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    Hia
    i need your help,
    i ve been going out with my bf for 2 years now,
    and now in a position where our realationship,
    could all end.
    i went on holiday to aurtralia for one month,
    it was all hugs and kisses at he airport,
    and off i went.
    a month later when i come back,
    my friends are all acting strange towards me,
    too kind.
    about after one week of me coming back,
    i got a phone call of some one crying,
    it was my bf.
    what was wrong?
    he said he got in to bed with georgena,
    my best friend!
    i cant believe it,
    i am definitly not talking to georgena,
    but i dont know wheater i should continue with my bf,
    i love him,
    and he loves me,
    what shall i do?
    please help me.

    if u have had sex with him carry on
    if not dump him

    (Original post by hikk)
    if u have had sex with him carry on
    if not dump him
    dont be tight
    listen if u think u wanna carry on with him, u do so, if u think he will do it again, dump him.]
    i think georgena is a *****, do u agree?
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    She's a *****... maybe
    But she's a complete jerk... of course
    If he really loves you he wouldn't do something like that, its obvious...

    (Original post by happy!)
    dont be tight
    listen if u think u wanna carry on with him, u do so, if u think he will do it again, dump him.]
    i think georgena is a *****, do u agree?
    i totally agree, i once had a well fiit boy friend, and my best mate kept telling me to dump him so she could have, how cheeky is that!!! is she a ***** or wot!

    (Original post by Eternal Idol)
    She's a *****... maybe
    But she's a complete jerk... of course
    If he really loves you he wouldn't do something like that, its obvious...
    tell me wot 2 do
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    follow your heart!!
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    Kick his ass ...
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    Talk to him about it - your relationship won't work if you can't trust each other, and I doubt anyone would trust their bf after they do something silly like that. In my humble opinion, he is not worth your love anymore.
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    (Original post by donnaxx)
    follow your heart!!
    I agree with donna, it's your heart, it's your decision...do what YOU think is best.
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    (Original post by lovely)
    tell me wot 2 do
    Unfortunately noone can tell you what to do, you have to decide what is best for you.
    Can you trust him?
    If not are you willing to continue on w/ him w/ the fear he may cheat again or may have already.
    Ultimately the decission lies in your hands. Do what makes you happy!
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    (Original post by king of swords)
    I agree with donna, it's your heart, it's your decision...do what YOU think is best.
    But but - if she knew what is best, she wouldn't have come here so confused and unsure of what to do!!!
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    (Original post by Adhsur)
    But but - if she knew what is best, she wouldn't have come here so confused and unsure of what to do!!!
    yeah but she is better placed than the rest of us...it IS down to whether she can trust him or not....only she can say whether she does or not.
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    (Original post by king of swords)
    yeah but she is better placed than the rest of us...it IS down to whether she can trust him or not....only she can say whether she does or not.
    True true...of course the end decision is hers, but we should still give her opinions and criteria which may help her decide. Of course, we'd never know all the odds and ends of the situation, so in light of everything she'd be the best judge.
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    A bit of diversication here - I dont usually advise on matters of the heart.

    Ok don't make any quick decisions, I'ts hard not to be angry both at your boyfriend and your friend, but don't let your anger mess up your freiendships with them both.

    Talk to them both and try to resist the urge to scream "how could you do this to me!" - it wont help the situation. You said your boyfriend was crying on the phone, it sounds like he feels really bad about it, so try not to make him feel any worse.

    Most likely they both feel guilty and wish they had never done it, so talk to them both about anything you feel you need to and try and make sure everyone feels a bit better about things. It will take a while for you to regain your trust of both of the but if your boyfriend loves you and you love him you should be alright.

    Try to work out why your boy friend did this - this will depend on the exact sexual nature of your relationship - but if he just wanted some sex while you were away buy him some porn mags or something the next time you go away or even better make some of yourself so he can remember you by.

    Helping your friend might be a bit more difficult, maybe you could help her find a boyfriend or something.

    On the otherhand if you think your boyfriend dosnt love you, its a different matter. In any case still dont shout at him, If he feels he wants to be with your best friend rather than you its better you find out now then on your weadding day. Maybe you can still be friends.

    Though if it turns out your boyfriend dosnt really like your friend either and is just sleeping around its probably best you have nothing more to do with him.

    Whatever you do - speak to your friend and boyfriend first. Everyone makes mistakes, and in a good relationship, talking should help you get round them.

    Good luck

    Tom

    PS. What does everyone else think of this advice - i could do with some constructive critism on this sort of stuff :-)

    thanks so much for the advice, i think its really going to help me, u ve helped me more then every one else.
    but the bad news is i have dumped him, i didnt want to do that after 2 years, i have had so much fun with him, he s made me feel so speical, i can remember all the good times together, from the first time we met to the first time he asked me to get in bed with him!
    i feel like crying, i bet he does to, i didnt want it to end this way, i can remember when he used to always joke about geting married and stuff.
    i can still remeber one event, and i think he can to, i dont thnk either of us would forget it.
    the time he asked me and i sed yes! ;(
    thnaks anyway

    hiky
    ps
    do u think i could get to know u, i would like to, u sound just like my bf in the story ;(
    thanks again
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    (Original post by lovely)
    thanks so much for the advice, i think its really going to help me, u ve helped me more then every one else.
    Glad you found it useful, I normally just help out with education and IT based stuff.

    (Original post by lovely)
    but the bad news is i have dumped him
    If you really love him, dont let that put you off. It won't be easy getting back together, but if you both love each other, it will be worth it in the end.

    You might both need some time to think for a while, so you might not want to think about getting back together just yet, but once you feel ready I would advise you to talk with him.

    Even if you don't feel you can get your relationship back to the way before you might still want to talk, just to see if you can stay as friends or work out what went wrong.

    If you dont feel you can talk to him send him a letter or an email rather than talking face to face or on the phone. Just don't make the mistake of assuming that he will get in touch with you - he might think he has caused enough trouble and not want to hurt you anymore.

    In the meantime, do whatever helps you feel better. If you would rather forget about your boyfriend for a while go out with some of your other friends, do something you enjoy, or anything you can to get away from it for a while. If you would rather just think about all the things you've done together and cry about it on your own theres nothing wrong with that - Just make sure you stop if it dosn't make you feel better.

    One last thing - remember guys arn't perfect, and though sleeping with your best friend is a pretty bad thing to do to you, it could be worse. In some ways it is the reasons which are more imporant. When you are both over this whether you are together or not ask your boyfriend why he did it (in a nice friendly, but serious way), the answer will proberbly make you feel a whole lot better.

    (Original post by lovely)

    do u think i could get to know u, i would like to
    Yeah I suppose you could, register and PM me if you like - but i'm usually pretty warey about the people I talk to on the net.

    (Original post by lovely)
    u sound just like my bf in the story ;(
    Maybe I do, but that dosn't mean I am exactly like him, but without his faults - if you got to know me you proberbly wouldn't like me

    Tom
 
 
 
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