Coping with depression

britishseapower

sorry I'm pissed at the minute so I don't have a clue what you just said you have to speak in basic terms yeah alcohol is good very ****ing good but its a short term solution to a long term problem

If your proposed short-term solution is escapism, yes: the "escapism" facilitated by alcohol, though an indispensible panacea, is of course as ephemeral as it is transitory. However, I preferably employ alcohol as a catalyst to catharsis; in simple terms: it helps me to have a good cry. Such emotional purges are not, as distinct from the escapism, explicitly symptomatic of one's alcohol consumption, and may as such yield lasting benefits, even after the "buoyancy" subsides.

And, if I may apologise for the syntax: I don't do - and never have done - 'basic terms' particularly well, I'm afraid.

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britishseapower

14

I'll read it when I'm sobre but thanx anyway

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FlutterByKisses

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realicetic

Hey, I was jst wondering if any one suffers from depression, nd if so what u do with urselves when things become unbearable?!! Its so annoying cos no one else i know has any clue how i feel nd so their advice never really works!!!
xxx :smile:

i've had depression for years, and have counselling for it. (went today in fact). Things are slowly getting better, am now down to just booking in with my counsellor every couple of weeks or so compared to when i used to go twice a week. I went through eating disorders and self harm as well as crying all the time, and just, well, feeling lost.

However, am slowly getting over it, I think my bf has had a big part in getting me over the worst things, and if anything was to happen between us that would result in us breaking up or anything i would probably more than likely revert back to my old ways. To be honest with this eating and self harm I can't quite figure out if I stopped for him, or for myself.....

If anyone wants to talk to me about anything, then feel free to pm me. I help out a mate of mine and she helps me by sending long e-mails to eachother, if anyone wants to send me a really long e-mail then feel free. if you want my e-mail addy pm me. Sometimes its useful to talk. Thats what I found. and I also found it a lot easier to talk by type rather than by voice, so if anyone wants anyone to contact, then feel free. :smile:

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white_haired_wizard

16

Theres a big difference between depression and feeling down - i had it (depression) last term for 10 weeks but this was manufactured because of a drug i was on for my skin...it took me a while to admit this to myself, i kept trying to see what problem was and how to combat it but it wouldnt go away) - i was fine before medication and now, I took myself off it - it really fúcked me up and i felt dreadful - otherwise i would consider i only ever get 'down' - to feel better i put some music on, eat chocolate....but my personality can be down because i love having a laugh - laughter makes the world go round and sense of humour does, and at this moment in my life i don't have it half as much as i would like - so i get down because my personality is woefully frustrated and wasted with ppl at uni who aren't really me. But apart from a 10week spell pre-xmas 04 (which felt forever and was depression)....i don't have it or get it, unless something 'tragic' (well for me it would have to be a death in the family etc - i understand some get it for little reason/no explanation - innate depression et al..i have no doubts about that) - i just get píssed off with life from time to time because i am probably wasting myself - a major part is lectures and seminars in the education which do nothing for me - its boring, ppl are solemn, it needs livening up but ppl don't seem too bothered to throw in a joke or whatever. arghh.

Depression is horrendous and i wouldnt wish that on anyone. I had it last term at uni, felt like shít, looked like a drug addict, felt completely lost, and ppl laughed and stared at me because i was so fúcked up - had to present myself in front of a group, lost the plot completely. Thankfully thats behind me, with no real lasting effects. One of those periods and ive got a drug to thank for that.

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white_haired_wizard

16

Having said that, i haven't lost faith in humanity - i think a girl in the group picked up on it, the only one in the group who happened to approach me, and at least say hello and start chatting - i was ok with that, but even then i really struggled because i felt in no way social, or at the time socially-capable. She's a really nice person, it's nice to see some people can understand and recogníse shít that many ppl don't see. I had a very bad attitude on me at times during that period, at one point giving a rebellious, un-called for, shítty attitude to my tutor - that was a first for a boy outlined as "remarkably polite and courteous, a boy who will go far" in many school reports. That period was an utter utter nightmare, and looking back on it, i did remarkably well to cope the way i did...no-one knew about it, except my parents - kept it from my housemates, but they wouldnt understand - they're not like that. I'm quite reserved with unfamiliars but i surprised myself by nearly breaking down in front of my supervisor whom i had only met a couple of times previous in the last 18 months! I kept my head, but only just. Depression is very dark....and downright horrendous.

But im happy now, but píssed off every now and then! So much so, im getting a punchbag for next term! Thinking back now, i do shudder because it was the most tiring, fatiguing and soul destroying time of my life....but its over.

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Profesh

20

Crikey. Someone fetch this lad a cup of tea.

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annabellewalter

1

You should read my blog. Its even more depressing than that!

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Sarky

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annabellewalter

You should read my blog. Its even more depressing than that!

So is mine! Although it doesn't come across as that. Here's the link to it My depressive blog!

Feedback welcome if anyone can be bothered to read it.

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white_haired_wizard

16

Im sorry!

The lads alright now! It was a bad period. end of story though now.

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Profesh

20

Designed by Life; Endorsed by Me: it's as pretentious as it purports to be!

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Profesh

20

annabellewalter

You should read my blog. Its even more depressing than that!

Shall I take this under advisement, or will you be providing a link?

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shootingstar

I find music helps me a lot, and being either outside or around people. Try to avoid alienating yourself, much as you'd probably want to.

excercise is also good cos theres a link between the release of endorphins (the feel good chemical) and excercise.

other than that, its a case of finding out what helps you. It's different for everyone.

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Mad Vlad

19

I'm coping with depression at the moment... sometimes it can get really hard :frown:

I'm seeing a counsellor at the moment and I feel that I'm making progress. I'm sort of on the crest of a wave at the minute... riding quite high but at any point the whells could fall off and send me crashing back down again :frown:

I'm trying to stay positive though and do stuff that I enjoy - like listen to music, see my friends etc. If I feel really down, i talk to one of my best friends and they help me feel a lot better. Its probably because the support they give means so much because of the connection I have with them.

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