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Too scared to give head...

Ok, me and the boyfriend have been going out for about 2 months now, madly in love..... i've recently lost my virginity to him - but i still can't bring myself to go down on him!

My last boyfriend kept bugging me to do it, and said that I could borrow his housemates 'guide' if i was rubbish - and it just made me scared!

I mean, he's gone down on me and everything's great - and i really wish I could return the favour without feeling so weird about it - and I'm scared he's just thinking he's never going to get it... i really want to make him happy

i dunno i'm scared of looking like an idiot (i know it's stupid!) - and the whole, do i keep going till he comes, or do i give him a handjob too... do i finish him off my hand or swallow or whatever....... sorry if this sounds like it's turning into me asking for tips, but i'm just scared i'm going to do it wrong, at the same time i don't want to leave it much longer...


Can anyone help?! :o:

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You can pm me if you like and chat about it? I don't want to post anything too risky..
Reply 2
Just do what you feel comfortable with, i'm sure he's not gonna complain either way whether you finish him with your mouth or hand!

Or you could ask him what he'd prefer? If that'd make you feel less nervous
The best advice I can give is when you do feel comfortable about doing it, just do what comes naturally
Ask him what he wants you to do, and what feels nice
If hes a good boyfriend, he'll make you feel comfortable and it'll be great

My first time I wasn't too sure what I was doing, I think with experience your confidence comes
Remember not to do anything you feel uneasy about, just what you want to
Reply 4
trust he wont complain even if ur not that good, its still head ha
Does he know why you're so scared of it? If you've never done it before then he can't expect you to be amazing, surely? :s-smilie:
Get him to direct you and let you know what he likes etc. That'll make it easier for you. And, if at any point you're finding it really unpleasant, then have a break. It's not something that should be all stressful and high-pressure for you.
tropical-twist3
You can pm me if you like and chat about it? I don't want to post anything too risky..


Can I PM you too? Haha.
Basically suffering from the same thing.
Lost my virginity to my boyfriend and he goes down on me, but I'm just so scared of 'getting it wrong'. I have no idea what to do or how to do it well.
Hmm I was scared too put it off for months, finally did it today, I was well nervous but boyf directed me on what he liked and just got into it, obviously it will get better with practice. Just relax and dont feel pressured into it at all
Reply 8
your ex bf has put yourconfidence down alot by telling you you can use his mates guide
sorry but he sounds pathetic
u shudnt worry about it so much
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Anonymous
Can I PM you too? Haha.
Basically suffering from the same thing.
Lost my virginity to my boyfriend and he goes down on me, but I'm just so scared of 'getting it wrong'. I have no idea what to do or how to do it well.

yeah sure :smile:
Ah god I know how you feel I was like that with my ex, I never actually did do it but yeah it just scared me that id do things wrong and stuff. I thought maybe it would be easier if we had sex before hand, but we didnt do that either, but judging from what you say, it's still scary.

Ah :s-smilie:
Reply 11
It's not gonna jump up and poke you in the eye, you know.
This is why God invented flavoured condoms. The answer to every problem in the bedroom.
Just bite the bullet ( not the cock) ovbiously your not going to pro , hes not going to be expecting you to handle him like his favorite porn star, just dont think about it do what feels natural and ask for some gentle instructions, also a great tip most men like it when you look them in the eyes. Anyhoo if all else fails have a glass (no more) of wine before to loosen up, might sound like bad advice but meh its what you want to hear.
Reply 14
OP just ask him to tell you what to do or tell you what he likes. apparenty some guys like doing that so if he finds it a turn on. . bonus :yy:

just make sure he knows this will be your first time doing it so he is more understanding
Me and my boyfriend did it to each otha at the same time. makin it less awkward! it was good for both ov us :wink:
toxic.waste
trust he wont complain even if ur not that good, its still head ha


Spoken like a true head virgin. There's such a thing as 'crap head'.

OP just go with the flow (no pun).
Same! I asked my bf to direct me and he goes 'just assume that if I don't cry out in pain it's all going well'-well that's a great help isn't it! :rolleyes:
i used to be scared too and couldnt bring myself to do it! the only thing you can do is go for it, and once you're over the hurdle you'll be a lot calmer about it
OP you are probably thinking about it too much :yep:

It's pretty hard to give a guy bad oral, unless you manage to bite him (unless they are into that kinda thing).

But if it doesn't feel right then you don't have to do anything that you are uncomfortable with. Thinking that you should do it just adds pressure, which will make things worse.

If it happens, it happens. Don't force yourself to try it, if the mood takes you during foreplay then just go for it, I'm sure your guy won't complain!

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