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Parents ignore the fact I'm gay...
Basically, I came out about a year ago, and told my parents six months ago.
I have a lot of female friends, and my best friend is female... and as I talk to her a lot on the phone and meet up with her and the like, my parents seem to think we're in a relationship... it's like they are ignoring the fact that I told them I was gay and are hoping they may be onto something... of course I deny that we are in a relationship... and really want to just shout out "I'm gay so of course we're not!!" but it seems strangely inappropriate
Just not sure what to do, any advice would be helpful
I have a lot of female friends, and my best friend is female... and as I talk to her a lot on the phone and meet up with her and the like, my parents seem to think we're in a relationship... it's like they are ignoring the fact that I told them I was gay and are hoping they may be onto something... of course I deny that we are in a relationship... and really want to just shout out "I'm gay so of course we're not!!" but it seems strangely inappropriate
Just not sure what to do, any advice would be helpful
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does it matter? at least they're not hating you for it
well then dont shout out "I'm gay so of course we're not!!" , just say it
You've told them. How does it matter anymore?
Nothing to be worried about really...
'least theyre not trying to burn you.
'least theyre not trying to burn you.
I can out to my parents almost two years ago now, and apart from the initial week where it was completely crazy, it's never really been brought up again.
My mum sometimes cleans my room, and she obviously sees my gay mags and condoms and stuff (I can't really be bothered hiding them, and why should I? It's my personal space), and says nothing. But then the next day she says "You should wear that new top, all the girls will be swarming you" or something to that effect.
It's really annoying. I wish they'd just acknowledge the fact, and learn to live with it.
My mum sometimes cleans my room, and she obviously sees my gay mags and condoms and stuff (I can't really be bothered hiding them, and why should I? It's my personal space), and says nothing. But then the next day she says "You should wear that new top, all the girls will be swarming you" or something to that effect.
It's really annoying. I wish they'd just acknowledge the fact, and learn to live with it.
Maybe just simply ask them why they ignore the fact you've told them?
They'll probably tell you they think it's a "phase" - I had a female friend in a similar situation who got told that :/
I reckon you just need to sit with them and explain how very wrong they are, and they need to consider your feelings - effectively it's like calling a straight person gay!
They'll probably tell you they think it's a "phase" - I had a female friend in a similar situation who got told that :/
I reckon you just need to sit with them and explain how very wrong they are, and they need to consider your feelings - effectively it's like calling a straight person gay!
I came out to my parents close to 2 years ago. My sexuality never gets mentioned either and my parents do seem to think I'm going out with a lot of my female friends. If anything my brother is the most comfortable with it. But like someone else said, it's better than them hating you or completely disowning you. As long as you're free to be your own person and they're happy to think what they want to think, it's sort of no-harm no-foul.
Psycho0101
You've told them. How does it matter anymore?
Yes.
Personally I don't see the need for this 'coming out' nonsense. My parents know absolutely nothing about my sex life, and I don't particularly have any interest in sharing it. Why others make a big song and dance about it just because they happen to like doing it to a different gender is beyond me.
ABF
I can out to my parents almost two years ago now, and apart from the initial week where it was completely crazy, it's never really been brought up again.
My mum sometimes cleans my room, and she obviously sees my gay mags and condoms and stuff (I can't really be bothered hiding them, and why should I? It's my personal space), and says nothing. But then the next day she says "You should wear that new top, all the girls will be swarming you" or something to that effect.
It's really annoying. I wish they'd just acknowledge the fact, and learn to live with it.
My mum sometimes cleans my room, and she obviously sees my gay mags and condoms and stuff (I can't really be bothered hiding them, and why should I? It's my personal space), and says nothing. But then the next day she says "You should wear that new top, all the girls will be swarming you" or something to that effect.
It's really annoying. I wish they'd just acknowledge the fact, and learn to live with it.
That's a bit much... gay or straight, there's no need to expose your mum to porn and condoms, and it's hardly a private space if you let her in to clean it...
RightSaidJames
That's a bit much... gay or straight, there's no need to expose your mum to porn and condoms, and it's hardly a private space if you let her in to clean it...
I am concerned with the fact that his mum cleans his room
OP - I think you are making a fuss out of nothing.
L i b
Yes.
Personally I don't see the need for this 'coming out' nonsense. My parents know absolutely nothing about my sex life, and I don't particularly have any interest in sharing it. Why others make a big song and dance about it just because they happen to like doing it to a different gender is beyond me.
Personally I don't see the need for this 'coming out' nonsense. My parents know absolutely nothing about my sex life, and I don't particularly have any interest in sharing it. Why others make a big song and dance about it just because they happen to like doing it to a different gender is beyond me.
It is quite necessary to come out, because in the future if you get serious with someone, male or female, you would want to feel comfortable in telling your parents.
Maybe you should sit your parents back down and say you feel its hurting your feelings by not accepting you as you are. Like someone else has said, like calling a straight guy gay.
RightSaidJames
That's a bit much... gay or straight, there's no need to expose your mum to porn and condoms, and it's hardly a private space if you let her in to clean it...
It's not porn, it's like Gay Times and Attitude.
And I tell her not to, because I don't like people moving my stuff about, but she does it anyway.
ABF
It's not porn, it's like Gay Times and Attitude.
And I tell her not to, because I don't like people moving my stuff about, but she does it anyway.
And I tell her not to, because I don't like people moving my stuff about, but she does it anyway.
Well I suppose that's OK then... but what kind of maniac leaves condoms in plain view?
ABF
It's not porn, it's like Gay Times and Attitude.
And I tell her not to, because I don't like people moving my stuff about, but she does it anyway.
And I tell her not to, because I don't like people moving my stuff about, but she does it anyway.
What do you think of the cute guy on the cover of this month's Gay Times?
How old are you btw? I feel wierd when anyone cleans my room ... it is something that I should do ...
Lord Hysteria
What do you think of the cute guy on the cover of this month's Gay Times?
How old are you btw? I feel wierd when anyone cleans my room ... it is something that I should do ...
How old are you btw? I feel wierd when anyone cleans my room ... it is something that I should do ...
The guy in the purple diesel pants? He's alright; I prefer the other guy in the same photo shoot though.
I'm 17.
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