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Judge me! -no social life

I know we shouldn't care about what other people think of us...but let's put that aside for now.
If you knew someone had no friends, no social life, no job (just goes to uni) would you think they are weird? or like something wrong with them?

Even when I was friendly with some people at uni, they'd always ask me what I did on the weekend and stuff. My answer was always like "well nothing", because it's true. Then it was all awkward. People our age are suppose to have loads of friends (at least one! lol) and go out and stuff.

Don't tell me to join societies/make friends, etc. I'm not interested in that. I'm interested in how you perceive people like myself (no friends, no social life). A bit weird? off putting?

btw. I'm not some fat lazy slob, I consider myself fairly nice and I'm not a 'dark' character or anything...

anon please, I'm enough of a loser :o:

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Reply 1

Cynical Optimist

Probably consider you as a 'bit weird, but quite nice ' sorta person... why are you worried if you don't want friends anyway?

Reply 2

clevergirl

You're just someone who prefers their own company, like me :smile:

If not having any friends is worrying you then practice your charisma and social skills in the mirror...like the Sims do!!

Reply 3

Kay.Tey

I wouldn't think anything of it to be honest, just that you like spending time alone. I'd only be concerned if you wasn't happy with the way your were but if you are then who am I to judge? And to be honest, if you said you did 'nothing' on the weekend i wouldn't really assume you have no friends, social life, job etc. Most people don't care enough to go that far and i doubt they would find it off putting, so relax, if you are happy then thats all that matters :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Cynical Optimist

Probably consider you as a 'bit weird, but quite nice ' sorta person... why are you worried if you don't want friends anyway?

I never said I didn't want friends :frown:

Just dont want this thread to be about "how to get friends"

Reply 5

geminilady

id say ur abit quiet but it just be careful that you dont give the wrong impression when you reply "well nothing" cause it might seem that you dont want to continue the conversation, just my 2c though!

Reply 6

Cynical Optimist

Anonymous

I never said I didn't want friends :frown:

Just dont want this thread to be about "how to get friends"

Oh, sorry, I thought that's what you meant. In that case, I think as long as you're happy with the way things are, no one else should have a problem, but I don't think you should get too into the idea that you're a 'person with no friends', cos that could stop you making a couple of good friendships in the future...

Reply 7

Ed.

My friend is like this a little, as much as I do tease her for not coming out drinking etc. in reality you just have to do what makes you happy.

Reply 8

MSB

It's not off-putting that you don't have any friends, but it is off-putting that you value yourself by this (in the same way that it's off-putting when people value themselves by having lots of friends).

Reply 9

SSze

what do you do on weekends?? just sit and do nothing? well thats sitting.. how do you do nothing?

Reply 10

bombproof_girl

If you said you were doing nothing at the weekend I'd invite you along with me! It would be a riot lol. I wouldn't think you were weird by the way.

Reply 11

Annie72

I would think you are a shy person, not weird or anything.

Reply 12

noggins

I'd probably think you sounded like me XD

I've got no strong interest in pubs, clubs, working too. We're the saaaammmme, man.

Reply 13

McCoy

Well you've got to do something at the weekend, why not say what. You must read, or go on-line, or spend time with your family, or go for walks... 'Nothing' I'd find quite offputting as an answer when clearly you do *something*. It might sound like you're avoiding the question or not answering straight. Even a simple "Oh, I did nothing - just had a relaxing weekend in" sounds a bit better, like you're still communicating what you did :smile:

Reply 14

carrotboy

I would happily talk to you. I don't care if anyone has no friends, if I get on with them that is all that matters.

Reply 15

Kay.Tey

Yeah, maybe even add..."what did you get up to?" etc to keep the flow because replying 'nothing' is quite blunt and people might assume you aren't interested

Reply 16

Malsy

yes I would because I KNOW I am weird.

Reply 17

FAILINGKID

umm to be honest.... i would judge u as a complete boring person,i mean u do nothing at weekends which is really boring so IMO i wouldnt go out with u if i knew u..... sorry just trying to be honest

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

Malsi101

yes I would because I KNOW I am weird.

Are you in a similar situation?

Reply 19

LurkerintheDark

Well, I don't have a smashing social life, to be honest. I have a few mates, however almost none in my own school year (there are far more girls than boys in my year for some reason); some are in uni and some are in year 12. I go out to my local almost every week, but I'm usually the youngest there by a country mile; having said that, you can have a good time there. Speaking of the country, living in a rural village, with only 5 or 6 or other boys of roughly my own age living in it (and most of them dropped out of education at 16, and so go to a different college), it means the mates I do have usually live over 5 miles from my house (and I can't yet drive). However, when a group of us do get together, we have a great time, for instance New Year's Eve was bloody brilliant.

However, given that you're in university, surrounded by plenty of people your own age, friendships should spring up quickly enough. I hope that when I go to uni, there's plently of oppertunities for a marvellous social life!

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