Reasons for breaking up

What are the reasons you have broken up with people for in the past or their reasons for breaking up with you? With my first g/f it was alot of reasons, as she was my first g/f I was really lacking in experience and hardly arranged to meet up with her or anything and found it hard to take the initiative to kiss her and stuff. I was also too shy at the time to meet up with her friends plus I was feeling a bit depressed for various reasons so it just came to an end. Wasn't a bad break up or anything but we don't see each other anymore.

Reply 1

northern_lass

1

i broke up with my first b/f coz of pretty much the same reasons, i wasnt really sure what i wanted, and he didnt ever seem to take that much od an interest. we only really saw each other in college and only went out 1nce wen we wer together for 2 months. i met his friends and he met mine, but it just didnt seem to fit. iv been single for over a year now, iv dated ppl but nothings ever really gone further, but i think im ready for a relationship again now.

Reply 2

britishseapower

OP

14

I'm not sure if I'm ready I've been single for 2 years but I met this girl recently and we both liked each other but I tried too hard to learn from my mistakes with my first g/f i.e. I was trying to be open with her all the time and communicate with her and stuff and because I don't have any female friends and because I lack experience with girls; when I'm with a girl I like I just want her as a g/f I couldn't be friends with her first then see if things developed I was just sort of pressing for us to go out. I've learnt from that as well now though but think its too late. I still think about her quite a bit though so I don't think I'm ready for anyone else just yet.

Reply 3

northern_lass

1

i have quite a few lad mates now, i didnt wen i was with my previous b/fs, and i think thats helped me a lot. i feel a lot more confident around guys now and iv always got them ther for a lads perspective ( i tend to over analyse things a bit!). i no wot its like to think about your ex, my last bf was verry hard to get over, but iv changed a lot recently and i no iv moved on, so i feel ready for a new relationship now, i just always seem to go for the wrong guys. the last few guys iv been interested in/ had a thing with have all had gfs, which i didnt no at the time, so i feel a bit messed around. i no im ready for something new now tho.

Reply 4

Acaila

17

Boyfriend #1 - He moved to the other end of the country
Boyfriend #2 - His best friend started spreading some stuff about me, which my bf believed (completely untrue I might add)
Boyfriend #3 - Cheated, and then blamed me for everything.

Reply 5

pink_angel

britishseapower

What are the reasons you have broken up with people for in the past or their reasons for breaking up with you? With my first g/f it was alot of reasons, as she was my first g/f I was really lacking in experience and hardly arranged to meet up with her or anything and found it hard to take the initiative to kiss her and stuff. I was also too shy at the time to meet up with her friends plus I was feeling a bit depressed for various reasons so it just came to an end. Wasn't a bad break up or anything but we don't see each other anymore.

i just get bored really easily. i try to make it last, but can't help gettin bored.

Reply 6

britishseapower

OP

14

northern_lass

i no wot its like to think about your ex, my last bf was verry hard to get over, but iv changed a lot recently and i no iv moved on, so i feel ready for a new relationship now.

I think about my ex g/f occasionally but I think thats only natural, I don't feel as though my thoughts of her would affect any future relationship. As for the girl I like and who I was sort of dating, although it sort of came to an end I still really like her so I don't want to forget about her and besides, her and her family always come to the bar where I work so I couldn't if I wanted to. I don't txt her anymore though or arrange to meet up with her, I've been good that way because I've been so tempted to txt her a few times but I know I should just let it go.

Reply 7

lou p lou

2

bf #1: neither of us took it seriously, we hardly ever saw each other, we argued a lot, oh and he asked another girl out

bf #2: he had another gf he forgot to mention...

bf #3: he was my best friend. we had a great relationship. had a stupid argument and accidently split up (we discussed it since and both admitted we're not quite sure how it happened)

bf #4: still together...

lou xxx

Reply 8

Sparkey

15

1st Boyfriend when I was 9 told me his brother died in a car crash. Imagin my suprise when I saw the dead brother cleaning my nans windows the next day :frown:

2nd Boyfriend (when I was 14) gave my phone number out to all his friends, who pestered me with phone calls

3rd Boyfriend (when I was 16) asked me to marry him I said no, he basically told me to Eff off

4th Boyfriend (When I was 16) I cheated on him :redface:

5th and Current Boyfriend Broke up with him because we never saw each other and he kept emailling me naked pics of himself :frown:

But I got back together with him a month a go and no nudie pics yet :biggrin:

and I just realised I have a bad track record for dating *Hides under a rock* :frown:

Reply 9

Ricci

My last girlfriend broke up with me over the phone on the first night of her holiday to Spain. Her reasons were 'I dont feel like it's working.. Dont want to get too involved when you are going to university in September'. I wouldnt consider myself pessimistic, but you can imagine the reason I believe it was. All of her friends assured me she was telling the truth, but im still quite skeptical. To make it worse, she refuses to talk to me now. Oh well.. such is life :frown:

Reply 10

Splinter

My previous gf got too clingy and called me alll the time and it just got weird. So i had to break it off.

Reply 11

eurasianfeline

13

my ex cheated on me with my friend. we became friends afterwards but when he found out about my new bf recently...he started giving me **** and we're not talking anymore cos he said he's very "pissed and hurt". Somehow makes me think he might have forgotten that he was the reason i left him in the first place before my new bf even existed in my life. as for the "friend", w're no longer friends cos she honestly doesn't care and has no remorse over what she did. she's the type of person who sleeps around with anyone she meets at the bar anyway...and it's sth i find difficult to understand / tolerate.

Reply 12

Sophdoph

1

Boyf 1 - a completely obsessive nutter and I got too freaked out for words and ended it (although he didnt believe that for about a year and still obsessively called me and stuff..)

Boyf 2 - only went out with to get attention of boyf 3 and was rebounding from boyf 1. He didn't like the fact I didn't give him my full and undivided attention. I.e. flirted with boy soon to be boyf 3, and I didn't like him full stop :biggrin:

Only lasted a few weeks unsuprisingly.

Boyf 3 - still together and will be for a long time :smile:

I love him very much.

Reply 13

F. Poste

I broke up with most of them because I realised I didn't really love them. There were usually other factors involved though, which I won't go into..

The one exception I dumped because he was messing me around and I was too proud to put up with it, even though I was mad about him. I didn't want to be with someone who didn't respect me and treat me properly, even I was heartbroken at the time.

Reply 14

Angel_Cake

2

1st...we grew apart and he started to like my friend more than me. (They're now together)

2nd...realised we didn't have much in common really, and we lived too far apart.

3rd...we were great as friends, disastrous as a couple - and I was on the rebound, he was in love with my best friend! (They also later got together - I see a pattern forming...)

4th...told me he wasn't interested in relationships at all because he really didn't enjoy being in them!

I too tend to be a bit of a disaster in love...of the above I'm only in contact with one (the 3rd), and even then we're hardly "friends" :frown:

Reply 15

roff

2

One time I was drunk and this girl asked me out so I said ok. Then when I met her for our first date I realised she was mingin so I broke up with her but I was very gentlemannish about it and I paid for her bus fare to go back home, then I went and chilled with some mates

Reply 16

Profesh

20

Well, among other things, she don't put out no more when I pulls her lever, like.

Reply 17

Makavelli_07

ramroff

One time I was drunk and this girl asked me out so I said ok. Then when I met her for our first date I realised she was mingin so I broke up with her but I was very gentlemannish about it and I paid for her bus fare to go back home, then I went and chilled with some mates

Pretty much the same thing happened with me. I ended up pulling a girl i was good friends with at a mates party before, and at some stage in the night she asked me out and i said yes. I woke up the next morning, and i didn't even remember. The first thing i knew of it was when she text me telling me she was coming over to see me later, so i asked my mates and they told me.

I just told her the truth, gave her taxi fair and went back inside. :smile:

Fortunately we're still good friends though. :biggrin:

I seem to break up with most of my girlfirends because i get bored very quickly, or end up cheating, or end up liking another girl.

I'm a bad person. :frown:

Reply 18

Ziggy Stardust

Makavelli_07

I'm a bad person. :frown:

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!

I'm sure you're not! *re-affirms manly stance* :redface:

Reply 19

BlackHawk

17

1st....(2 years)we went to uni and he cheated on me
2nd....(6 months)nice guy, turned into an alcoholic though
3rd....(8 months)workfriend, turned abusive a few months into the relationship
4th...(1 year) current fiance, perfect in every way. Yet to have an arguement.

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