Coping with depression

realicetic

Hey, I was jst wondering if any one suffers from depression, nd if so what u do with urselves when things become unbearable?!! Its so annoying cos no one else i know has any clue how i feel nd so their advice never really works!!!
xxx :smile:

Well you know i do lol. Erm how do i cope? It really depends. Not always very well. I try to talk to people but its not always easy to know who to trust. I usually withdraw from everything. I get fed up of people telling me to "snap out of it" or to just think happy thoughts. At my worst i'm so physically tired that i can't walk up stairs without being out of breath. When you have a mental illness its a lot harder for people to try and imagine, because it can be so hard to put into words.

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realicetic

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lessthanthree

It's always hard to share advice when depression is such a subjective thing.

yeah i agree. its just sometimes people who have been there say something which just makes u feel better.

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realicetic

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Sarky

Well you know i do lol. Erm how do i cope? It really depends. Not always very well. I try to talk to people but its not always easy to know who to trust. I usually withdraw from everything. I get fed up of people telling me to "snap out of it" or to just think happy thoughts. At my worst i'm so physically tired that i can't walk up stairs without being out of breath. When you have a mental illness its a lot harder for people to try and imagine, because it can be so hard to put into words.

yeah it knackers me too!!! am worried about going to uni and not been able to cope :frown:

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I know how annoying it is when people tell u to snap out of it. did it not cross their minds that if u could you would?!

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realicetic

yeah it knackers me too!!! am worried about going to uni and not been able to cope :frown:

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I know how annoying it is when people tell u to snap out of it. did it not cross their minds that if u could you would?!

Its funny because i'm naturally very humourous and i'm always cracking jokes. At my worst i just don't have the energy and so i stop. Therefore people expect me to constantly entertain them, which is my own fault because i like making people laugh. Doesn't mean i don't have issues though. Everyone has issues, i guess i don't always cope with them in the right way. Thats what i'm learning to do. But its taken a long time. Uni is hard, but not impossible. Be realistic and honest with yourself and make sure you have a support network around in case you feel you need it. I've just started seeing a therapist in Southampton who turned up at one of my lectures on day (he was the lecturer). That was scary!

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tis_me_lord

lessthanthree

and usually it's NEVER something like "Oh, this was good/things get better/you'll be okay"

Sometimes it's the realism that's truly appreciated, and it makes you feel more human to know that other people think certain aspects of life suck a lot, for them, just as much as they do for you. I know I would feel less abnormal about finding something difficult if someone else [depressed or not] told me that they find it hard too, and acknowledge that it sucks.

It's definitely better to know that you're not the only one who finds things hard, and to find out that life's not rosy for everybody.

Everything is always dandy for me! :eek:

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tis_me_lord

Everything is always dandy for me! :eek:

You are just trying to cause trouble now mr. :mad:

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tis_me_lord

Sarky

You are just trying to cause trouble now mr. :mad:

Haha, you all have problems. :smile:

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lessthanthree

and usually it's NEVER something like "Oh, this was good/things get better/you'll be okay"

Sometimes it's the realism that's truly appreciated, and it makes you feel more human to know that other people think certain aspects of life suck a lot, for them, just as much as they do for you. I know I would feel less abnormal about finding something difficult if someone else [depressed or not] told me that they find it hard too, and acknowledge that it sucks.

It's definitely better to know that you're not the only one who finds things hard, and to find out that life's not rosy for everybody.

I have long-since surpassed the end of my tether with those who insist upon the feasibility of my self-actualisation into a happy and well-adjusted construct, from this malformed conglomeration of balls and bile. Reciprocal empathy is so much more indispensible.

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realicetic

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Sarky

Its funny because i'm naturally very humourous and i'm always cracking jokes. At my worst i just don't have the energy and so i stop. Therefore people expect me to constantly entertain them, which is my own fault because i like making people laugh. Doesn't mean i don't have issues though. Everyone has issues, i guess i don't always cope with them in the right way. Thats what i'm learning to do. But its taken a long time. Uni is hard, but not impossible. Be realistic and honest with yourself and make sure you have a support network around in case you feel you need it. I've just started seeing a therapist in Southampton who turned up at one of my lectures on day (he was the lecturer). That was scary!

lol. my psychiatrist is referring me to a psychotherapist thingy when i go to uni. just someone to stress at!!!
some of my friends were shocked that I was depressed cos i am always smiling too. :smile:

tis like leading a double life.
thanks for saying uni is ok,
xxx

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Sarky

Its funny because i'm naturally very humourous and i'm always cracking jokes. At my worst i just don't have the energy and so i stop. Therefore people expect me to constantly entertain them, which is my own fault because i like making people laugh.

Hah. I've quite ascertained that as being the sole basis for most of my current "friendships". The girl with whom I was (and still am) infatuated stood as an exception, because inasmuch as I enjoyed making her p*ss herself (figuratively; at least, to my knowledge), I never felt under any tacit obligation to do so. I shall miss that lass.

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tis_me_lord

lessthanthree

I find it very hard to believe that there is not one single aspect of your life that you have found hard/not enjoyed.

lol, only in the distant past. I can generally get over things these days.

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realicetic

lol. my psychiatrist is referring me to a psychotherapist thingy when i go to uni. just someone to stress at!!!
some of my friends were shocked that I was depressed cos i am always smiling too. :smile:

tis like leading a double life.
thanks for saying uni is ok,
xxx

My friends at uni are great but i don't know how much they can deal with. How many people can cope with a friend with depression. I know when things get bad i'm not a nice person to be around. Very few of my friends have stuck around to help me through the really bad times. But i'm a lot better since i've been at uni. Lots of my problems were related to living at home so that helps with some of it.

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Sarky

My friends at uni are great but i don't know how much they can deal with. How many people can cope with a friend with depression. I know when things get bad i'm not a nice person to be around. Very few of my friends have stuck around to help me through the really bad times. But i'm a lot better since i've been at uni. Lots of my problems were related to living at home so that helps with some of it.

Well, she was a self-confessed manic depressive; but then, she was "open" to me only on a relativistic basis, inasmuch as I actually knew of her condition: she always seemed to crunch enough pills that it didn't surface publicly, nor impair our friendship (such as it was). Indeed, she hardly but alluded to it, out of context. If nothing else, it compounded my manifest compulsion to "help" her, and the subsequent futility I felt at having been spurned. *sigh*

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britishseapower

I usually turn to drink wouldn't recommend it like **** for ure health, expensive and alcohol is a depressant so it just makes u worse I'm not trying to convert anyone or anything but since I started going to church my mental health has been miles better

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britishseapower

I listen to music alot as well that helps me alot when I'm feeling down

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britishseapower

I usually turn to drink wouldn't recommend it like **** for ure health, expensive and alcohol is a depressant so it just makes u worse I'm not trying to convert anyone or anything but since I started going to church my mental health has been miles better

What about as a means to catalyse or facilitate catharsis? In studied moderation, alcohol has been to me nonetheless a God-send.

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britishseapower

sorry I'm pissed at the minute so I don't have a clue what you just said you have to speak in basic terms yeah alcohol is good very ****ing good but its a short term solution to a long term problem

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Archkinkist

I'm at uni at the moment for the second time; doing a different course. But the last two weeks I've been properly depressed. It doesn't help that my sleep patterns have been all over the place including waking at 7pm last night, and staying up all night quite a lot. I've been feeling like last year wanting not to be at uni because I'm an incredibly childishly lazy person who doesn't work anymore despite having enormous talent. I was getting over it but it's coming back...I'm going to see the Counselling service here in Sheffi tomorrow to get my life sorted out but things aren't going well so I feel for you. I'm even having a tough patch with my Longdistance girlfriend with whom tomorrow is our first anniversary. :frown:

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annabellewalter