Self Image Problems

How do you deal with problems in your own self image?
I need to change the way i see myself, to something realistic rather than my automatic self loathing i always seem to think.
I need to find a way to sort this out, i don't want to be so screwed up in the head about myself any more.

Are you talking purely about the physical side? I presume you know there is actually a psychological disease where people see themselves as hideous when they're not? Do you think that might be an issue?

How do you deal with problems in your own self image?
I need to change the way i see myself, to something realistic rather than my automatic self loathing i always seem to think.
I need to find a way to sort this out, i don't want to be so screwed up in the head about myself any more.

well, maybe you should try and think about why you loathe yourself, if you do this might help. although i dont why you do tbh, you seem like a cool guy.

Thats an easy one. Because i'm fat and ugly, i'm a completely stupid idiot with an awful personality, and i'm totally and utterly evil.

I used to hate the way I looked as well. I know guys don't like to give the impression that they *gasp* actually care about the way they look and make an effort, but I found that by overhauling the way I looked I felt much more positive when I looked in the mirror.
I wasn't overweight as such but I lost weight, my skin was a bit of a mess so I went to a dermatologist, I was looking quite pale so went on sunbeds (yes I know the cancer, but try denying you don't look 10 times healthier tanned than normal), I got a new haircut, got some new clothes. And by the end of it I had so much more confidence, and I still do.
Yes it all sounds quite expensive and dare I say girly but I can honestly say I'm happy when I look in the mirror. If most people tried to make the best of the way they looked then they could look much better than they naturally do, most people aren't naturally gorgeous. I used to have so many problems that when I went out, say shopping, when I went in a shop I would automatically do a quick scan of the whole shop, identify where the mirrors were, and then made sure I didnt catch sight of myself in them, cos if i thought i looked bad in them it would ruin my day and I would want to go home. And for about 4 years that became a natural reflex, I stopped thinking about it and did it automatically.
So I know it sounds like a lot of effort, but if you spend a bit of time on yourself you can make yourself look a lot better, and Im not talking make-up here lol. And it doesn't make u gay to care about how u look cos I know some guys are gonna pop up and say stuff, but let's face it, everyone likes to think they're nice looking, its human nature

you are not totally and utterly evil. as far as i know you dont eat your cat for breakfast or anything, that would be evil! honestly, if i thought you were, then i wouldnt have bothered replying to this thread.

Why not do things do make you feel better and increase your confidence. Things which work for me include buying new clothes and products which make me feel better as i look better.

I do make an effort with my appearence, and people have thought i was gay on a annoyingly large number of occasions, but i still think i look just as bad.

Would it? Why would that be evil?

I think of my self as ugly, but people say that i'm not. I just try to blend into teh background, by not making much effort to stand out. One day I had my hair different and everyone goes 'you look so nice'. I hated them saying nice things about me so, now i am back to blending in. I don't knwo why I don't like compliments. Maybe I am just sad at the moment becasue of the big amount of depressing homeowork I have. Sorry, I am not much help.