** up their self-esteem. At first they're all fine with the idea but once the emotions get involved (something you never plan on happening), it's too late and jealousy, low self-esteem, depression remind me of so many stories I've already heard.

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puppy

eurasianfeline

it's wrong. it's just like sleeping around with anyone!! people who do that...in my opinion...are literally f**kers/sluts. sorry but i ca't stand it. i know a friend who does it...kinda also explains why she never committed in a relationship and is no longer my friend.

You're not someone's friend because they chose to have open relationships? Seems a bit messed up to me.

Reply 25

SamTheMan

puppy

You're not someone's friend because they chose to have open relationships? Seems a bit messed up to me.

I don't think a friend's sexual behaviour should determine whether you're still their friend or not. But sometimes, when a friend is truly messed up and not doing themselves any favours, you have to give them a wake-up call.
A lot of my friends are a lot more promiscuous than me. They're still good mates.

Reply 26

Vikernes

I'm cool with it as long as she lets me film it.

Reply 27

roff

I'm cool with it a lot of my relationships are open to me, not necesarily to her but she is on a need-to-know basis :wink:

Reply 28

SamTheMan

ramroff

I'm cool with it a lot of my relationships are open to me, not necesarily to her but she is on a need-to-know basis :wink:

and they say that romance is dead?!

As far as I'm concerned, almost all girls who end up in open relationships, other than physical relationships with exes, are usually not attractive at all. They're so desperate for affection and for closeness that they'll take anything they can get.
A few girls just need something stuck in them to be happy but from what female friends and exes tell me, for most girls, the whole appeal of sex is based on the closeness and intimacy you get out of it. This kind of intimacy is most important within a stable relationship but if you can't find a guy who is attracted to you enough to commit, then you just have to settle for what's on offer.

Reply 29

Profesh

That is a private moral concern, to be resolved at the mutual discretion of the partnership in question. Personally, I am obligated to vote 'no': were I to deem such a relationship immoral, I should not enter into one myself; and whether or not others do is entirely their prerogative.

Reply 30

kat_r

I would hate to be in an open relationship but if thats what floats your boat then go for it!

Reply 31

Makavelli_07

I wouldn't say it was wrong at all, if the two people are involved in the relationship are happy with it, then why the hell not.

I've tried it in one relationship, and it didn't really work out. Not my thing i guess. The relationship ended up disintegrating and we'd just see each other for sex.

Other people might find it works, though. I'd just much rather be single and sleep around. :p: